Flakey Virgo!!

Virgos please give me your input!!!!
I'm a taurus male & I've known this virgo female for a couple of years now, we went to school (college) together and ended up working for the same employer two years after we graduated. She's really attractive & beautiful and I just saw her as just as a friend and nothing more then that at the time. It wasn't until April of 2014, we would also hangout with each other literally every weekend and text and talk each other and there everyday. At this point I started developing feelings for her more then a friend. As a birthday surprise I took her to a museum and this past Christmas got her a lil necklace and a toy (gag gift) lol. Last year there were two occasions where she wanted to have lunch at this restaurant that she's been wanting to go to for awhile, but I noticed that she'd call or text last minute that she couldn't make it because she couldn't find a baby sitter for her kids. I mean she's be the one to make the plan then call me up last minute with the same excuse. So I stopped making reservations for that place since I already know what the result would be. So let me get straight to the point, in two occasions this year (2015) where I made reservations for brunch at the restaurant in LA that she's been wanting to really go to but then last minute she ends up texting me that she can make it. Like the first time, she was in Santa Barbara with friends watching a concert, I text her the night before (Saturday) to confirm with her that the reservation was @ 2pm and I'd pick her up @ 1:30. She replied and acknowledge it was agreed to it. Sunday comes I get a message at 1:35 from her stating " Hey don't hate me, but we decided to stay an extra night so I don't think we'll I'll be back in time". I found that immature of her to just reply all last minute instead of notifying me earlier, so I called her out on it...she replays with "my apologies"....
The second time was this past V-Day, she told me a week prior that she wasn't doing anything and that we should do something, so I asked her that we should have dinner for v-day and chill. My brother had a 5:30pm reservation to a restaurant but couldn't make it so he gave the reservation to me. Again she agreed. Friday comes along, she ends up texting me telling me that her and girlfriends wanted to watch 50 Shades of Grey movie and start the night off around 6pm, hence the reservation was at 5:30pm in Hollywood. So I relied back that I had canceled the reservation and that s

@J3TSON- I am not a virgo but i do have 2 close virgo female friends. I actually find it strange as to why she keeps cancelling on the plans you make because from what i see, my virgo friends really put their bf/SO/or the guy they like to spend time with as their priority.

It sounds like she has some excuse each time and whats worse is that she doesnt let you know that she cant make it untill last minute and that is immature. If you have already arranged a meeting with someone a day before, you organise yourself according to that.
Out of respect, i would either say "i cant promise lets see what tmorow brings, or simply ask my friends to excuse me as i have a date its not appropriate to cancel, or i wouldnt arrange to go to the cinema with my friends on the same day i am suppose to meet you, if it would cause me to run late.

I cant generalise, but many virgos i have encountered, overanalyze things and she may be just going thru a phase right now evaluating t how much she likes you, will there be a future, there are kids involved as well, where do they stand with the baby daddy? she may feel overwhelmed with how fast things are building and may be looking for personal space. There may be many other possible reasons to her behaviour.

What i would like to ask you is, have you both talked about feelings openly? Do you believe she cares for you?

I see you are trying and if she doesnt appreciate that, you should stop trying. Be straightforward with her and let her know in a kind way that you wont tolerate that again and pull back. If she cares for you,she should come to you with an explanation.

Regardless of whether you like her or not, she's rude! She treats you like crap and makes plans with you until something better comes along.

You are an option.

Even I'm not THAT flakey. Wait a minute, she is flakey AND has kids?!?!?! DROP her!

Here's an "update"

I met up with her earlier and she told be that she had been seeing some dude who was younger and had met at a concert back in September. She told me that she had broken things off with him because he wasn't there mentally, the thing that she liked about him was his charm and the sweet nothings he'd say to her that would make her feel like a girl. Besides that guy there's a co-worker of hers that straight up asked her to be his gf, she told me that she was in any way attracted to him. She told her co-worker that she wasn't ready and he replied by telling her that he's there when she's ready. He's gotta kid himself. Sooo I dunno...she seems pretty picky when it comes to guys. This whole time I didn't know anything until today.

Here's an "update"

I met up with her earlier and she told be that she had been seeing some dude who was younger and had met at a concert back in September. She told me that she had broken things off with him because he wasn't there mentally, the thing that she liked about him was his charm and the sweet nothings he'd say to her that would make her feel like a girl. Besides that guy there's a co-worker of hers that straight up asked her to be his gf, she told me that she was in any way attracted to him. She told her co-worker that she wasn't ready and he replied by telling her that he's there when she's ready. He's gotta kid himself. Sooo I dunno...she seems pretty picky when it comes to guys. This whole time I didn't know anything until today.

As a gems point of view....I sure the hell wouldn't stay an extra night at a dumb concert if I was going on a date the next day with a guy I was digging on. But maybe her friends had influence in that decision.

As a Virgo girl myself I would personally say from my own experiences that she may not have seen you as anything more than a very compatible friend. I am the type of person that as I get to know a person that I am extremely compatible with (whether I find them attractive or not) I tend to be drawn to them and want to spend a lot of time with them. I had a male friend a while back that I was in "awe" of because he was such an interesting person to me. I wasn't attracted to him in any way except as a friend. He would ask me to hang out allll the time and we did, but I never gave him any inclination that I wanted anything more than a friendship. I think he did become interested in me because he would have his friend ask me questions like "Would you be in a relationship right now, if you could" and he would ask right in front of my friend. I would explain that I wasn't currently interested in anyone, so I think he got the hint....but what I'm getting at is Virgo women love having very few very close friends and for us it's not always about being in a relationship as it is just having those interactions with good friends and having them often. I hope that doesn't break your heart because I can guarantee you if she's anything like me, she doesn't want to hurt you at all and is trying to find the best way she knows how to let you down easy.

Virgo women are very organised and hate it when people make plans with them and do not turn up. So they themselves too don't do it to others. I am sorry but may be she just always uses you as a back up plan to pass her time well and if she finds company she likes more, she makes an excuse to you. That is very mean, if this happens to be true. In some probability, this could be so. Try and check if she behaves that way with others too which in all likelihood she does not.

This virgo isn't interested... She may see you as a friend for back up plans. I know when I'm interested in someone, I pay attention and jump when they want to make plans. Also... Why is everyone saying bail because she has kids?! I'm a mother, that's unfortunate to hear.

Ok I am a Virgo female and you need to dump her asap! I would never treat a good guy like this...she is either not into you or something...not sure...she is rude and insecure! I'm not flaky either, I either like you or I don't...no iffy iffy crap. You deserve better.

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Posted by Virgo51991
This virgo isn't interested... She may see you as a friend for back up plans. I know when I'm interested in someone, I pay attention and jump when they want to make plans. Also... Why is everyone saying bail because she has kids?! I'm a mother, that's unfortunate to hear.

So are you not with your baby daddy?and why?

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Because he was abusive. You have a wonderful sense of judgement... You must be all seeing.