scorpio letting go of virgo

My New Years resolution for 2012 is to let go of this n***a, pardon my french. We had been friends for almost 20 yrs, grew up together, have the same circle of friends, etc. I moved away after high school and eventually we reconnected five yrs ago. I have always had a crush on this man, thought he was a good guy, funny, intelligent, charming, caring, passionate, etc. I also felt like we always had chemsitry, but we always remained platonic, never got out of the friend zone. After time though my feelings became much more intense. After 2 yrs, i finally told him how i felt about him and then things got weird and very tense. Keep in mind he had just gotten out of a long term relationship with a woman he wanted to marry, so perhaps he was still scarred from the relationship. I wasn't expecting complete silence on his end, so obviously i was hurt and we didnt speak for two months.

What really floors me is that we cannot communicate on the level we used to. we used to talk ALL the time every day, text every day, etc. He had his periods of going MIA but i know he needs his space, because I need mine as well.
I only distanced myself because I realized after the fact that I came on too strong and he was probably ill prepared for my wrath, lol. But I was very hurt that he was treating me like a stranger given our history. IF he considered me to be such A GOOD FRIEND the why was he acting in that manner? His behaviour was so strange and just baffled me. Quite frankly, I was tired of being confused and sad all the f*****g time. I will never stop caring for him, but I feel that we cant go back, but we were not really progressing either. I also do suffer from only seeing what i want and it was time to take off the rose colored glasses, so to speak. I think deep down he never got over his ex or maybe he is over her, but I am not the woman he wants to be with and frankly the truth really hurts. the only honest way for me to get over him is to cut him off completely, no texting or phone calls, no communication.

All these blogs and websites talk so much shit that virgos and scorpios work so well together, but i digress you have to REALLY get to know someone f**k all that zodiac s**t. This situation has been very painful for me, because I have difficulty letting go of people, but I need to move on. Its unfortunate that I had to lose a friend in the process, but i will be fine. Has anyone else had the same experience with a virgo male?

It sounds like he thought of you as a good "friend" all these years and was surprised when you told him how you felt about him.

"I only distanced myself because I realized after the fact that I came on too strong and he was probably ill prepared for my wrath, lol"

Also, ^^^this statement^^^ ..what did you mean by "my wrath?" Did you get angry at him for not immediately professing his feelings for you?

Posted by 25thDecan
Sounded like a great set up for a happy ending. If you truly TRULY want to move on, then I'm sure you'll be better for taking care of yourself.
I am more and more NOT believing it's so good to be friends before lovers. Reason: a friend is NOT a lover. Don't crisscross....want em? Go get em? Wanna friend? Keep it that way. Less is better.

See....I can respond without scorp-hating

Lol, you are doing very good, not using Raid Dec..

Well so far so good, there is still no communication between him and I. At first I was deeply hurt, that he didnt feel the same way and closed himself off, but the more time passes the less I care. He has moved on and doesnt give a crap what happens to me and I am going to do the same, out of sight out of mind. I guess "it" (forming a deeper relationship) wasnt meant to be for him and I. I dont know if I am as strong as everyone says I am, but im taking it day by day.

When Water and Earth goes wrong it's a painful experience.

I know exactly what u mean. Virgo and I were friends for 12 years and now in a realtionship. It has NOT been EASY.

Your virgo will contact u at some point..when he is ready...they do that. To mantain some form of friendship and to show they stll care ecause I am surehe does. Unlike a Capricorn like me that 'when its over, its over and I dont give u the time of day..usually."

Back history..my virgo didn't speak to me for 2 months once..he got scared at the thought of a relationship and vanished. Only to reappear 2 months later and asked me to forgive him and try...

Virgo's can't lead a relationship. YOU have to do it. They do like space but if you feel ignored, you tell him. And if he doesn't respond, keep it moving, don't be so available only on their terms, and before u know it, they chase u again.

I find it extremely interesting that a lot of women on here encounter such "stoic" Virgos - Virgos who don't make a move.

I have not known ONE SINGLE VIRGO who are not action-oriented. They always know what they want and when they want it.

This just makes me think that the only reason they are acting befuddled when you express your feelings is because they're not interested in that way.

I agree with you, Sienna, that it is very hurtful and insensitive for him to disappear after you professed. (I have had to teach my Virgo lover to be more sensitive towards things and emotions that he cannot relate with because he used to do this with people all the time!) But their intent is not to purposely hurt you, I'm sure of it. They do this because they think that there's no way to resolve your feelings if that's how you feel and he doesn't feel the same. They're not going to try to stay friendly because it's not going to help you get over your emotions that way, contrarily, it will just make the situation worse because he cannot reciprocate. The best and easiest way to deal with it is to remove himself from the scenario. It's very practical!

He will come back when he thinks you have your feelings under control. Will you accept his friendship then? It's unforgiving now, but you may thank him later when you realize that his disappearance was the best way to remedy for emotions.

I hope you feel better.

'I have not known ONE SINGLE VIRGO who are not action-oriented. They always know what they want and when they want it. '

yes, when THEY want it. But they had better face the fact that things can't always be their way, running on their time, and that is the problem with virgo's...indecision and control.

they always know what they want? no they don't. they analyze to death and that is why the majority of the time, the other party has to lead.

Hence why virgo's and Cap's can get together and make it work. Able to compromise, communicate, and learn from one another. Cap's don't expect virgo's to 'feel' what they can not, we can lead, sexually caps and virgo's can meet each others needs(dependent on mars/venus placments too)

Capbaby,

When it comes to feelings, I actually don't think it's fair to expect someone to feel the things you feel. So why is it a problem when they need to be ready to want it?

Aren't you, and I, and everyone else in this universe not the same way? Don't you want it to be on your terms as well when you want someone to feel the way you feel? I think so. So is it fair that we ask the other person to reciprocate immediately when they haven't made up their hearts or minds? I don't think that's fair at all.

It's selfish either way, no matter how you look at it.

Once in a relationship, yes, you do have to make a lot of the decisions and balance their obsession with control. And yes, Virgos are actually a VERY VERY selfish lover at first; but this changes SO much when they begin to realize their love for you and how much you mean to them- then he will be selfless.

Yeah, falling in love can mess up a good friendship.

' So why is it a problem when they need to be ready to want it?'

-because years can go by before they decide? LOL..no one should put their life on hold indefinately for maybe's. Mine has done the push-pull thing many times UNTIL I said 'enough is enough. You either have both feet in the door, or I kick them both out and shut it.' He has planted both feet in the door since. We are engaged.

I don't expect him to feel what I feel. I expect him to make actions meet words.