What's the story with Virgo's acting cold?

I've been getting to know a Virgo woman over the past 3 months. We have really good chemistry with one another, good conversations, I feel as though we're starting to become pretty good friends.

I had some personal issues with some aspects of her life style about a month ago, mostly stemming from my own inadequacies, but I didn't want to judge her unfairly. I pushed through it and I'm happy to say that I feel like her and I are even closer now.

It's gotten to the point where she's been willing to do some pretty nice favors for me.

Her birthday was last Wednesday. So Tuesday, I send her a text and ask if she wants to meet up on Thursday morning (she's teaching me and I'm paying her) she said she was down to meet up. I showed up and she didn't. She texts me an hour after she was supposed to be there saying that her phone died and she missed her alarm.

She's done this in the past. I wasn't much in the mood to respond because of it so I let it go and didn't respond.

Yesterday, we were supposed to meet up and she stood me up. No call, no text.

I talked to her the night before and she was down to meet up. I texted her twice in the morning and when I didn't hear back from her I called her phone in the evening (went to voicemail) and shot her a text (no response)

Now she's started acting cold. Warm and super friendly up until a week ago, I almost can't believe it's her.

I've read that this is how Virgo's act when they like you, but don't know to express their feelings. What's the story with this?

I've been getting to know a Virgo woman over the past 3 months. We have really good chemistry with one another, good conversations, I feel as though we're starting to become pretty good friends.

I had some personal issues with some aspects of her life style about a month ago, mostly stemming from my own inadequacies, but I didn't want to judge her unfairly. I pushed through it and I'm happy to say that I feel like her and I are even closer now.

It's gotten to the point where she's been willing to do some pretty nice favors for me.

Her birthday was last Wednesday. So Tuesday, I send her a text and ask if she wants to meet up on Thursday morning (she's teaching me and I'm paying her) she said she was down to meet up. I showed up and she didn't. She texts me an hour after she was supposed to be there saying that her phone died and she missed her alarm.

She's done this in the past. I wasn't much in the mood to respond because of it so I let it go and didn't respond.

Yesterday, we were supposed to meet up and she stood me up. No call, no text.

I talked to her the night before and she was down to meet up. I texted her twice in the morning and when I didn't hear back from her I called her phone in the evening (went to voicemail) and shot her a text (no response)

Now she's started acting cold. Warm and super friendly up until a week ago, I almost can't believe it's her.

I've read that this is how Virgo's act when they like you, but don't know to express their feelings. What's the story with this?

I'm only cold when I'm upset/hurt about something, & it takes me a bit to get back on board. Most Virgos are sensitive & she may be going through something, or you may have said or done something to freeze you out.

I can't speak for all Virgos, but I'm very passionate. Sensitive, & more emotional then people know. I like to think of my "cold" exterior as hot ice.

I'm burning on the inside with warmth & desire, and when someone disturbs that, I shut down like a "robot". A term people sometimes uses to describe Virgos. That's where my "coldness" lies.

Her birthday came by and you weren't there. Perhaps something happened there that you don't know about, that's upset her and caused her to shut down? A lot can happen in a gathering of one's closest friends and family. She could be being cold with everyone. Don't ask to meet again, since that's not going well right now, but keep in touch otherwise. Tell her if something interesting happens in your day, that you think she'll find interesting too. If you're a low-pressure friend when she's feeling down, she'll feel comfortable coming to you for more.

out of curiosity, what is your sign fish man? I agree with realtalk, as a fellow virgo gal, I only shutdown when upset or disappointed. Why did you offer to meet up the day after her birthday and not the day of her birthday? Maybe she hoped for a romantic gesture from your side. She's done favors for you as you mentioned, but what are you doing to value and appreciate her? Not saying that you're not already, but as a virgo, I am HUGELY grateful for constant reminders of my value by the man i love. Appreciation for the things I do to show I care is a plus too.

Keep in contact with her and keep trying to win her heart, if you persevere and you are sincere about it, she may let you back in. Virgo woman are very particular on who they choose as a partner and will analyze your every action and dissect its meaning to death. God, I should know!

I'm a Pisces.

Here's what I did: I left the present I got for her birthday at her work. I left a little note saying that I wanted to give it to her for her birthday, but wasn't able to and that I wanted to wish her a happy birthday and to say thanks for being so cool.

We have a working relationship that's starting to become a friendship. I wanted to meet up with her the day after her birthday because that's one of our normal days to meet for lessons. We aren't friends on the level where I'd be invited to hang with her on her birthday.

In fact, I'm pretty sure she has a boyfriend, but during the time we've spent together...she's never mentioned him, even indirectly.

I'll admit, I've been a little on edge because I really wanted to give her this gift and show her that I care about her. Yet, every time I've tried...something's gotten in the way.

I'm just really confused about getting stood up. She knows how far I travel to come to lessons and how much it means to me, for her to not at least shoot me a text saying she can't make it...my feelings are really hurt because of that. The fact that she's not returning my calls or texts makes it worse.

She knows she's wrong, but it's like she won't admit it and now I have to feel like the bad guy.

Hi Fishman.

I'm not a female Virgo, but I do have Virgo rising if that counts at all? LOL

Here's the deal. I understand where you are coming from. You are attracted to this young lady and want to do something nice for her. This is a nice gesture. However, here's where it gets complicated. You don't know if she actually has boyfriend or not. I recommend knowing the answer to this question before you act further.

As a woman, I can tell you that if I were to receive a gift from a guy who is someone I work with and who is not even on a friendship level yet; it would make me feel extremely awkward. When someone from the opposite gender gives you a gift, it comes with all kinds of emotional issues and questions. If she were a close friend or a GF, then it would be highly appropriate. But in your circumstances, I'm not so sure.

I'm a giving person and when I was younger I gave a guy I really liked a small gift. It was solely intended to put a smile on his face and just say "thanks" to him for being such a great guy. He took it as a sign that I was attracted to him and it made our rapport awkward afterwards.

You also have to consider that maybe she's not as far along in her feelings for you as you may be for her. But this is secondary to first confirming if she
has a BF or not.

I think your gesture is sweet. I just think you may have the cart before the horse, so to speak.

Good luck!

Posted by gemini64
Hi Fishman.

I'm not a female Virgo, but I do have Virgo rising if that counts at all? LOL

Here's the deal. I understand where you are coming from. You are attracted to this young lady and want to do something nice for her. This is a nice gesture. However, here's where it gets complicated. You don't know if she actually has boyfriend or not. I recommend knowing the answer to this question before you act further.

As a woman, I can tell you that if I were to receive a gift from a guy who is someone I work with and who is not even on a friendship level yet; it would make me feel extremely awkward. When someone from the opposite gender gives you a gift, it comes with all kinds of emotional issues and questions. If she were a close friend or a GF, then it would be highly appropriate. But in your circumstances, I'm not so sure.

I'm a giving person and when I was younger I gave a guy I really liked a small gift. It was solely intended to put a smile on his face and just say "thanks" to him for being such a great guy. He took it as a sign that I was attracted to him and it made our rapport awkward afterwards.

You also have to consider that maybe she's not as far along in her feelings for you as you may be for her. But this is secondary to first confirming if she
has a BF or not.

I think your gesture is sweet. I just think you may have the cart before the horse, so to speak.

Good luck!

+1

The gift wasn't anything extravagant, or expensive. Just something she mentioned she liked and I happened to pick one up for her.

She has been doing some really nice favors for me lately. Not really getting anything out of it for herself and using her time and resources to get it done.

Definitely the type of favors that show you where you stand with a person. I personally wouldn't do these favors for someone I didn't like.

I can be a bit cold. Just want to let her know she's appreciated. In light of the coldness between us, I'm hoping it'll calm the waters.

She's got a lot of guy friends and she's used to male attention. I imagine this is pretty timid compared to what she's accustomed to.

The price or size of gift isn't the issue. Its giving a gift to someone who isn't even in
Your close friend mode or GF. When you give a gift as you did it will make her feel obligated
To reciprocate even if she's not "there" emotionally yet.

While I know your intentions are noble, your not thinking with your head. Trust me I'm like you,
I love doing nice things for friends etc. But when you have too many unknowns you are setting
Yourself up for failure. And honestly until you confirm if she has a BF or not, you are going about
This all wrong.

Suggestion: work on building a sound frienship first before you start giving gifts. That way you
Won't get burned and she will be in a position to accept it with genuine appreciation.

she has a boyfriend

I received a lengthy, heartfelt apology message from my Virgo girl this morning. She felt horrible about what happened between us. It was very sincere.

On a side note...she loved the gift.

We crossed paths this morning after I got the message but we didn't talk. She walked in past the table I was sitting at but my back was turned to her. She looked like she was really focused on her work.

I did catch her looking over in my direction, we nodded at each other and smiled. I've heard Virgo women do that a lot.

Things feel pretty good.

Posted by GenethliacLover66
Okay, I halfway typed this out earlier, but I'm really sick right now (sorry TMI) and I had to stop but here is what I thought regardless, and I'm posting it because I was right so....

I think I figured it out because I do this to a Pisces rather frequently. Not on purpose though. I sometimes miss "meetings" with this person whenever I have a lot going on in my life.

This might sound confusing, but I think she does this to people often. Therefore, I think she may be avoiding you because she knows she messed up, and she doesn't want to face the repercussions. I don't think her actions specifically have anything to do with liking you or not, but I do think she likes you. And I definitely don't think that you did anything wrong despite what everyone else is saying.

Your intuition serves you well...I believe your right in this situation between her and I.

She still hasn't mentioned having a boyfriend. I saw some pics of them going back as far as 2009.

She's revealed a lot of personal info about herself in the time we've known one another. Including stories about things she's done with him, but won't even mention his name.

I think you're right about something else...she does like me. I see her pupils dilate when we look at one another, the apology she gave me went above and beyond, and the favors she's been doing for me all point to yes for me.

I'm just going to keep moving forward and see where it leads.

Posted by SingASong41
Oh yeah I think she's interested. 🙂 Opening up to you, spending time with you, being really nice (favors)... I know that as a Virgo woman, I wouldn't do that for just anyone. Do you know any of her other placements?

No. Just her birthday. August 28th.