Need insight on Cancer-Leo Cusps

and how to approach her on friendship.

She is a long-time girl friend of my brother. We often hang out together these past six years but I can't help but notice that she can't warm up to me. I tried to be agreeable but I feel she wants me to be perfect all the time in order for me to deserve a reply. That's another thing, when I try to have a conversation with her, she would answer me in a close-ended responds. Plus, whenever we hang out, she paid more attention to her iphone. When I asked, hey whats up, she said oh i'm checking my facebook. I waited till she is done but she never did.

By the way, I am virgo sun scorpio moon and my brother is sag/cap cusps with cap moon. She is can/leo cusps with libra moon.

One example of conversation:
This is when I was at their condo and she was watching some show on tv. I went and sat next to her and:
Me: Hi, is that victoria secret show?
She: yep
Me: so who's your favorite angel?
She: .....

Two example of conversation:
This is when we were at a restaurant waiting for our food:
Me: I just love your dress, you sure know fashion.
She: thank you
Me: how is work?
She: its good

Three example of conversation:
This is happened on her bday dinner which I initiated to make her happy and to show her friendship and love that we have for her. After we have pictures and congrats her on her birthday, our dinner came and we sat down to eat. There are six of us, me, my hubby, my bro, her and another couple who is my brothers friends.
Me: Congrats at work. I heard you got promoted. Tell me about it.
She: thank you. I have my own office and two assistants. ("By the way, this is the longest respond I got from her so I was happy")
Me: wow! what an accomplishment.
Then the rest of the night went with her talking about her and my bro's past trips and such.

We threw bday party like this often for her and my bro. But hubby noted that not once she remembers to ask about me and hubby's bday. This year, hubby said (and he usually doesn't do this) that this year just be nonchalant about it and don't send or celebrate anybody except for our mothers. To which I said okay.

I want to have a good relationship with this person but it is tough. Is there something I can do more or should I just give up? They often invite us to hang out together but I always feel like mentally I'm not prepared and not accepted.

Help please. Anyone?

Also, in any of our get together, not once she asked about how am I doing or how my husband doing. You know those chit chat that we used to do when hanging out with friends. I can't help but being outside with her. If she were to be my sister-in-law, I'd like to know how to be her friend or how to ignite that friendship feeling from her. I believe everyone is friendly. Everyone usually is around me but not this one. This been bugging me for year and I'd like to put these thoughts to sleep once and for all.

So any insights, comments, etc are highly appreciated.

Posted by CluelessCancer
As a cancer, don't force your friendship on us. If we want you to be close, we'll allow you in, otherwise, fuk off.

doesn't matter if we're marrying your family, that's the worst actually, nosy azz family members.

CC, then why ask us to hang out and then ignore us on the dinner table. Why?

I actually tried something different once. There was a big gathering because of the death in the family. So I realized she came in and sit down next to me but I completely pretending that I didn't see her because I am tired of becoming the only one that saying hi to her. Yes that's right, nobody else bother to say beyond hi to her except me (the fool who believes there is goodness inside everyone).

Lo and behold, she said hi and how are you. I replied (her style ) fine thank you and how about yourself. To which she didn't reply. I totally expected that from her. Totally expected that. lol.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Maybe cause your brother wants her too, or he's really family oriented, so she's trying to be family friendly. Obviously she doesn't like you or she's very shy, does she behave this way with others?

Yes, she does behave this way with others. I know because others have told me their feelings about her. Some said she is not even family yet but she wants to take charge on some family events. I asked them to be nice and not being this way. She deserves to be treated nicely.

Yes, I do feel she doesn't like me. I try my best to be friendly even though I know deep inside that she might not like me. I give my friendship with no expectation. She will become my family so I do want to know if there is anything else I can do.

I should point out that most of these invitations to hang out is coming from her. My brother is not family oriented by the way.

One time I even feel that the only reason she invited me is because she needed an usher to get around offering her guests some snacks or drinks or conversations. lol.

Some said she is socially awkward and I dismissed them right away. I don't think that's accurate for a cancerian, isn't it? I have lots of cancerian friends (even married to one) but this one take the cake. One of my cancerian friend is grumpy like you, CC, but we always have a laugh about things and we discuss things like hobby, experience, etc, and find ourselves to be different but still we're friends.

oh no! I have scorpio moon and yes I'm weird. She has libra moon. What is this mean?

Posted by VirgoDragirl

She deserves to be treated nicely.
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No she doesn't, she's a bitch.

She doesn't respect you at all. You've allowed her to be nasty to you and she doesn't like you as a result
Really insecure girls often like to test other people. like Only people willing to put her in her place are worthy of her attention.

Kind of sad really.
it's a childish game that more than likely leaves her surrounded by asshats, or alone.

The funny thing is if you turned around and treated her exactly the way she treats you she would be really hurt by it.
You shouldn't do it though because you seem really genuinely sweet and she will know you are faking it and it won't really work.
Do try to protect yourself from this woman though.

Don't please others too much

Don't please others too much