I dont want to lose this capricorn man.. but i dont know how?

Hii

Me: leo (29th july,1992)

Him: capricorn (7/jan,1990)



So .. about 3 months ago me and my capricorn man started dating .. he is amazing man.. and he was so open to me in a very strange way because i know capricorn men arent like this ... however .. things got too serious between us so quickly .. and there were ups and downs but we always get back again .. he sometimes gets cold .. and i never understood why but never asked him directly i always ask if there is something wrong ? And when says no i just get over it and go with the flow..

However, about 5 days ago he got so so distant and cold .. and I decided “communication is the key” lol ... so i started by asking him “are you happy with me” .. he was like “u know the answer” then he said why u keep asking these questions it bothers me a lot ! .. i was like .. i didnt mean to i iust don’t understand why you suddenly get so cold and distant and i feel like i’m a heavy load for you and it hurts me cuz i want to understand .. he was like i told u nothing is wrong .. i went like okay .. but I just want to know.. when u get like this what is the best way to deal with you ? Like i should leave u alone ? Or be with you and bear all this just telll me so i know how to treat u in a convenient way with feeling like you’re withdrawing.. he was like lsn .. i feel down and i’m not myself it has nothing to do with you just please bear with me .. and i told him i would do anything for him and he can take his time thinking we are on a break .. up-till herr it was all good

Then he called me at night .. we talked for 5 mins and i was like ok we arent on a break .. but then the 3 days after he was in a complete silence... no communication in any way .. and i don’t understand.. so i texted him saying .. i don’t understand this but i hope we are still okay, he went like .. i tried to be crystal clear with you but you seem like you don’t appreciate that .. do what suits you .. i was like are you serious ?? I’m trying so hard ! I love you and i dont wanna lose you but i feel like i’m !! U r seeing ur friends and family and everything is going okay except me ! U r only avoiding me and i cant understand why ! Even if its not me why are you avoiding me like this ?? .. i honestly cant take this its hurting me ! ... he was like .. okay u cant handle it u can go .. i’m sorry i have nothing to add ... but i never said i want to end it .. all i said is i need time because im going through something .. so u can do what suits you but this is all i have and i dont promise you that anything is going to change any soon.



I tried to appologize to him for not being patient and for being selfish .. and i tried to explain to him my feelings and that i want him and i want to be with him .. he never said much .. only that he dont wanna end it and that we arent on the same page and its better if we spoke later ... and later took another 3 days lol ..



Please explain to me how can i deal with him .. what is the right way ? And what am i doing wrong .. i really dont wanna push him away more .. but i dont know how should i do that ! I’m a very extrovert guy expressive person who says and express all the time and he is obviously the opposite-i think- altho he wasnt like this at the first 2 months :/ ..

I’m very extrovert person ** i’m a girl not a guy lol !

Posted by ni1992

Hii

Me: leo (29th july,1992)

Him: capricorn (7/jan,1990)



So .. about 3 months ago me and my capricorn man started dating .. he is amazing man.. and he was so open to me in a very strange way because i know capricorn men arent like this ... however .. things got too serious between us so quickly .. and there were ups and downs but we always get back again .. he sometimes gets cold .. and i never understood why but never asked him directly i always ask if there is something wrong ? And when says no i just get over it and go with the flow..

However, about 5 days ago he got so so distant and cold .. and I decided “communication is the key” lol ... so i started by asking him “are you happy with me” .. he was like “u know the answer” then he said why u keep asking these questions it bothers me a lot ! .. i was like .. i didnt mean to i iust don’t understand why you suddenly get so cold and distant and i feel like i’m a heavy load for you and it hurts me cuz i want to understand .. he was like i told u nothing is wrong .. i went like okay .. but I just want to know.. when u get like this what is the best way to deal with you ? Like i should leave u alone ? Or be with you and bear all this just telll me so i know how to treat u in a convenient way with feeling like you’re withdrawing.. he was like lsn .. i feel down and i’m not myself it has nothing to do with you just please bear with me .. and i told him i would do anything for him and he can take his time thinking we are on a break .. up-till herr it was all good

Then he called me at night .. we talked for 5 mins and i was like ok we arent on a break .. but then the 3 days after he was in a complete silence... no communication in any way .. and i don’t understand.. so i texted him saying .. i don’t understand this but i hope we are still okay, he went like .. i tried to be crystal clear with you but you seem like you don’t appreciate that .. do what suits you .. i was like are you serious ?? I’m trying so hard ! I love you and i dont wanna lose you but i feel like i’m !! U r seeing ur friends and family and everything is going okay except me ! U r only avoiding me and i cant understand why ! Even if its not me why are you avoiding me like this ?? .. i honestly cant take this its hurting me ! ... he was like .. okay u cant handle it u can go .. i’m sorry i have nothing to add ... but i never said i want to end it .. all i said is i need time because im going through something .. so u can do what suits you but this is all i have and i dont promise you that anything is going to change any soon.



I tried to appologize to him for not being patient and for being selfish .. and i tried to explain to him my feelings and that i want him and i want to be with him .. he never said much .. only that he dont wanna end it and that we arent on the same page and its better if we spoke later ... and later took another 3 days lol ..



Please explain to me how can i deal with him .. what is the right way ? And what am i doing wrong .. i really dont wanna push him away more .. but i dont know how should i do that ! I’m a very extrovert guy expressive person who says and express all the time and he is obviously the opposite-i think- altho he wasnt like this at the first 2 months :/ ..

I know being a Leo you want a lot of attention and that isn't going to come from this Cap. You should go silent and missing when he gets in those moods. Stop begging.

3 months dating and already ups and down? I don't really need to read the rest to tell you love shouldn't be this hard at the beginning.

Eh bien, j'ai besoin d'une réponse détaillée lol

Posted by GODZ

C'est trop long à lire

last night i thought capricorn and i broke up.

cried so much i got a headache and sent a long, dramatic monologue.

but then lunch time he's like: "why are you crying? i just did some gardening this morning so couldn't read what you sent."

tho i have to say it's the opposite of your situation coz this guy won't leave me alone for a day.

so it's weird for me to listen to cap men who are distant (and i'm guessing they're just not into you if that's the case).

Thats what i thought, and i figured i need to leave .. then he said .. i love you and i have never said i want to end this, I would never find a woman like you but I just need time.

I replied okay, but please just explain to me things always... because we are still getting to know eachothers and i dont know whats on your mind unless u spoke ! He didnt say anythjng but “everything will be better than it was, just give me time” and stayed distant again 😀😀 lol

Posted by virgoOPPP

last night i thought capricorn and i broke up.

cried so much i got a headache and sent a long, dramatic monologue.

but then lunch time he's like: "why are you crying? i just did some gardening this morning so couldn't read what you sent."

tho i have to say it's the opposite of your situation coz this guy won't leave me alone for a day.

so it's weird for me to listen to cap men who are distant (and i'm guessing they're just not into you if that's the case).

Posted by Caplove

Posted by ni1992

Hii

Me: leo (29th july,1992)

Him: capricorn (7/jan,1990)



So .. about 3 months ago me and my capricorn man started dating .. he is amazing man.. and he was so open to me in a very strange way because i know capricorn men arent like this ... however .. things got too serious between us so quickly .. and there were ups and downs but we always get back again .. he sometimes gets cold .. and i never understood why but never asked him directly i always ask if there is something wrong ? And when says no i just get over it and go with the flow..

However, about 5 days ago he got so so distant and cold .. and I decided “communication is the key” lol ... so i started by asking him “are you happy with me” .. he was like “u know the answer” then he said why u keep asking these questions it bothers me a lot ! .. i was like .. i didnt mean to i iust don’t understand why you suddenly get so cold and distant and i feel like i’m a heavy load for you and it hurts me cuz i want to understand .. he was like i told u nothing is wrong .. i went like okay .. but I just want to know.. when u get like this what is the best way to deal with you ? Like i should leave u alone ? Or be with you and bear all this just telll me so i know how to treat u in a convenient way with feeling like you’re withdrawing.. he was like lsn .. i feel down and i’m not myself it has nothing to do with you just please bear with me .. and i told him i would do anything for him and he can take his time thinking we are on a break .. up-till herr it was all good

Then he called me at night .. we talked for 5 mins and i was like ok we arent on a break .. but then the 3 days after he was in a complete silence... no communication in any way .. and i don’t understand.. so i texted him saying .. i don’t understand this but i hope we are still okay, he went like .. i tried to be crystal clear with you but you seem like you don’t appreciate that .. do what suits you .. i was like are you serious ?? I’m trying so hard ! I love you and i dont wanna lose you but i feel like i’m !! U r seeing ur friends and family and everything is going okay except me ! U r only avoiding me and i cant understand why ! Even if its not me why are you avoiding me like this ?? .. i honestly cant take this its hurting me ! ... he was like .. okay u cant handle it u can go .. i’m sorry i have nothing to add ... but i never said i want to end it .. all i said is i need time because im going through something .. so u can do what suits you but this is all i have and i dont promise you that anything is going to change any soon.



I tried to appologize to him for not being patient and for being selfish .. and i tried to explain to him my feelings and that i want him and i want to be with him .. he never said much .. only that he dont wanna end it and that we arent on the same page and its better if we spoke later ... and later took another 3 days lol ..



Please explain to me how can i deal with him .. what is the right way ? And what am i doing wrong .. i really dont wanna push him away more .. but i dont know how should i do that ! I’m a very extrovert guy expressive person who says and express all the time and he is obviously the opposite-i think- altho he wasnt like this at the first 2 months :/ ..

Okay, i read it all now. I would say to calm down and not push him. Just let him process. Some caps need lots of days to think about things and process. It just doesn't happen quickly. I would say to just hold it steady, and don't blow things out of proportion. Hanging out with his friends and family is very different from a romantic interest because there's no pressure there to do anything special.

And I don't think you need to apologize for anything tbh, your love style s are a bit different, but it's nothing that you can't work through.

I think what gets rough is when you expect a lot of validation and proclamations of love because Caps have serious problems with that. It's not that they don't FEEL that, it's just a little embarrassing to talk about, you know?

Posted by ni1992

Thats what i thought, and i figured i need to leave .. then he said .. i love you and i have never said i want to end this, I would never find a woman like you but I just need time.

I replied okay, but please just explain to me things always... because we are still getting to know eachothers and i dont know whats on your mind unless u spoke ! He didnt say anythjng but “everything will be better than it was, just give me time” and stayed distant again 😀😀 lol

Posted by virgoOPPP

last night i thought capricorn and i broke up.

cried so much i got a headache and sent a long, dramatic monologue.

but then lunch time he's like: "why are you crying? i just did some gardening this morning so couldn't read what you sent."

tho i have to say it's the opposite of your situation coz this guy won't leave me alone for a day.

so it's weird for me to listen to cap men who are distant (and i'm guessing they're just not into you if that's the case).

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cap men are usually pretty straightforward

so maybe it's best to just believe him when he says he needs time