An Aqua Man literally popped into my life

I'm a libra woman, he's an Aqua man, my friend gave him my number as I'm the only single one left out of our group, he started to text me, this has been going on now for 3 weeks, do Aqua men just like the thrill of the chase? As we are trying to get our schedules to align to meet up, and his schedules always out or mine is filled with soccer mom stuff, yet he doesn't seem to be going away but in no rush to meet, what gives with that?

Some Aquas like the chase, others prefer to be chased. It just depends.

I think this guy is observing you. Before he reveals his intentions, any level of admiration for you or any of his expectations, he's gonna wait & watch to see if you're even someone he can see himself growing something long-term with.

With that being said, he chase you all day, BUT his chase won't be overly aggressive. If you're expecting random outpours of affection and/or assurance, Aquas aren't usually the 1s for that.

We have to test you & feel you out a little bit before we can really show you just how much we admire you. Some get impatient along our little "joy ride" but for those who actually stick around and/or trust that we're still into them (even though we may not say it to you 500 times a day), you'll notice that those who stick around usually end up so surprised at just how open their Aquas can be later on. It's just getting us to the point of being very comfortable and open with you that is the challenge/hard part.

Take things slow. He may call you 1st or even initiate dates 1st, BUT I'd be willing to bet that he'd prefer that YOU open up and/or reveal yourself to him 1st. I know it sucks especially for certain signs that are so used to being in the Aqua's shoes, but hey if you can be patient & try your best not to make quick assumptions, he'll be worth it in the long run! I promise!

I always advise people to remember that Aquas take dating/love/relationships very seriously. So see it as kind of a good thing that we're not so quick to rush into things. Even if we're in love with you from day 1, we won't tell you until we actually feel that the feeling is mutual and/or that we can trust being so "vulnerable" with you =)

He may not want to meet you yet b/c he's not yet sure if you're worth it. But don't take that the wrong way though. Just b/c we may like 1 or 2 things about a person doesn't mean that we'll automatically jump in afterwards & go for the kill. He may be waiting until you reveal just a little bit more of your personality and/or what you have to offer/bring to the table before he agrees to and/or feels comfortable investing time in you or meeting you. We're not lust bunnies. We may think you're gorgeous or that you have good conversation but we usually wait until 1 or 2 HUGE things stick out about you before we officially start our chase or agree to take things a step further. Of course others assume this hesistation is from lack of interest, but that couldn't be any further from the truth =) In fact, he probably likes you so much that taking things slow is the best route for you 2 to go, especially if you guys ever plan on taking this thing long term.

So it was a hot merky night last night and it was cooler to be outside than inside, Aquaman text me asking me what I was doing, I said absoltuely nothing, sitting outside with tots because it too hot to be inside, he text's me back asking if he could come over and sit with us, I said ok, and he didn't show, surprise, surprise.

So me thinks its a chase thing with him, it was odd because I didn't hear from him tuesday and I was sure as wasn't texting him as I didn't have time and I get this text Wednesday morning asking why I didn't contact him Tuesday, wait what— I politely advised him that I'm not chasing him, then thats when last night's text occured and he was a no show, so I just don't get him at all.

Your thoughts?

Well this Aqua guy has turned out to be weird, he sent me a txt at 11.45pm last night asking to come over, so I called him and said to him, my child is asleep and I'm exhausted from a long week of work, why don't you come over on Saturday afternoon/evening and we'll do something together just us two. He said "that sounds cool" we chat a bit more then hang up.

10 mins later he sents me a txt saying; "I won't waste your time anymore" I'm confused as to what happened from our conversation to get this type of text so I txt him back "Grow up Nathan" and haven't heard from him since, and I doubt I will from here after.

So when Aqua guys don't get their own way they just act like spoilt children, I don't get it at all, dating is hard, even harder when you have a child as you have to work around all types of schedules, but to have on top of it all a man acting like a spoilt brat astounds me.

FYI this was quite regular for him to txt/call at ungodly hours to come over, I ain't no bootycall girl and I made that clear from the get go.

Posted by 0987654321234567890
He sounds socially retarded. How old is he?

He's 34, I think your spot on about being socially retarted, I'm now starting to think he was only after a booty call at odd hours instead of meeting in normal hours.

Oh well onwards and upwards as they say.

Well someone being shy is completely DIFFERENT from someone being downright unreliable, inconsistent & undependable. Just b/c someone's shy doesn't mean they stand people up for dates.

This isn't even a matter of personality or him being an Aqua. This is about him not knowing how to effectively communicate & make good on his word when he says he's going to do something. Don't make excuses for him or shrug his inconsistencies off just b/c he's an Aquarius b/c trust me honey, there are plenty of Aqua men who DON'T do what he does/did.

You both should stop playing the game of who'se gonna chase who & just do things that feel genuine to the both of you. Stop competing for whose gonna be the cat or the mouse in this situation b/c if you don't, you'll both spend more time competing than actually getting to know eachother & enjoying each other's company.

In other words, if you want to talk to him or see him, say so. Don't purposely hold back. A part of finding good love is in 1's ability to be vulnerable & just "hope" that the odds will work out in your favor. Yes, the rejection factor is high risk but who cares. You'll never know the potential of the relationship/friendship unless both of you are willing to take leaps of sacrifice, even if that means being vulnerable and/or doing the chasing. I'd hate to see a good thing be ruined all b/c of pride.

You need to have a talk with him about him being inconsistent. Telling him that you're not gonna chase him won't get the point across to him. If anything, it'll only make you appear to be the kind of person that doesn't go after what you want. And it'll be hard for him to get his ish together & learn what it means to go after a good catch, if the good catch herself (YOU) isn't doing so. Let him know that if he wants to be in your life/future, he's gonna have to start with "Basics 101" & start making good on his word/not making promises he can't keep

Maybe this guy is socially retarded. 1 thing is for sure--he has NO room getting upset or taking it personal when you can't make time for him on certain days b/c of your children, especially when he himself was a no-show on plenty of occasions. Hell, atleast you told him that you couldn't make it or that you couldn't see him. Him? No he told you by way of his lack of communication & that's NOT cool.

Maybe he's emotionally unavailable. Maybe he's not ready for a commitment, thus it's no wonder why he always comes up short when you really need him; and if that's the case, he knows exactly what he's doing. Maybe he's extremely selfish & only wants the other person to do all the work, while yet he sits back & doesn't realize that others TOO need to make sure that he's worth it. Maybe he's on the fence about you, thus that might explain why his actions are just as wishy-washy as everything else he does; maybe his wishy-washy actions are a reflection of his wishy-washy feelings/emotions towards you & the situation. Maybe he does only want you for a booty call. There's a million "what ifs"

OK Aqua experts out there I need your thought full insights on to what the hell is going on here with this certain Aqua Man, he text me tonight with a "hey I miss you" after the other evening's event's of his final text to me being "I won't disturb you ever again" he's BACK....so I took on board everything that has been posted here and text him back and asked him straight up what he wanted, he text me "a second chance with you". Then sends me a second text with the link below...

Tristan Garner's song Give Love



One minute he's the biggest douch bag on the face of this earth and I took it as that, a guy who threw a tantrum because he wasn't getting what he wanted, now this—?

C'mon getting to know an Aqua can't be this up and down, it's throwing my scales off balance.

Posted by aquagirl24
(this is weird for an aquarius) lol. (libra finds it weird instead that aquarius had 0/2 sexual intercourses in their lives lol...)

it is hard, because they think everyone is winding them up or wants to hurt them, at this aquarius gets angry, because they admire good people and fall in love with libra... so they hate being classified like "the bad ones" as they justly arent.

so when i dated him the 1st months and asked him to stop smoking for me, he refused, and i said, y? a cigarette isnt u, U r U, not a cigarette... he never listened to me and thought i wanted to change him and that i didnt love him.

i dont know what happened the last month, but he stopped smoking, drinking, now he wants to come swimming with me 🙂 he wants me to teach him... maybe all the arguments we had...

the sex is better for libra at the beginning but if aqua is patient enough then it gets really good for both, good luck xxx

he is IN LOVE WITH U!!!!

Was hoping you'd turn up and put some wisdom in on all of this lol, your the one that I took on board a page back and asked him straight out what he wanted. Yay props to you for giving sound advise.


Once again I'm going to take everything on board, as for sex, well that is yet to happen, love—? We'll soon see, up and down and chaotic, not my thing, I just like people to make up their minds and be done with it, but to say he's definately an intriguing one is an understatement, where this is going to go, who knows, but it's an interesting ride to say the least.

It has gone all quiet again, so I guess its my turn to make the first move and wave the white flag or hand over the peace pipe to see where he's at.

Cheers Aquagirl.

Posted by aquagirl24
he wasn't being a douchebag he was prolly shy at the fact that u were with ur other friends... 🙂 i think he might have come if u were all alone... 🙂 try it!!!! and u'll see!

So your saying tee up a time when I don't have my child, when I can give him my fullest attention and work from there?

Good lord...I hate to be a negative Nelly, but this guy is UNSTABLE!!! Im not a mom or anything, but i would think if i were stability would be HIGH on my wishlist.

This is not an Aqua thing, btw.

Well we progressed to the next "stage" if you know what I mean, very lovely night on Saturday night just us two, I'm just finding him either really shy or he's waiting for the next big thing to come along, so at the end of the day I was just a bootycall. Its now Valentines Day and I don't expect to hear from him, hell I haven't heard from him since Saturday night and he left at 2.am in the morning, so I'm miffed he didn't want to stay.

Meh no confusion really, the chase is now over with him I'm thinking.

He'll have to pull some might trick out of his hat for a now a 3rd chance.

We ended it fine, I text him the next day letting him know I enjoyed the night, yadda yadda, look forward to catching up again, blah blah.

Its now Tuesday and nothing....this is serioulsy looking like a right off.