Any advice on situation with Aqua man?

The situation is that he and I have been working together (in the same building, not side by side) for about two years. We make each other laugh, we talk about everything. Then things turned real flirty about four months ago. We got together a couple times and fooled around. It was really, really nice. The chemistry is smoking hot. We can go days between texts/talking, but pick right back up and get hot n heavy. He will grope me every time we pass by each other at work, or have a second alone.
However, the last time we actually met up (outside of work) was two months ago. We have made plans about four times since then, and he backs out. Not just backs out -- he will straight up ignore me that entire day when I'm trying to confirm our plans, but once I get a little demanding of what is going on, he responds almost immediately with a lame excuse.
What is his deal!? He is not very forthcoming when I ask questions. If I say 'what happened' or 'why won't you meet up with me', he'll respond with 'I wanted to'.. We have both agreed to stay to a fwb-ship, and I am fine with that...but when he won't even follow through with those plans? What is up with that? Shame on me, I continue to let him grope and flirt with me, because I enjoy it.
He happens to be Aquarius (I am Libra). While he is more than just a sign, most of the traits seem spot on. Like I said, the chemistry is WOW. I'd like to hold on to this one for a bit and play, and I'm looking for any suggestions on how to handle him!

The Age Old Question

I know, right...
I'm in it for the nookie though, not looking to get all deep and whatnot. If that developed down the road, mutually, then cool.

It's a fwb type of thing right? Were you expecting more? He doesn't have to answer to you if he doesn't and if you're expecting anything more that's really your loss.

It doesnt matter what kind of set-up you have going on. When you agree to meet with another person, honour it, or have the balls to say something about NOT doing it.

Posted by Vi
I know, right...
I'm in it for the nookie though, not looking to get all deep and whatnot. If that developed down the road, mutually, then cool.

I've met many girls who fell into your category. Unless you can bring something new to the table from a sexual standpoint, chances are, Aquarius will become bored with the same momentum and don't want to sex anymore. Matters are worse if he knows exactly what it takes to make you cum. You are going to have to increase your slut factor to a higher level, which most Libras tend to be afraid to show behind closed doors.

jumping jupitrs batman

It was a dik move to completely ignore me. We had plans. He did later apologize, after I told him just be straight up and don't ignore me. He tells me he dreams of me. He is confusing. In an effort to keep things light, I just go with it when he cancels last minute. I simply enjoy his company and the connection we do have. I'm Libra Sun; Aquarius Moon. He's Aquarius Sun; Libra Moon.

Posted by Vi
It was a dik move to completely ignore me. We had plans. He did later apologize, after I told him just be straight up and don't ignore me. He tells me he dreams of me. He is confusing. In an effort to keep things light, I just go with it when he cancels last minute. I simply enjoy his company and the connection we do have. I'm Libra Sun; Aquarius Moon. He's Aquarius Sun; Libra Moon.

So you are upset because you want him only as a sexual toy to satisfy your pleasures and he is not jumping to your call when you want? It does not appear you are making the effort to entice him. For if that were the case, he would not have stood you up.

As I said in my previous post??_


I've met many girls who fell into your category. Unless you can bring something new to the table from a sexual standpoint, chances are, Aquarius will become bored with the same momentum and don't want to sex anymore. Matters are worse if he knows exactly what it takes to make you cum. You are going to have to increase your slut factor to a higher level, which most Libras tend to be afraid to show behind closed doors.

It has become quite clear that he is just too insecure.

Posted by Vi

The situation is that he and I have been working together (in the same building, not side by side) for about two years. We make each other laugh, we talk about everything. Then things turned real flirty about four months ago. We got together a couple times and fooled around. It was really, really nice. The chemistry is smoking hot. We can go days between texts/talking, but pick right back up and get hot n heavy. He will grope me every time we pass by each other at work, or have a second alone.

However, the last time we actually met up (outside of work) was two months ago. We have made plans about four times since then, and he backs out. Not just backs out -- he will straight up ignore me that entire day when I'm trying to confirm our plans, but once I get a little demanding of what is going on, he responds almost immediately with a lame excuse.

What is his deal!? He is not very forthcoming when I ask questions. If I say 'what happened' or 'why won't you meet up with me', he'll respond with 'I wanted to'.. We have both agreed to stay to a fwb-ship, and I am fine with that...but when he won't even follow through with those plans? What is up with that? Shame on me, I continue to let him grope and flirt with me, because I enjoy it.

He happens to be Aquarius (I am Libra). While he is more than just a sign, most of the traits seem spot on. Like I said, the chemistry is WOW. I'd like to hold on to this one for a bit and play, and I'm looking for any suggestions on how to handle him!

You def need to LOCK HIM DOWN! He sounds like a keeper

I get it. Inconsistency is annoying. But you expecting consistency from a man who all but told you he feels you're only good enough for sex is insane. He's treating you like you're not a priority b/c you're not one. He's shown you that he's inconsistent but you want to keep messing with him? Why? So you can keep complaining about the inconsistency you signed up for? You can't walk into someone's life & expect them to reverse bad qualities for your benefit. What you see is what you get. He's an inconsistent guy. Either deal with it or don't. I get that good chemistry is hard to walk away from, but seriously, he keeps coming back with lame excuses b/c you fell for those lame excuses the 1st time. Ladies, stop expecting the moon & the stars from men who only see you as sexual objects.

Posted by Vi

The situation is that he and I have been working together (in the same building, not side by side) for about two years. We make each other laugh, we talk about everything. Then things turned real flirty about four months ago. We got together a couple times and fooled around. It was really, really nice. The chemistry is smoking hot. We can go days between texts/talking, but pick right back up and get hot n heavy. He will grope me every time we pass by each other at work, or have a second alone.

However, the last time we actually met up (outside of work) was two months ago. We have made plans about four times since then, and he backs out. Not just backs out -- he will straight up ignore me that entire day when I'm trying to confirm our plans, but once I get a little demanding of what is going on, he responds almost immediately with a lame excuse.

What is his deal!? He is not very forthcoming when I ask questions. If I say 'what happened' or 'why won't you meet up with me', he'll respond with 'I wanted to'.. We have both agreed to stay to a fwb-ship, and I am fine with that...but when he won't even follow through with those plans? What is up with that? Shame on me, I continue to let him grope and flirt with me, because I enjoy it.

He happens to be Aquarius (I am Libra). While he is more than just a sign, most of the traits seem spot on. Like I said, the chemistry is WOW. I'd like to hold on to this one for a bit and play, and I'm looking for any suggestions on how to handle him!

" We have both agreed to stay to a fwb-ship"

Don't expect anything more. There will be no dates. Nothing other than sex here or there, texts when he's bored or horney, and a flirtation at work.

When he ditches your plans, he has a better offer.

Sorry, not trying to be mean.

My Capricorn sun is asking why would you F*** where you eat? Why take the potential risk in your career, your work reputation or anything that could keep you from being promotable?

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Posted by krysrenee7

I get it. Inconsistency is annoying. But you expecting consistency from a man who all but told you he feels you're only good enough for sex is insane. He's treating you like you're not a priority b/c you're not one. He's shown you that he's inconsistent but you want to keep messing with him? Why? So you can keep complaining about the inconsistency you signed up for? You can't walk into someone's life & expect them to reverse bad qualities for your benefit. What you see is what you get. He's an inconsistent guy. Either deal with it or don't. I get that good chemistry is hard to walk away from, but seriously, he keeps coming back with lame excuses b/c you fell for those lame excuses the 1st time. Ladies, stop expecting the moon & the stars from men who only see you as sexual objects.

This is good advice but unfortunately this thread is dusty and 6 years old....

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Dang, I just realized this too. Wonder what happened?

(like we don't know)