Aqua making me more upset

I'm a Scorpio female and my fiance is an Aqua... we've been dating for almost 4 years now however it just bothers me that whenever I needed emotional support from him it's hard for me to get it...

Like, I was having family problems for the past two weeks and i needed him to be there for me... I'll tell him my feelings about things and that I'm upset with someone and what i get from him is he will get mad at me for being upset.. nagged me to death that i should not feel that way... I mean i do understand that he does not want me upset but sometimes it makes me feel that he is against me... I know he loves me dearly and he feels bad when i cry or get hurt.. but all i need is his emotional support, assurance that things will be okay again and that i should not worry because he will be there for me... Sometimes i feel that whenever im bothered about things he is not the best person to go to...

Please tell me how to understand him better and how to deal with him whenever I needed someone to talk to... I know aquas are intellectual people and being a scorp with full of emotions how can i keep this relationship going because i'm willing to make certain adjustment just to make it work..

'IF U DONT KNOW ME BY NOW, U WILL NEVER EVER KNOW ME'- that song came to mind, sorry. 4 years together is a very long time and to still not know them is a little unsettling. I dont believe in solving/trying to figure relationship problems through astrology. We are all humans at the end of the day and humans need to communicate to solve whatever issues between them. Have u tried telling him how u feel when he takes your emotions for granted? Communication, communication!!

I already did that.. I told him that i just want someone to listen to me when i feel that way.. i don't know if he understand coz he insist that he don't want me upset over trivial things but what can i do.. i can't pretend that it does not affect me well in fact it does.. can't i be my self when im upset? tho i know that he is concern and want what's best for me but hey can't i vent out what i really feel?

I understand him, he has a different way of dealing with stuff like that but me when i'm upset i cry and express it.... and arguing with him makes things worst for me...

do you think ignoring my feelings at those times would help just to avoid arguing with him..

Never change/alter who u r for anybody, especially for a man. He should be able to at least listen or pretend to listen to what u have to say. The moment u feel like u need to change yourself in a relationship, thats a reddish flag right there. Find some relationship experts or something because some things become worse with marriage. If ur struggling now with communication issues, imagine living with that for the rest of your life. Big error. Sort out what ur not satisfied with now before u take the big plunge because believe me, some men only grunt instead of talking after marriage. If u really love each other, nothing is impossible to fix. Goodluck

Thanks water cup.. this made me feel better.. I'll keep that in mind..

Thanks right back at u, im living with a 'grunter' too- its either communication issues or he needs a speech therapy, lol. I dont keep quiet if im not heard, he can go hang himself for all i care, but he has to listen. What kind of a relationship is that when u dont talk or listen? I hope u resolve this and plz keep us posted. Exam (a scorp lady) is married to an aqua, u can talk to her for advice. Me, i dont want those men near me. Bleh