Aqua Studs:Your romantic experiences with Virgals?

What's it been like for you?

General thoughts on Virgo women, please and thank you.

breath-taking.

Do you want me to elaborate? lol

Lmao @ tigress. Chip away!

Posted by BalmyTigress
Can the Aqua women also talk about their experiences with Virgo men? Because I could give a piece of my mind!

No?

OK 😉

Oh! You have my blessing BT! Anything I can learn about this pairing whether it's VW/AM or AW/VM...is absolutely welcome!

Posted by aquasnoz
breath-taking.

Do you want me to elaborate? lol

YES!!!

Well I just find the virgo charm strangely seductive. I've noticed this all before at least the ones I know personally and one I had a thing with. I can't describe it it's like you guys know how to reel us in or maybe just me lol.

I'm more outwardly open so I think part of being super friendly draws their attention. For me it's the how fun you guys are when you open up slightly. Virgos know how to tease Aquas, intellectually they're all there, we can talk about the most mundane of things and suddenly be doing rocket science, it's amazing!

I'll go back to the seductive part and for me personally very virgo I've met had this ability to do just that. They keep a lot to themselves which makes them remain a mystery which I think is another plus for Aquas. They don't do it in a way that we lose interest.

The virgo I was talking about seem to be able to understand what goes on or at least I think she knew how to manipulate me (I know it sounds bad) but it became sort of a game. I don't think we did it knowingly but maybe it was our own special brand of flirting. To top it off the virgos I've met all had this amazing sexual chemistry and they've all been gorgeous and beautiful and knew how to look the part too.

What I have found though is that most I have met seem to take things a bit fast, weird for an earth sign right? And I mean that as in they'll take it a step forward physically before I'm ready and this is more or less a personal thing. For whatever fun they show on the outside they are definitely sweet and sensual in the bedroom.

Speaking as a Virgo woman, who dated an Aqua. I don't think that we are compatible with Aqua's except in the bed and maybe a little intellectual conversation here and there. The rest is just a big jumbled nightmare. Aqua's are clueless to what a virgo wants even if we lay it out for them, and virgos dont understand and cant quite deal with an Aqua's choice to show their emotions as they please when they please. Me and the aqua I dated knew from day one it wouldn't work but being the people we are decided to go against odds and try it anyways and it ended up failing, he moved, and we haven't talked since (6 months).

Posted by BalmyTigress
Can the Aqua women also talk about their experiences with Virgo men? Because I could give a piece of my mind!

No?

OK 😉

sure why not...

Ok, well shucks...I'll start: I find Aqua men highly fascinating, yet strange (in a good way). In general, I thought Virgos were quirky, but hell if you guys don't take the cake and the candles on top with that one. There's this sense of throwing caution to the wind when I meet an Aqua guy (and that's saying alot because I'm pretty much your typical serious, buttoned up Virgo girl) like I could sell all of my possessions and run off with him to a foreign land on a moment's notice because I just KNOW that I will have so much damn fun and most likely live life to the fullest...buuuuut, it seems so hard to connect with you guys. No other way to describe it but "hesistant"? Like each party is waiting for the other to make the first move.

The first Aqua was very forthcoming. Asked for my number less than five minutes into conversation but he was so strange that I dodged him for weeks until we eventually stopped contacting one another.

Most recent...really like him but just miffed.

Well that's basically it I think. There are other placements to consider as well but when I hesitate it's because I can't feel if you want to take a step further and that's when the unintended mind games begin and starts to crumble.

Can't deny the chemistry is amazing though and there are aqua/virgo couples out there 🙂

Why do you feel like he's hesitating? And on your part have you made things perfectly clear?

I can tell you, if i can HELP it... I won't date another one. I am a buttoned up type Virgal as well but since Aquarius' dont really ask for information its like I spew it to them... So i can understand your feelings on that. Both have a lot of pride and won't give in, makes it almost impossible--one has to give in or it won't work.

@ aquasnoz,

Oh boy do I know exactly where you are coming from.

First, the sexual chemistry is really amazing. There's no doubt that the A/V bedroom compatibility is there. I've never actually been with an Aqua guy but I hear the above stated almost always from males and females of both signs so i'm guessing there's some overall truth to the statement.

No, typically, Virgos move very slow but there's somethng about you Aqua guys (yeah, yeah, yeah, you can pat yourselves on the back) that drives us crazy sexually and makes us want to dive right in. Your "air" promises a good damn time with lots of fun and kink mixed in, minus emotional heaviness.

So...question: Do you really like these Virgo girls or is it more of a friendship thing with you? Is there something about the Virgo girl specifically that gives you pause? Is it good that you're waiting for intimacy or because you're not sure of what you want to do with them?

I ask because the first Aqua guy wanted to rush right in but the new Aqua (as I call him) is much like you. Taking time. I dont' mind at all but I guess what I'm really trying to ask here is: is that a good thing or a bad thing?

Posted by GodMadeBeauty
Speaking as a Virgo woman, who dated an Aqua. I don't think that we are compatible with Aqua's except in the bed and maybe a little intellectual conversation here and there. The rest is just a big jumbled nightmare. Aqua's are clueless to what a virgo wants even if we lay it out for them, and virgos dont understand and cant quite deal with an Aqua's choice to show their emotions as they please when they please. Me and the aqua I dated knew from day one it wouldn't work but being the people we are decided to go against odds and try it anyways and it ended up failing, he moved, and we haven't talked since (6 months).

I've also heard some real horror stories. Interesting because I started thinking if I could put up with the aloofness and lack of emotinal expression...haha...and all this coming from a Virgo. They say Aquas find us cold too, but, eh.

Posted by GodMadeBeauty
I can tell you, if i can HELP it... I won't date another one. I am a buttoned up type Virgal as well but since Aquarius' dont really ask for information its like I spew it to them... So i can understand your feelings on that. Both have a lot of pride and won't give in, makes it almost impossible--one has to give in or it won't work.

Gosh, this is so on point! It's like neither one wants to make the first move and it's annoying. I've read that many times it's the Virgal who decides to put her neck out first and then the relationship usually progresses from there.

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Posted by GodMadeBeauty
I can tell you, if i can HELP it... I won't date another one. I am a buttoned up type Virgal as well but since Aquarius' dont really ask for information its like I spew it to them... So i can understand your feelings on that. Both have a lot of pride and won't give in, makes it almost impossible--one has to give in or it won't work.

Gosh, this is so on point! It's like neither one wants to make the first move and it's annoying. I've read that many times it's the Virgal who decides to put her neck out first and then the relationship usually progresses from there.

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Yes, I definitely did put my neck out and got it chopped off. I just couldn't deal with the aloofness. It was too much for me to handle. I can say that I don't think that they are for me personally. I read so much about them and he agreed that was exactly how he was. I should have said goodbye as soon as I said hello but you live and learn. I'll try a different sign next time I decide to date again.. Good luck with yours!

Posted by VirgoVixxxen

Posted by GodMadeBeauty
I can tell you, if i can HELP it... I won't date another one. I am a buttoned up type Virgal as well but since Aquarius' dont really ask for information its like I spew it to them... So i can understand your feelings on that. Both have a lot of pride and won't give in, makes it almost impossible--one has to give in or it won't work.

Gosh, this is so on point! It's like neither one wants to make the first move and it's annoying. I've read that many times it's the Virgal who decides to put her neck out first and then the relationship usually progresses from there.

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the top three marriages for Virgal are Fire men, and/or fiery men. SO if the aquarius man has strong fire placements, especially jupiter, mars, venus, even moon, it is very good. Also if he has some virgo to understand you. The guys who just "sit" there not making a move, will usually want fiery women wanting them. Aries men are up there too, so are Sag. Strangely, aquarius women have similar on par with Virgal, except we have pisces men on the top three. Or virgal has alot of fire in her too to go after the man.

without the fire in him, he's going to sit there along with you, twiddling his thumbs.

Well my circumstances makes me a bit more guarded when it comes to that potential someone this is why I usually take a while figuring if things would work in the long run. If things were different I probably wouldn't hesitate.

It's a bit of both really. I don't realise I do this but I try to pull out the inner kid of someone and just have fun. I can't say that's how that attraction's formed in the first place but it might be this enabler dynamic. The Virgal I was really interested in had fun but to me it always felt like she was holding something back. I know she thinks a lot and she's admitted that before but she just won't share and I'm going to relate it back to the whole being too critical of yourselves.

So for Aquas like me taking time is a good thing because they're not rushing head on into it. I think for whatever reason if an Aqua ever drags things out it's usually a sign they're evaluating, good or bad.

As for not wanting to get intimate so quickly, that's always been a part of me and for a while I was convinced I could go there with the virgal. Things got complicated, an ex-boyfriend reappeared etc, things got heated but I guess it comes to show even got someone so guarded with emotions I was able to drag all that pent up emotions out 😛

aquasnoz, i think that is a lot of the problem too.. I think he thought I was keeping stuff from him. I was emotionally guarded at times or defensive because he was so aloof. It was like a tug of war, I'd show my emotions he'd shut his off so I'd shut mine off and then his would be back on, it just got old.

Posted by aquasnoz
Well that's basically it I think. There are other placements to consider as well but when I hesitate it's because I can't feel if you want to take a step further and that's when the unintended mind games begin and starts to crumble.

Can't deny the chemistry is amazing though and there are aqua/virgo couples out there 🙂

Why do you feel like he's hesitating? And on your part have you made things perfectly clear?

Eh, I'm gonna just let it go. You Aqua guys are too much work and I'm not cut out for that shit. I'll include him in my fantasies and just be done with it.

Yeah totally agree there! We're on good terms, even have little awkward moments of "If only things were different" but the friendship is completely platonic now. I really chalk it down to both of us having particular baggages at the time. The communication on our part was pretty clear but for whatever reason we just wanted pick a fight for no reason *shrugs*.

But this is why I find virgos amazing, because inside that hardened exterior you guys are big softies 😛

Ok, have to take a little break but I'll be back to finish up with you guys...just in case you were wondering where I went.

All good! And I want to inspire you! Maybe you can prove us wrong! This is where I'll pull out the card "Not all Aquas are the same" haha just as I'm sure even if there are fundamental similarities within virgos everyone of you are different!

I will say one thing is that there's a bit of truth in that Aquas specializes in friendship and there's truth in that we try to balance this out and try to never pay too much attention to one person. Not all Aquas but it fits our sun sign. If you genuinely feel so much passion and energy coming from him and it is constant I wouldn't doubt that. I don't think many Aquas will deny my generalization that when we spent more time with you, you definitely have a special place in our hearts.

Yeah Balmy, that pretty much sums it up.
I think that the emotions are bottled up and once they are released they are so strong that neither Virgo nor Aquarius are able to deal with it. The thrill is real but the pain in the end worst ever, definitely not a road I was to travel again.

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Posted by GodMadeBeauty
I can tell you, if i can HELP it... I won't date another one. I am a buttoned up type Virgal as well but since Aquarius' dont really ask for information its like I spew it to them... So i can understand your feelings on that. Both have a lot of pride and won't give in, makes it almost impossible--one has to give in or it won't work.

Gosh, this is so on point! It's like neither one wants to make the first move and it's annoying. I've read that many times it's the Virgal who decides to put her neck out first and then the relationship usually progresses from there.

the top three marriages for Virgal are Fire men, and/or fiery men. SO if the aquarius man has strong fire placements, especially jupiter, mars, venus, even moon, it is very good. Also if he has some virgo to understand you. The guys who just "sit" there not making a move, will usually want fiery women wanting them. Aries men are up there too, so are Sag. Strangely, aquarius women have similar on par with Virgal, except we have pisces men on the top three. Or virgal has alot of fire in her too to go after the man.

without the fire in him, he's going to sit there along with you, twiddling his thumbs.

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Really? I thought the top marriages for Virgals are earth/water men...no?

I've got an Aries rising which I think at times mnakes me a little more fiery than I'd like to be?

Hmmmm...thanks a bunch for this info. Don't know his chart and at this point, don't think I'll bother.

*makes

@aquasnoz,

Understood. I prefer to move slow and evaluate as well. I just guess it makes it harder and more frustrating dealing with someone who operates similar to you. My constant desire is to build a friendship first, and then move from there. Nevertheless, I must say that this is all very fascinating and I'm learning a ton.

I've read and heard this from many other Virgals that most times Aqua men see us solely as a science project or just someone to have sex with. Because we're so guarded and closed off it's a challenge to see if you can breakthrough. Is this similar to you patting yourself on the back for being able to drag out the pent up emotions in your Virgal?

Posted by BalmyTigress
Now that I read what @aquasnoz had written I'm starting to wonder if that's what I did... Started playing with their inner child and they were happy about it, but then when things had to go back to normal, it was actually me who couldn't do it.

Bloody hell. What sort of a "mea culpa" influence is this then :-)

LOL, you need your tail kicked, BT.

What you've stated was very insightful. I don't mean this in a bad way, but I really do think that Aquas have the edge when it comes to the cold factor. And you are so right when you liken the relationship to two kids playing and suddenly not knowing what to do when things get real, but don't you think that would moreso depend on the level of maturity of the individual parties involved?

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Posted by GodMadeBeauty
I can tell you, if i can HELP it... I won't date another one. I am a buttoned up type Virgal as well but since Aquarius' dont really ask for information its like I spew it to them... So i can understand your feelings on that. Both have a lot of pride and won't give in, makes it almost impossible--one has to give in or it won't work.

Gosh, this is so on point! It's like neither one wants to make the first move and it's annoying. I've read that many times it's the Virgal who decides to put her neck out first and then the relationship usually progresses from there.

the top three marriages for Virgal are Fire men, and/or fiery men. SO if the aquarius man has strong fire placements, especially jupiter, mars, venus, even moon, it is very good. Also if he has some virgo to understand you. The guys who just "sit" there not making a move, will usually want fiery women wanting them. Aries men are up there too, so are Sag. Strangely, aquarius women have similar on par with Virgal, except we have pisces men on the top three. Or virgal has alot of fire in her too to go after the man.
without the fire in him, he's going to sit there along with you, twiddling his thumbs.

Really? I thought the top marriages for Virgals are earth/water men...no?
I've got an Aries rising which I think at times mnakes me a little more fiery than I'd like to be?
Hmmmm...thanks a bunch for this info. Don't know his chart and at this point, don't think I'll bother.

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go to the relationshp forum or something where it's at. It's an older topic, but Virgo gals top long term marriages are with strong fiery men. because fiery men are more EXPRESSIVE more openly outward with their emotions of display and you won't get shady responses, but true blue responses. What you see is what you get. Not say aqua men can't display that, plenty of them do. Just depends on the individual. There's musical/musician aquas who are creative, there are scientific types, or just your average joe.

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
@aquasnoz,

Understood. I prefer to move slow and evaluate as well. I just guess it makes it harder and more frustrating dealing with someone who operates similar to you. My constant desire is to build a friendship first, and then move from there. Nevertheless, I must say that this is all very fascinating and I'm learning a ton.

I've read and heard this from many other Virgals that most times Aqua men see us solely as a science project or just someone to have sex with. Because we're so guarded and closed off it's a challenge to see if you can breakthrough. Is this similar to you patting yourself on the back for being able to drag out the pent up emotions in your Virgal?

Only in retrospect being friends after the whole thing has passed. At the time it all happened all I knew was I really liked her. Most of it is trying to make sense of what happened afterwards. I never really go into anything thinking of it as a science project but I did when I was a lot younger.

Before the virgal I haven't really dealt with anyone who wasn't willing to admit to their feelings upfront which is why it became a puzzle later on. If I could have a do-over I'd just let things play out and not question her so much.

I'm a fellow earth sign and have been with an aqua for a little over a year.

Yes, I've had to take the risk and put my neck out there. Very scary for a cautious cap, but although I didn't get the answer I wanted, I noticed a big improvement in actions and overall comfort level. As if he just wasn't willing to express his thoughts and feelings verbally. Had I not risked it, things probably wouldn't have progressed. I think he appreciated that I did. Earth signs are hard to read as well as air, and both earth and aquas are cautious and guarded. So someone is going to have to step it up. I figured I might as well - that may be the cardinal part of my sign.

The aloofness is there. It always will be. You have to realize and try to watch for whats under the surface and the reason for the aloofness. You have to get used to it. He won't always tell you what's on his mind. The more you get to know him, the easier it will be to read him. You may not always FEEL like his number one priority, which earth signs need. You'll feel second to family, friends, job, whatever, but you will learn to recognize that you are important to him and he will show you in actions how important you are. You will learn to notice the consistencies and loyaly an aqua will give you.

Earth signs, although we like control, we aren't comfortable taking risks in relationships. Neither are aquas. Since both are too cautious and nonverbal, I think this is one reason the mix doesn't always get off the ground or doesn't work out. I think once the communication aspects are overcome, it could work out.

Another factor is aquas are all about individuality and excitement and adventure. Earth signs are usually too cautious so we are considered boring. You've got to be willing to try new things and keep things interesting.

Keep is informed!!!

*Keep us informed.

@Balmy,

Aye, that "painful transformation". Definitely not fun but absolutely necessary for true growth and realization.

I say it's wonderful that you have a better handle on this and are making a conscious effort not to let it negatively affect relationships. I had to learn to do the same with my harsh, overly honest Virgo tongue. 🙂

@lisa,

Logically, that makes sense. As cold and reserved as we Virgo women can be with our emotions, I would think one of the better partners for us would be a fire sign. Someone who is more expressive and can help to draw out our deeply stashed passions, lol.

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
@aquasnoz,

Understood. I prefer to move slow and evaluate as well. I just guess it makes it harder and more frustrating dealing with someone who operates similar to you. My constant desire is to build a friendship first, and then move from there. Nevertheless, I must say that this is all very fascinating and I'm learning a ton.

I've read and heard this from many other Virgals that most times Aqua men see us solely as a science project or just someone to have sex with. Because we're so guarded and closed off it's a challenge to see if you can breakthrough. Is this similar to you patting yourself on the back for being able to drag out the pent up emotions in your Virgal?

Only in retrospect being friends after the whole thing has passed. At the time it all happened all I knew was I really liked her. Most of it is trying to make sense of what happened afterwards. I never really go into anything thinking of it as a science project but I did when I was a lot younger.

Before the virgal I haven't really dealt with anyone who wasn't willing to admit to their feelings upfront which is why it became a puzzle later on. If I could have a do-over I'd just let things play out and not question her so much.

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I see. Yea, much of it is on the job training. You learn and then you will do things differently for the next ones to come.

@truecap,

Thank you for this post. It honestly makes me feel so much better to know that I'm not alone.

As you can see, I haven't given too many details of our interactions but there are quite a bit.

Just didn't know what to think but thanks to all of you guys, now I can see things more clearly.

Said I was just going to let it go but...hmmmm...

I'm happy that you got your Aqua man. As as fellow conservative and traditional earth sign woman like myself(?), I'm sure you will understand when I say that it's not the easiest thing to reach out to a male first as it relates to romance, so this is definitely something that I'm grappling with.

I'll continue to keep things light until I can really figure out in my head what I want to do. He's given me a way in a few times but I didn't bite. If I do decide to go forward, I will have to step up my game (with dignity of course).

And he's so cayute!

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
@lisa,

Logically, that makes sense. As cold and reserved as we Virgo women can be with our emotions, I would think one of the better partners for us would be a fire sign. Someone who is more expressive and can help to draw out our deeply stashed passions, lol.

i too attract fiery men in real life. Thus my husband and my ex husband are fiery men (dominant fire) and i'm dominant earth, so i'm very traditional. I love marriage and i'm very much a homebody. My jupiter is also in earth so is my lilith, and my upbringing have been with very traditional women. All aunts, grandmothers, mother ect are traditional.

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@truecap,

Thank you for this post. It honestly makes me feel so much better to know that I'm not alone.

As you can see, I haven't given too many details of our interactions but there are quite a bit.

Just didn't know what to think but thanks to all of you guys, now I can see things more clearly.

Said I was just going to let it go but...hmmmm...

I'm happy that you got your Aqua man. As as fellow conservative and traditional earth sign woman like myself(?), I'm sure you will understand when I say that it's not the easiest thing to reach out to a male first as it relates to romance, so this is definitely something that I'm grappling with.

I'll continue to keep things light until I can really figure out in my head what I want to do. He's given me a way in a few times but I didn't bite. If I do decide to go forward, I will have to step up my game (with dignity of course).

And he's so cayute!

Just don't go too far, too soon and make him uncomfortable. I think I still make mine uncomfortable sometimes. A little bit goes a long ways. And it was ten months of dating before I really stuck my neck out. Keep it calm, cool and dignified. Give him lots of space and remember, don't pressure him or he will run. When he backs up, you back up.

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@lisa,

Logically, that makes sense. As cold and reserved as we Virgo women can be with our emotions, I would think one of the better partners for us would be a fire sign. Someone who is more expressive and can help to draw out our deeply stashed passions, lol.

i too attract fiery men in real life. Thus my husband and my ex husband are fiery men (dominant fire) and i'm dominant earth, so i'm very traditional. I love marriage and i'm very much a homebody. My jupiter is also in earth so is my lilith, and my upbringing have been with very traditional women. All aunts, grandmothers, mother ect are traditional.

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lisa, you sound pretty knowledgeable about charts. Have you dated men of the other elements? If so, do you find that fire men fit you best? Sounds like it.

Sometimes I think this relationship thing is so challenging for me because of my Cap moon. But I do have my Venus in Scorp so maybe that helps...aaaahhhh

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
@truecap,

Thank you for this post. It honestly makes me feel so much better to know that I'm not alone.

As you can see, I haven't given too many details of our interactions but there are quite a bit.

Just didn't know what to think but thanks to all of you guys, now I can see things more clearly.

Said I was just going to let it go but...hmmmm...

I'm happy that you got your Aqua man. As as fellow conservative and traditional earth sign woman like myself(?), I'm sure you will understand when I say that it's not the easiest thing to reach out to a male first as it relates to romance, so this is definitely something that I'm grappling with.

I'll continue to keep things light until I can really figure out in my head what I want to do. He's given me a way in a few times but I didn't bite. If I do decide to go forward, I will have to step up my game (with dignity of course).

And he's so cayute!

Just don't go too far, too soon and make him uncomfortable. I think I still make mine uncomfortable sometimes. A little bit goes a long ways. And it was ten months of dating before I really stuck my neck out. Keep it calm, cool and dignified. Give him lots of space and remember, don't pressure him or he will run. When he backs up, you back up.

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Moi go too far? HA! I wish you could witness for yourself the that way I operate around guys I actually DO like. It's pitiful. No really. I give nothing. It would probably frustrate you to no end like it does everyone else.

With this guy it's different. And that's why I'm here. Never once did I ever think about flirting with a guy first (never really had to) and even better, flirting is not much of my thing. Or I dare say a Virgo thing. We find that shit so superficial.

Ok, ok so I flirted with him the other day and good lord...who knew?! Nothing crass. More humorous than anything but, I guess I didn't expect him to be so...well...open. It's like watching a flower bloom. And I didn't beat myself up afterwards for flirting. For breaking tradition. It felt so natural and obviously because he was so receptive, I don't have to nurse myself back from rejection.

But...now he's in seduction mode. Like Scorp seduction to the 10th power, and because of the intensity, I got scared and pulled back.

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@lisa,

Logically, that makes sense. As cold and reserved as we Virgo women can be with our emotions, I would think one of the better partners for us would be a fire sign. Someone who is more expressive and can help to draw out our deeply stashed passions, lol.

i too attract fiery men in real life. Thus my husband and my ex husband are fiery men (dominant fire) and i'm dominant earth, so i'm very traditional. I love marriage and i'm very much a homebody. My jupiter is also in earth so is my lilith, and my upbringing have been with very traditional women. All aunts, grandmothers, mother ect are traditional.

lisa, you sound pretty knowledgeable about charts. Have you dated men of the other elements? If so, do you find that fire men fit you best? Sounds like it.

Sometimes I think this relationship thing is so challenging for me because of my Cap moon. But I do have my Venus in Scorp so maybe that helps...aaaahhhh

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to be VERY honest, nope. I haven't dated many. Only married a pisces, had two ex's after that, and then my now husband. That's alot to me, but i usually stay LONG term with them. One of my ex's died too.
And no, i'm not knowledgable about charts at all. You all over at the virgo board are way more knowledgable. I usually go to in-depth astrology boards like sasstrology and elsa boards (although the latter is more discussion)

well they always (astrologers) say that capricorn moon has some difficulties? Like opening up. It's in detriment, and detriments and falls are difficult they say.

VirgoVixxxen, I am the same way when I met guys its usually them chasing me, I don't do the flirting, and I can be pretty unemotional and have been told that I don't show enough feelings but it was different with the Aqua, he never showed emotions until the end and by then it was just too late... I showed to much and it does push them away for sure. Him and I were together for over a year. The problem is they hide there emotions so much its almost like they are being secretive with you, like they have something to hide. They require a lot of ME (THEM) time, and I love my ME time don't get me wrong but to have someone who requires more ME time then you, its hard to deal with. I learned a lot from him I can say that, but once it's over... its pretty much OVER.

CONT'D...

I really didn't know what to do. Is that bad? He seems so confused now. The other day he came over and asked me "what's wrong?" He's definitely noticed the change in my behavior. I'm not as talkative. I was so stumped when he asked me that that all I could do was shake my head back and forth as if to say "nothing".

There are plenty other really positive exchanges we've had between us during this time but I need a little more convincing.

I say convincing because I guess I wonder if it's all sexual for him because he went into seduction mode so fast and so hard? iono. As you can see, I'm not very experienced when it comes to this relationship stuff.

We have a really nice rapport and he's sweet to me. He asked me early on if I would ever date someone from his ethnic group and I said yes. *shrugs*

This all just seems like too much work and I'm tired just thinking about it.

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
@lisa,

Logically, that makes sense. As cold and reserved as we Virgo women can be with our emotions, I would think one of the better partners for us would be a fire sign. Someone who is more expressive and can help to draw out our deeply stashed passions, lol.

i too attract fiery men in real life. Thus my husband and my ex husband are fiery men (dominant fire) and i'm dominant earth, so i'm very traditional. I love marriage and i'm very much a homebody. My jupiter is also in earth so is my lilith, and my upbringing have been with very traditional women. All aunts, grandmothers, mother ect are traditional.

lisa, you sound pretty knowledgeable about charts. Have you dated men of the other elements? If so, do you find that fire men fit you best? Sounds like it.

Sometimes I think this relationship thing is so challenging for me because of my Cap moon. But I do have my Venus in Scorp so maybe that helps...aaaahhhh

to be VERY honest, nope. I haven't dated many. Only married a pisces, had two ex's after that, and then my now husband. That's alot to me, but i usually stay LONG term with them. One of my ex's died too.
And no, i'm not knowledgable about charts at all. You all over at the virgo board are way more knowledgable. I usually go to in-depth astrology boards like sasstrology and elsa boards (although the latter is more discussion)

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Now that I think of it, yea, I guess we do have quite a few astrologers in Virgo Land. I should inquire within.

I love Sasstrology. Linda-Goodman is great too.

Sorry to hear about your ex. I have never dated a water sign, although I think I adore stingas.

Posted by lisabethur8
well they always (astrologers) say that capricorn moon has some difficulties? Like opening up. It's in detriment, and detriments and falls are difficult they say.

Right. They say Cap is the coldest placement for the moon. I'm gonna do some more research. It's so interesting that we have all of these elements that play a role in who we are as people.

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VirgoVixxxen, I am the same way when I met guys its usually them chasing me, I don't do the flirting, and I can be pretty unemotional and have been told that I don't show enough feelings but it was different with the Aqua, he never showed emotions until the end and by then it was just too late... I showed to much and it does push them away for sure. Him and I were together for over a year. The problem is they hide there emotions so much its almost like they are being secretive with you, like they have something to hide. They require a lot of ME (THEM) time, and I love my ME time don't get me wrong but to have someone who requires more ME time then you, its hard to deal with. I learned a lot from him I can say that, but once it's over... its pretty much OVER.

GMB,

Did you EVER think you would find someone who was colder (emotionally) and perhaps more solitary than you? Oh! I mean, I knew Caps could give us a good run for our money but dang if the Aquas don't have them beat too, lol.

Are you still in touch with your Aqua? Do you think he was finally showing emotion because he was afraid of losing you or that he actually got it?

I completely understand how you feel and I haven't even dated one yet. Honestly, I don't know If I would be able to put up with all that aloofness either. It's just too much. I need a little bit more.