Aqua (Sun) Pisces (Moon)?

I have an aquarius child, with a Pisces moon and taurus rising.
(her father was virgo sun aquarius moon aries rising, and im virgo sun, libra moon, taurus rising)
I have a gemini child (gemini moon - i forget her rising)
I get along wonderfully with my gemini child.
but I'm having such a difficult time with my aqua.
her stepdad (my ex husband who's been there since she was born is taurus rising, scorpio sun and scorpio moon)
clicks VERY well with her, she's very drawn to him. but me and her clash completely.
I had an aquarius best friend growing up. she was bossy and stubborn but i loved her to bits.
her brother is also an aquarius (aqua moon) and i get along better with him than with her now. (was besties
with her since we were 5 but ended up moving away when we were 8 and recently found each other a few years back)
From what i notice about my childhood best friend and her brother is neither of them show a lot of emotion.
(though the brother does get angry easy when i joke, very serious but give him some space and he's fine again)

My child tends to get very emotional (I might add my father is also an aquarius and as a child i got along great with him, but he too was also not that emotional at least not that it showed. my mom was opposite. cap sun and scorp moon)

Im guessing its my child's pisces moon?

I really dont understand her at times. she cries and whines a lot. (She was an amazingly happy child always giggling. it wasnt until she got older and refused to use words that she'd throw fits)
She hates repeating herself and hates things being moved around. she has her whiny side (nobody can call her anyting cuz she'll cry and whine. she's turned into a tattler for any reason at all) she tends to take things and hide the.

and other times (as my bestie would as a child) she can be SUCH a mean bully, bossy and not care about anyone elses feelings. she can be so stubborn and strong willed. where there are other times that she'll act VERY grown up and mature and be very helpful.

I have no idea how to help her settle down. my ex and i are no longer together and he rarely sees the kids and when he does its not frequent so ive asked him to pick either in or out cuz i dont like this back and forth. but ifind she's always functioned a lot better under his parenting. even though our parenting style s are very similar and he's very supportive when she's not listening he'll say listen to what mommy is telling you.
She loves school but is so

easily frustrated if she doesnt get it right away (very competative)
She also seems very empathetic. she seems to be very intuitive as well.

if anyone has any better ideas of how to better understand my child
it would help us a lot! she does seem self concious already at a young age
No idea where she got it from. she's always had a thing about her appearance.

GIVE HER SPACE.

SPACE!

Aquarians NEED space,we need time to think to ourselves & figure out whatever it is we are going through.There is no way to figure out whats going on in another Aqaurians mind,because we all have our unique ways of thinking,she will tell you whatever is wrong when she's ready or she may never tell you,as she gets older she may become even more of mystery to you.The best thing to do is let her be herself don't TRY to figure her out because she will try to throw you off.She is rebelling & until she finds somewhere else to focus that energy,she is NOT going to change.Don't TRY anything,just be YOU only. . .give her space.lol

lol thanks.
yeah she has been that way since she was little. not the cuddley time more teh "dont touch me let me roam" type when she crawled. she'd come to me when she wanted cuddles. but to pick her up and do it, nooot always great, so i learned to let her be (though some ppl thought i was being neglectful and i was like she doesnt like it!!!)
i kind of understood cuz me as a child i hated being touched most of the time too.
i thought she was in need of more mental stimulation buuut school's hard for her - though she loves it.
so i thought maybe some activity like dance or gymnastics would do her some good (considering she loved climbing to high places then jumping off .. once fracturing her arm!! ... yet tried doing it again the same week she got her cast!)

I hope the space works or i swear this one's gonna put me to an early grave from so many heart attacks due to close calls! oh wow i just realized i am a worrier -__- lol

Maybe I can shed a little light as I am also an Aquarius with a Pisces moon (virgo rising, so not taurus, but also earth!) Looking at a few other bits in her chart might be useful for you (eg: venus - what makes her in her happy place). I consider myself a pretty together and chilled adult in a lot of ways, but I was a pretty emotional child. Yeah, that pisces moon! I was definitely sensitive about my own stuff, but at times could be pretty mean to others. I agree with the previous advice, for me space was good, cos aquarians need to have the mental space to figure it out for themselves, figure out a philosophical stance, then the rest follows. Also a pisces moon needs emotional space. It takes us a while to figure out that things that upset us aren't the end of the world, and aren't the world against us. In the mean time, there might be big outbursts and tears, but often it's just an emotional build up which needs a cathartic outpouring - nothing to worry about. Pisces moon also needs space and time to dream. We're imaginative and creative, at times messy and disorganised, and don't really run on schedules. I'm not sure what kind of Virgo you are, but I've been "organised" and "managed" by Virgo's before, and us Aquarian's really don't like feeling like we're being told what to do - it makes us feel very trapped. Understand that an Aquarius with a Pisces moon is going to be a free spirit, be very independent yet moody and unpredictable, at times burst out crying when you didn't see it coming. But it's the way we are, and we'll develop in our own pace. The best thing is to try and go with it, try to be understanding, and not try too much to "manage" the situation, as it is an organic one which will change and mature with age. Be aware of this advice for those moody teenage years! By her mid '20's you're bound to find a wise and interesting person has evolved.

how old is she? n ur a virgo? mayb its a sign clash b/c aquas like independence n freedom & virgos tend to b judgemental, naggy, n nosy

You're fucking kidding, right? Those are my EXACT polacements AND - my mum's a virgo!

Eeeek!

Posted by ellessque
she doesn't refuse to use words.

she just can't find them. pisces moons have vivid imaginations.

Hmm. I wish this happened as a child and I grew out of it. Not NOW and the reverse...

@ this thread: Eeeeeeeek! Even Taurus rising - eeeeek! With virgo mum thrown in - eeeeek!

Eeeeeek!

As a child I've always been a handful. Luckily though I never had my parents around so I had all the time in the world to work myself out. All the qualities you've described I can relate to quite a bit.

The problem with my and virgos in general is their need for order and control. There's a point in which you can put your foot down but generally speaking I've always hated anything that restricts what I wanted to do. Every rule set on me must be explained by a logical and thought out reason. Even then I would use them as guidelines, if I fail to follow them and I screwed myself over then it's on myself to learn from that mistake.

The problem is the mixture of Aqua Sun and Pisces moon. No matter how logical we try to be, we'd always follow our heart. For that reason we are the most strict with ourselves. I could be speaking for myself but most of my frustrations are usually with myself in general. Even from a young age I thought I was always right, nothing could've stopped that in retrospect apart from the experiences.

Guidance is what I needed. Not because I would listen to them but I needed to find out why. I've always learnt from failure. Being boxed in and trapped is the best way to completely lose us. Even nowadays I think back and muse on how much of a dick I was to deal with as a child and teenager but now that it's making more sense to me as I enter my 30s, there's no way I'd be the person I am today without falling over and picking myself back up.

As hard as it for Virgos, you need to let us do our own thing.

On that point when it comes to emotions. I have a hard time verbalising them. I get really defensive when pushed to talk about it. That's a clear sign I just haven't worked it out yet. We don't let our feelings fester per se. I like to imagine my Aquarius and Pisces bits simultaneously trying to work it out and it doesn't because you can't be logical and emotional at the same time. Sure we can be a mess at times but the best solution is to leave us alone. The stubbornness goes away, ask us how we feel or what we are thinking and just listen. If there's one thing I hated is being told how I should feel.