Aquarius and Cancer

From what I have gathered Aquarius and Cancer must be a difficult match. I am married to a Cancer woman and boy does that moon pull her moods around. Sometimes I don't know if I'm coming or going when I'm around her. As it is it's hard enough with my own intense moodiness (often brought on by the stresses of her extreme mood swings) much less trying to live under the same roof when we both go dark.
It sure takes a lot of patience and prayer, damning and forgiving, listening to and tuning out, and an iron will to keep searching for those things in life that make life worth living.
Lets hear from other Aquarian/Cancer combos and try to figure out why its so dang hard to mesh with one another.

Not sure if this will be much help or not but this is my take on an Aqua/Cancer relationship. They are difficult at best, I encountered extreme mood swings from my cancer, so much to the point they were starting to make me very moody which is not the normal case for me. We had a very deep bond between us but sadly enough the strain of every day life was to great to take. Self pitty, terrible self-esteem and moods were just too much for this aquarian to handle. I would say if you can focus on the benefits of the relationship that it could be a very satisfying one, there are some very positive traits to Cancers. Good Luck!!!

Hi Erick! You and I have spoken (OK....written...before). Hi John! I agree with you that they do have good qualities...however, I was unable to stick it out...
To my Cancer's credit, he has remained a good friend, a good father (in my opinion...my daughter is also Aquarius and has her conflicts with him!) He has supported me in my discipline issues and upholding standards as a parent (I have been a single parent, as has he, for 12 years) which I appreciate very much...it took me involving him, but he readily responded...
I have custody...but, I encourage his involvment in her life as much as is possible...when she is difficult, I phone him and we work it out together...
Somehow, when we were together, it was not near as smooth. I have never been tempted to give it another "go", but, he has...the end result is, we haven't...
Erick, I wish I had a good answer...an easy answer...I don't.
One thing I do now is concentrate on others not robbing my positive energy with their negative energy! It is a meditation of sorts...
One last thought...there are many who find fault with Aquarians...(hard to fathom, I know!)...I suppose everyone needs to introspect and determine what they can change/what is best for them, etc...
Not much help I know! Glad you are taking "mini adventures"!
Erin

I spent 2-1/2 yrs with one and dang if they ain't wacko i tried really hard too get her too understand I finally just gave up mine had 5 differt peosonalitys but hang in there Erick

Sounds more like a mental problem than anything else cb. My experiences have had their moments with a cancer I once dated, but we had many fun and up times also

Yes Maria very mental and could not fix same with the leo lady
I choice too marry but then there is a reason for everything that
happens in are lives. [smile]

Hey folks, thanks for the great insights into this combination. Erin you are correct in that we Aquarians also have our faults that we don't ponder. I know that I have my fair share and am currently working to change for the better.
You are so right about being with people with positive energy. Lets face it, those with negative energy just end up sucking the life out of those around them. I have been very lucky in recent weeks to have begun some new friendships with some extremely positive people. That energy really keeps one focused.
Well that's all for now. See ya'll later.

Hi cb!
I agree that there is a reason for everything that happens...I try to learn from everything...I do not think I realized I should do this when I was younger...
Belladonna

Good luck to you cb, that must be hard what your going through, but you will make it!!!!!!!

c-b: Yes you are right! There is a reason for everything don't you think?

they say our life is written by the spirit in the sky and we go were we are told. I think he's giving me a well deseved brake :] hahhaaaaaaa

Hey c-b~ (does that mean anything btw? the c-b?)

If you are getting the deserved break- does that mean you are where you want to be or you are where you should be?
Hmmmmmm? Pray tell do tell before I pop open another bubbly.

I'm Aquarius female married to Cancer. Big mistake! They are so needy! I can't stand to constant pressure from Cancer. They are too sensitive and emotional. They need to lighten up! I hate going to a party with them. They become jealous and self-centerd. When I need my "time alone" he thinks I don't love him or don't want him around (I don't want him around for a couple hours. That's why it called "time alone")! He makes me moody! I don't advise this combination. It has been a rough five years! It is not worth the emotional drama! Date Leo. It may not work out but it will be more fun.

it means a brake from crazy ladys like you hahahaaa i like that
ride you took me on hahahaaaaa goodthing this a cyber world
and mom told me about ladys like you hahaaaa just don't leason
too well.

mel darlen don't go leo stay with aq/libra trust me on this one been there and done it. good luck lady

No chance!