Aquarius Issues

Hello, I'm new to the board and you all seem to have great advice. I've been hanging out with an Aquarius guy for a couple months. I am 33, he is 22. We got along great at first. I went out with my friends one night and gave a guy my number. I made the mistake of telling Aqua about (guilty feelings) it. Thats when it all changed. He is moving out of town in a couple weeks. He would only call and talk for a couple minutes and hasnt wanted to hang out. He said he wants to hang out with his friends before he leaves because he wont see them for a long time. Emotional me, caused a big deal about it. Which obviously didnt help. The next day I told him it would be better if he just called after he left because things between us arent fun like they were and they are too serious (my doing), we dont laugh anymore. So he said that was a good idea, he said he had things to get done. He couldnt talk and said he would call me later to talk about it. He called the next night and i didnt answer. Thats been 3 days ago. What should i do? I really like him but I was starting to feel like a booty call or that his friends were WAY more important. Should i just blow him off until he's gone and try and be friends after that, or should i hang out with him one last time before he leaves, if he asks me? He may not even call me since I've blown him off for 3 days.
When i brought up the number thing i told him i had no intentions of hanging out with the other guy and he was completely detached. A few days later i brought it up because i wanted to talk about it and he acted like i was crazy saying he already had forgotten about that. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Hi Cancergirl and welcome 🙂

Gosh, I'm stuck with what to say here....I have learned from my many past experiences that ultimately it is YOU that must make the choice of what to do and it must be made from your heart. Sweetie, I know the feeling of being confused and wanting to do the "right" thing...the right answer is in your heart. Does the path that you are on with him have a heart? Always if you can, take the path with the heart...you will be happier.

I HAD an adventure with an Aqua. male and once is enough for me. I am NOT sliding all Aqua males here as they are not all alike BUT the males all seem to have certain traits that I have seen come up in many relationships causing much pain and dissatisfaction.

I have friends that are with Aqua males and they "seem" to be okay....however, they are either Aqua's themselves or Gem's and come to think of it - some of them are miserable.

I know one thing...if you ignore the Aqua male he will come to you...they do NOT like being ignored, trust me on this one. Go on with your life, have fun...this is YOUR life Missy and YOU choose who YOU want to talk with, go out with and you do NOT need his approval...do NOT give away your power - it is your birthright. Personally, I think you did the right thing by not calling him back...that was your instinct, trust it and be right with it. "Emotional me, caused a big deal about it." You caused a big deal about it because it WAS and you needed to express your feelings - again, trust your feelings sweetie. When in a good relationship, one will not feel the way you are feeling...you would be experiencing a peaceful, knowing feeling of safeness.

Another thing, why would you desire to be with a man that makes you feel like a "booty call?" seems to me that he may not be respecting you....not a good sign.

Honestly....let him go - thank him for the experience and move on...there is someone out there who will treat you like the precious woman you are...don't put up with less than you deserve. Those are just my thoughts but again, you are the one that needs to make her choice. I wish you the best and I hope all works out so that you feel good about you!

Blessings,

Freebird

next time get a sixteen year old, you can train them better than the older ones. Also they are still in school and cant run away.

Thanks Freebird. I will follow your advice. Sometimes i just dont trust my intuition because i do get emotional sometimes when i shouldnt. You are a real sweetie. Thanks again for your input. 🙂

Old Jake,
What I've come to realize is that men have been dating younger women for many, many years. No one said or cared anything about that. I've also realized that no matter what the guys age, 20,30,35, it doesnt matter, they can be just as immature and play all the same games. So it doesnt really matter. It only seems to be a problem now with men because we are doing the same things they have been doing for years.

There's a tear in my beer, It's a good thing Aq. can look forward to, Is People that like to chunck sticks and stones. : ]
Aint noughting broke here. we still love aya. and that din't a hurt a bit to say. LAALoony's

Hi CB 🙂 So ya been hittin the beer? Appears that there might be beer in your tear and yes, it is a GREAT thing that Aqua's have the ability to not take things personally.

Now, you know perfectly well that Aqua-Velvet Man Cancergirl is speaking of is doing her wrong...no can do - sorry about that.

Ya know CB maybe you could enlighten us here with why do the male Aquas do what they do and why are they so afraid of intimacy? A-Ka-rumba! What is living anyway if you cannot access the heart muscle?

Next question...why do the Aqua males all of a sudden out of nowhere just go away for weeks at a time and then saunter back on the scene as if nothing ever happened?

My Aqua pal would constantly say that he was "messed up" and that no one understood him. Hmmmm...me wonders why?

Yep, I did the nasty and asked him politely to exit my life and respect me by not calling me or contacting me in any form. Well, that lasted approx. 3 mos and now he has begun to email me....no, I am not responding. Too many head games were played and I ended the game - I chose not to play anymore Reindeer games! Santa was more fun to play with anyway.

I still luv ya too CB....you can be the guy who helps us to understand your kind. If you don't mind that is.

Toasting a beer to the new Aqua decoder CB!!! 😉

O.K. C.G. how about two of them some men go for too women. you can have two men.

Its simple do unto others as you would others do to you, thats why it never works. Punch me in the eye you better duck. : ] I hate saying that but dang its true, and very human. BUDA.

meaning giving and caring about anyone gets old when the karma of caring is not returned, but trust me the good allways in a peoson heart is returned 10 folds only to to do good again.
C-B

LAALoony's : ]

C-B YOU are spot on my love...I only wish the Aqua guy I knew would have thought the same way you did....oh well. His dealy and he needs to worry about that...Now, I have been in contact with an Aries gent from my past and he is sooooooo kind, caring and thoughtful. Sometimes we need to experience the "bad stuff" in order to appreciate the GOOD STUFF ya know? Either way, it's ALL good.

thanks C-B for your wise input....got more?

I dont think I'm meant to be with an Aqua. Last weekend (New Years) he waited until late to call me and so I told him I was sleeping and didnt want to hang out. I did that 2 nights in a row (he didnt learn after the first night). So he hung up sorta mad at me. A couple days later I heard that he told someone i only wanted to have sex and not try anything else (which was not true), none the less it made me mad.
He called last night (he is leaving today) and said he was hanging out with his friends for awhile and that he'd call later. Well it was like 2:15 and i sent him a text message saying to call me sometime and that i was going to bed. I guess i thought maybe he'd call back and say "no, i want to hang out". That never happend. I was so mad i couldnt sleep and sent one last message saying "on second thought...dont call. I suck in bed anyway. Have a nice life".
I dont really understand why he wouldnt want to hang out the night before he left. He shouldnt of called then to begin with. It seems like they play too many games. I know Aquas like hanging out with their friends and all, but what am i then? He's been saying since we first met that he wanted to keep in touch after he leaves and will pay for half of my plane ticket to go see him. IT IS SO FRUSTRATING.
Anyway, sorry to ramble, but i needed to vent.

Hey there CG....no need to apologize for ramblin - that is what we are here for to HELP if we can - you ramble, tamble, bamble - sample all you want and for as long as you like...you got the board girl and it's about YOU!

Okay, I'm gonna through some "thoughts" out there or "red flags" for you and you can do whatever you want with them..up to you kiddo.

#1- "he waited until late to call me." when a guy waits till late to call a girl it is because, he wants a bootie call. A respectable man will call and make plans with a girl he really cares for in advance...like a day ahead or so.

#2- "he did that two nights in a row." Men don't give up easily esp. Aquarians...they will try EVERY trick they can think of to get what they want...you gots to out smart those little wipper snappers and out smarted they can be!
He hung up on you because he did not get what he wanted...my aqua speciman did all kinds of things when he did not get what he wanted - at times I thought he was about 5 yrs. old.

Yep, he turned the tables...they are good at getting revenge...it's their ego. Don't let that bother you...you know the truth and so does he...his ego was burned and he wanted to get back at you - sort of like so you can feel his pain.

#3 - "I don't really understand why he wouldn't want to hang out the night before he left." Because he already knew he wasn't going to get any sex...no point in hanging around for him - his intention was not going to be fulfilled.

He revealved himself to you by his actions...be glad that he is moving on..this is a gift to you my dear. See?

You also say that you are not meant to be with Aquas...you are right in a sense...not THAT one but, there may be another that saunters into your world who will respect and honour you...what I'm saying is do not exclude all of them because of one bad apple.

Cheer up sweetie, the sun is about to come out and you soon will be sharing exciting news with us... YES! 😉

silly me...spelling error...through should be THROW...my fingers were not behaving!!!

When will my bake potatoes be ready. : ] they been in the oven over 2 hours. ; ]

Thanks Freebird. He wasnt like that at first. It was all good until the number thing came up. On Christmas his card said he hasnt been this happy in a couple years.
Thats the sucky thing about dating. Guys (maybe even girls) will be a certain way to win you over, once they have, or think they have, they feel they dont have to try anymore.
I went out with my friend drinking last night. Big mistake. I started getting all depressed. I hate being a Cancer sometimes because although the last couple weeks with him werent that great, my mind is stuck on the good. I guess it's the whole past thing we cant let go.
My friend that set us up is really mad at me. She is dating his friend, and they are both mad at her for telling me. I promised her i wouldnt say anything, but i couldnt control it any longer. All day yesterday they were mad at her.
So I guess if he was mad that i found out, hopefully he feels stupid too for saying it.
I havent totally given up on Aquas. I can see though the whole detachment thing may drive me a little crazy.
Thanks for all your input. You are a sweetheart.

My Lady Freebird Your 3 reason seem to apply to all men except me : ] what to pull my toe on this one. Lady Cancer stay a Lady.

Thanks Atlantic Myst.
Ok, so it's been a week tomorrow that he moved out of state. I told him have a nice life and not to call me.
So out of the blue tonight Aqua calls and leaves a message
"I know your probably mad at me, but I'd really like to talk to you". What is up with that? I think i read on here that Aquas hate rejection, so is this a way for him to not feel rejected, by me calling him back? I'm pretty sure i wont be calling back, but now he's got me analyzing again.
😢

I dont think i have any self control sometimes.
I ended up calling Aqua tonight. He said he missed me and was really happy to hear my voice. He said he regreted not seeing me before he left and made me promise that i would go down there sometime soon to see him and we'd hang out the whole time and blah, blah, blah.
I'm such a sucker.

Hi CG! So glad that you were able to connect with your Aqua pal - I'm sure it felt good to hear that he missed you and would like to see you again and I sure he would cuz you sound like a great person.

With all due respect here...since he desires to see YOU - why don't you invite him to come to visit you instead of you going there? His answer will let you know exactly where you stand with him. If he makes that effort to come to you then he really cares for you...if he comes up with an excuse as to why he cannot then...it just may be possible that he is in for a good time and wants to you make all the effort....honey, as I have said before...YOU deserve much more...let the man come to YOU!

AM is correct as well as that he is now in another state...think about this but while thinking...think what it is that you deserve in a relationship and never settle for less.

Best wishes my friend 🙂