Are we really that different?

Has anyone ever felt so different that they just don't seem to fit it anywhere?

Sure, everyone has those moments..I think the trick to it is to not let on to everyone you associate with that you're feeling too different or that you cannot relate. Don't give yourself away so much in other words. Of course, be true to yourself and others but, I guess it'sike high school, if you let others know that you "don't belong", they'll pick that emotion up from you. It's probably just a phase. Take care.

I agree with Sloane.

I find I need a balance of time with people and time alone to feel the most "at peace" within...otherwise, I get sensory overload and begin to feel nervous...(that is the only word that comes to my head...)

No matter what there are times I feel I do not click with others...mostly, for me it is with angry, negative people who tend to lash out at others...
But, that does not mean that I have not felt it with those I feel I should click with...

As Sloane said, it will pass...

Wishing you the best!
Star

thanks for the help. I feel at the moment that I just don't fit in anywhere with anyone anymore and its not a good feeling, like I am getting very isolated and I used to be very social. I find I feel that mostly in group situations. I just don't relate to people right now very much, and I feel I could just go off and live on my own completely, but I wish I did connect.

: ] No we are all human and have differt feelings but the main thing is to realize is whats in one's heart : ] hahahhahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa a good feeling show it daily. ; ]

ALL people are different - it's a fact of life.

Being a "misfit" can be more common among people with learning disabilities. I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is high-functioning autism. I was born and will die a misfit. For more information try www.aane.org and asc-us.org.

I'm a Virgo and a 34-year-old aspie who was ALWAYS a misfit, but I get therapy and take medicine to calm anxiety. Every day is a struggle, but I am a survivor.

Hi Virgo! and Welcome!

I am not familiar with Asberger's Syndrome so thank you for the site. I applaud you in being a "survivor". You sound like a wonderful person.

Glad to have heard from you.
Take Care.
Star

Well I don't have a learning disability, I think that because I am living in a foreign country that it makes it much harder to fit in, when you don't relate to their humour or customes and it makes you feel sort of isolated, but I guess I just have to work harder at finding people I enjoy being with. I never was much for crowds anyway.

I think it just goes to show that a lot of people for different reasons can feel that they don't connect, maybe that is just human nature.

Maybe it is a matter of getting others to conform to us and not the other way around. These differences, "vibes" if you will, could be caused by many peoples reactions to our thoughts and ideas, which in all the whacked out books on astrology say that Aquarians are supposed to be forward thinking and futuristic. Maybe it's the logic behind our ideas that causes some to stir, even laugh. I've been stone cold serious about some very solid ideas that were'nt taken seriously simply because they broke from the norm. In all situations (almost all) try to leave things better than what they were. Part of our stubborness probably derives from us taking our original ideas that we put forth and seeing them into fruition. Food for thought.
Erick

Star, thank you very much for trying to understanding me. As a Virgoan aspie, every day is a struggle. Knowing I'm not alone is the best way to help myself avoid unnecessary embarrassments.

You are entirely welcome!

I always enjoy meeting new people and learning new things...

Keep in touch and have a wonderful day!

Star

To the original poster,

I, too, feel that sometimes I don't belong anywhere but I came to this site 7 months ago and made friends and now I feel that I do belong somewhere. You have come to this site to look for help but you have also made friends. When you feel you need someone to talk to come here and we will be here for you.

Erick, it is good to see you again. I haven't seen you for awhile. You are always wonderful in giving 'food for thought'. Thank you.

Have a good day,
Mt_Moonshine

I wouldn't mention the word "misfit" or imply it - the original poster doesn't sound like one. You say you're in a foreign country?? Well there's your answer! It's very understandable as to why you feel the way you do. I know plenty about other lands and yes, customs and social mores are entirely different whereever you go. You wouldn't happen to be in Norway would you? Or the countryside of England? I'm just guessing. Cheer up. it'll probably all end some day soon. In the words of George Harrison: "All things must pass".

There are many roads of life and the card we are dealt is a chalenge that we must take on so : ] and meet it head on and bust though and remember the rainbow on the other side of is the Ace in the hole we all look fer. c-b

I have been someone that didn't fit in all of my life, it has taken me 20 years to figure out that if I was any onther way I would be lost

Yes your right Sloane, I think that part of the problem is that the country I am living in is very "cold" and unfriendly, which makes it harder. So its hard for me to know if its my situation or myself because I don't fit in at all. I guess I just have to learn to make the most of it, for everything is temporary, like you said, and this to shall pass. I have also learned from this board, how many people also feel that different.

Hi there again,

Ok, so you know that it's due to the country you're in...well, I think it comes down to this, if the situation you're in is completely out of your control, then there is nothing you can do except to "go with the flow". I know it's easier said then done but you may have to live by this credo. Since you can't change the people youre surrounded by (and why would you?), somehow, maybe you can adapt to them by becoming like them?

P.S.

That would be the answer I guess, .....If the people you have to deal with on an everyday basis are cold, distant and unfriendly, be cold, distant and unfriendly back. Maybe it's that easy?