Can anyone help with insight or advice?

diaries of a BOOTY CALL lol

it's blatant that he sees ur guys' situation as a "friends w/ benefits" deal. it's always easy for women to get attached to guys first esp when ur having sexual relations. it's easy: if u want more out of a relationship, tell him how u feel OR if ur afraid he won't want to commit, keep having sex and secretly pray it evolves into something more

hope everything works out!

my take, from my experience and what i'm reading how you placed it.

Posted by Candy75
I was sleeping and didn't hear my phone but I called him the next morning and we talked for about an hour. He told me I was a great person, he missed my friendship, and asked me if we should "hold off on the physical stuff for a while." Then he told me that if I found someone else, he would be completely happy for me but he would still call me for sex.

he was wrestling with the idea that he wanted to pursue something 'real' with you and the possibility of giving you a shot(since you guys mesh)..it was a 'test'. the last part was because he felt vulnerable and he wanted to play it off.


I did go see him, we had sex, and he asked me when we were done, "You aren't going to get all emotionally attached to me or some bullshit, are you?" I am not sure where that came from... but he was actually kind of mean to me afterwards (didn't want me touching him or being physically close to him), and he hasn't ever acted like that before. I finally told him that I had occupied enough of his time and that I was going to leave. Then he told me that I could occupy as much of his time as I wanted. What?! Can anyone give me any insight or advice at all? He is a great guy really, and I like him a lot, but I would like to know if this is just sex or is it more than sex. I just can't read him...

you overstep the parameters, as in if you really wanted to pursue something with him, you wouldn't have slept with him, he was disappointed and just started projecting his insecurities on you. Basically you failed..don't feel bad, aqua tests are about as stupid and unfair as scorpio tests.

basically you aren't the one with issues, he is. i think the more you develop feelings for him, the harder and meaner he's going to be.

By you just valuing him for sex and settling for that is saying to him that you don't value him as a person. He needs more than that for a true relationship to form. He needs a friend first, not just a girl he can use whenever.

I got that from an Aqua male I dated who completely confused me for awhile however we didn't have sex. He did the hot/cold thing for awhile and finally revealed certain things about how he thinks about relationships. I used to think Aqua's were cold but they are really great people once you get to know them well. In love, they are solid and quite dedicated unlike what you typically read here. He needs a woman to understand him more on a mental level rather than the physical although yes, they are very hot physically 😉. Still, they need more than that to fall in love with someone. So, if you want him, offer friendship first. Spend quality time together outside of the bedroom and if there really is a great mental/emotional connection, then maybe you might get somewhere with him.

"You aren't going to get all emotionally attached to me or some bullshit, are you?" I am not sure where that came from... but he was actually kind of mean to me afterwards (didn't want me touching him or being physically close to him), and he hasn't ever acted like that before.

Wow. What an asshole.

Posted by Mistery
By you just valuing him for sex and settling for that is saying to him that you don't value him as a person. He needs more than that for a true relationship to form. He needs a friend first, not just a girl he can use whenever.

I got that from an Aqua male I dated who completely confused me for awhile however we didn't have sex. He did the hot/cold thing for awhile and finally revealed certain things about how he thinks about relationships. I used to think Aqua's were cold but they are really great people once you get to know them well. In love, they are solid and quite dedicated unlike what you typically read here. He needs a woman to understand him more on a mental level rather than the physical although yes, they are very hot physically 😉. Still, they need more than that to fall in love with someone. So, if you want him, offer friendship first. Spend quality time together outside of the bedroom and if there really is a great mental/emotional connection, then maybe you might get somewhere with him.

^^ totally agree w/ all this! all my relationships have been w/ people where we started off as friends first. or @ least dated first b4 getting intimate. for all the people i've gotten intimiate with first they just remain booty calls and it's always never gone anywhere from that.

for me personally, once u treat me as a booty call i'll always c u that way. even if there's a booty call i might kinda have feelings for i would never say anything just b/c id assume the way things started, mayb ther not interested. also, im very anti-"talking about emotions" that i could never initiate the talk about how i feel, so me not saying anything is makes everything less complicated n more easier. BUT, if that person ended up initiating the mushy talk himself n i did like him then we cud probably start something.

mayb he wudnt mind but just doesn't wana initiate the mushy talk. or maybe all he rily wants IS a booty call. long explanation sorry, but w/ that said again, if u wana kno u just gota ask cuz the possibility of him wanting something more cud b there...