Crushing on an Aquarius dude.

I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. I went on a get together with my crush from middle school. We hadn't seen each other in 12 or so years. We talked, found out we both liked each other but had no clue. It was pretty cute.

Flash forward to later in the night, he starts flirting with another woman at our table in our group of friends. I pull him aside, and bluntly say, "Don't hit on this woman. I'm here. I'm pretty, intelligent, and you can take me home with a lot less bs involved". Most guys I know would be put off by my pitch, but we go back to his place, have weird sex all night. Then the sun comes up and I leave.

This seems like such a poor idea. Yeah, I know. But when you've wanted something for over a decade, it's worth it to seize the opportunity at hand. Plus, I honestly do not think it will affect our friendship which I can't say about a lot of people.

But here is the kicker. I'm a Sag, Pisces Rising, Cancer Moon, with an Aqua venus. I want to keep this going, but as a casual relationship. I'm not sure how to show him I'm interested in him without freaking him out or making him feel pressured, or coming off as a slut. I told him to call me after the holidays, and I really have no intention of calling him. I'm really sweet, but have distant periods, need a lot of alone time, and really only see relationships as a supplementation to the life I already have. I find most relationships tedious and oppressive.

So basically I'm asking if I should just leave him alone and see if he ever wanders over to me, or let him know that I dig him, want to spend time with him, but in a very relaxed way. I do not want a relationship right now. But he's smart and cute, and I do like him.

Just some sort of advice in general.

Posted by CookieJarvis
I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. I went on a get together with my crush from middle school. We hadn't seen each other in 12 or so years. We talked, found out we both liked each other but had no clue. It was pretty cute.

Flash forward to later in the night, he starts flirting with another woman at our table in our group of friends. I pull him aside, and bluntly say, "Don't hit on this woman. I'm here. I'm pretty, intelligent, and you can take me home with a lot less bs involved". Most guys I know would be put off by my pitch, but we go back to his place, have weird sex all night. Then the sun comes up and I leave.

This seems like such a poor idea. Yeah, I know. But when you've wanted something for over a decade, it's worth it to seize the opportunity at hand. Plus, I honestly do not think it will affect our friendship which I can't say about a lot of people.

But here is the kicker. I'm a Sag, Pisces Rising, Cancer Moon, with an Aqua venus. I want to keep this going, but as a casual relationship. I'm not sure how to show him I'm interested in him without freaking him out or making him feel pressured, or coming off as a slut. I told him to call me after the holidays, and I really have no intention of calling him. I'm really sweet, but have distant periods, need a lot of alone time, and really only see relationships as a supplementation to the life I already have. I find most relationships tedious and oppressive.

So basically I'm asking if I should just leave him alone and see if he ever wanders over to me, or let him know that I dig him, want to spend time with him, but in a very relaxed way. I do not want a relationship right now. But he's smart and cute, and I do like him.

Just some sort of advice in general.

You don't want a relationship with him but, you are interested in what exactly? This has hot mess train wreck written all over it. Walk away before the psychodrama starts. I sense that he was put off by the pitch but, took the sex which you were offering anyway. $ 10 bucks says that he is gonna try to make a legitimate play for the woman sitting at the table. You will be relegated to being a side order.

I'm interested in having crazy sex off and on with someone I legitimately like and care about as a human outside of the societal constructs of a "normal" relationship. I don't really get the feeling either of us are drama prone. I run at the smallest whiff of drama.

And he was really drunk and probably would of made a play at a bar stool assuming it was a women with one leg and an aloof nature.

Posted by CookieJarvis
I'm interested in having crazy sex off and on with someone I legitimately like and care about as a human outside of the societal constructs of a "normal" relationship. I don't really get the feeling either of us are drama prone. I run at the smallest whiff of drama.

And he was really drunk and probably would of made a play at a bar stool assuming it was a women with one leg and an aloof nature.

Let it play out without worrying about how things will be taken. If anything goes off course in terms of what you want, address it then. Trying to address it now will just complicate things because you don't know if there's anything to clarify, m'dear!

Posted by Huntress

Posted by CookieJarvis
I'm interested in having crazy sex off and on with someone I legitimately like and care about as a human outside of the societal constructs of a "normal" relationship. I don't really get the feeling either of us are drama prone. I run at the smallest whiff of drama.

And he was really drunk and probably would of made a play at a bar stool assuming it was a women with one leg and an aloof nature.

Let it play out without worrying about how things will be taken. If anything goes off course in terms of what you want, address it then. Trying to address it now will just complicate things because you don't know if there's anything to clarify, m'dear!

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This.^