ScorpioFemale79
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Do aquarius men believe in letting the woman lead?
Well you are a scorpio which probably means you like to feel in control.... Some would probably call you a control freak. I know it's not necessarily something you all do for suspicious motives or w/e. It's just what makes you scorpions feel comfortable and at ease. I can understand the frustration from him asking your advice on everything. Why is he being payed the big salary to lead if he is coming to you. Maybe your thinking you should be the one who gets payed the money maybe so who knows. I'm not there so I can't say for sure. I do know that if a TRUE Aquarian is asking for your advice then it is a sign of your importance to him.... possibly his way of showing it normally I would assume he would make his decisions no problem IF he is a true Aquarian. Aquarius men definitely are not followers. They are typically either leaders or loners following their own path whether there are followers or not. However, the does not mean they can choose to follow... every Aqua is sorta different in their own special way... I would say if you wanted his help you should have just asked him directly.... he will respond better to that then trying to run off his intuition and his gut. While Aquarians are not to bad at it I don't think we naturally trust it because it's just not are way of doing things I guess. Like you said earlier we can be pretty oblivious to hints a lot of the time sorry :/
If it bothers you probably should reconsider your interest.
If it bothers you probably should reconsider your interest.
As a side note scorpfemale79 you are relentless. Short of opening a school for dealing with aquas i guess this place is as good any. He delegated a project to you being the senior team member. One that he hoped you could handle. Sadly he was wrong. I dont run my department by doing everything myself. Nor do i need to i delegate and supervise. I try to empower my people so they can improve themselves. Someone needs to do my job when i am promoted after all. Seems you failed his test.
I don't think Aquas have any problems letting the woman lead but as you said he probably knows he's the senior and have to take responsibility for the event. Letting you lead might be an act of faith, as an aqua boss myself I usually place faith in who I empower to do certain tasks.
If I feel something is off I help and in this case if he likes you he would help regardless anyway. It's not a matter of not trusting you to get the job done it's just our innate nature to help those we love.
If I feel something is off I help and in this case if he likes you he would help regardless anyway. It's not a matter of not trusting you to get the job done it's just our innate nature to help those we love.
@nos. out of anyone in our department he trusts me the most cause I've done things that no one else has ever been to pull off. That us why top management pull me into higher level stuff. Aqua has told others that he values me alot and without me he wouldn't be able to do much
Why he says I run the dept I don't know. It's probably cause he knows I know as much as him if not moreso which he also told others.
I asked the question if he always waiting for me to tell him what to do with anything whether its an event or what not. If hes "lead" he needs to play the part 100% of the time. With this event it wasnt assigned to me I just started doing it. Cause he wasnt planning it nor did he delegate it out and you cannot plan a 100 attendee event last minute.
I got pissed off when I was doing last minute prep and putting together 100 packets last minute cause he didnt do anything about it so i had to remind him to give it to me. So when I was pissed off cause I ended up having to do these things last minute because if him instead of last minute he just sat there checking his email and the while day he kept interrupting me with questions, needing my opinion, or asking me pointless questions on things that are not important right now.
Them he asked (I guess to be helpful) about if I checked to see if custodial set up the room correctly, he could have just checked himself instead of asking me. And exasperated i said "no I obviously don't have time michaellllllllllllll?"
So he said nothing and checked. Then he came back and asked me what can he work on. If we had day down to discuss last minute details hed know). And I said you know what you could have worked on was printing all the handouts 6 hours ago thats what I needed. He said nothing and figured on his in what he could assist with. Which was put business cards in the folder pockets. When he finished that he asked which hand outs he could put in the folders. I said "nothing cause like I said they are STILL printing". So he went to check the printer and very little was finish printing. So he could do nothing
Its not just with this event he just never seems to know how to assist or do anything. He always asks me what he can do and it's like isnt he the lead?? Hes the one that needs to delegate things
But he keeps asking me all the time what he should do with various projects and its like wtf. It's. compliment but I never signed up to be anyone's mama or his "other half".
Why he says I run the dept I don't know. It's probably cause he knows I know as much as him if not moreso which he also told others.
I asked the question if he always waiting for me to tell him what to do with anything whether its an event or what not. If hes "lead" he needs to play the part 100% of the time. With this event it wasnt assigned to me I just started doing it. Cause he wasnt planning it nor did he delegate it out and you cannot plan a 100 attendee event last minute.
I got pissed off when I was doing last minute prep and putting together 100 packets last minute cause he didnt do anything about it so i had to remind him to give it to me. So when I was pissed off cause I ended up having to do these things last minute because if him instead of last minute he just sat there checking his email and the while day he kept interrupting me with questions, needing my opinion, or asking me pointless questions on things that are not important right now.
Them he asked (I guess to be helpful) about if I checked to see if custodial set up the room correctly, he could have just checked himself instead of asking me. And exasperated i said "no I obviously don't have time michaellllllllllllll?"
So he said nothing and checked. Then he came back and asked me what can he work on. If we had day down to discuss last minute details hed know). And I said you know what you could have worked on was printing all the handouts 6 hours ago thats what I needed. He said nothing and figured on his in what he could assist with. Which was put business cards in the folder pockets. When he finished that he asked which hand outs he could put in the folders. I said "nothing cause like I said they are STILL printing". So he went to check the printer and very little was finish printing. So he could do nothing
Its not just with this event he just never seems to know how to assist or do anything. He always asks me what he can do and it's like isnt he the lead?? Hes the one that needs to delegate things
But he keeps asking me all the time what he should do with various projects and its like wtf. It's. compliment but I never signed up to be anyone's mama or his "other half".
Well it could be his true self that he's a terrible senior. Maybe he does lack all the necessary skills to get things accomplished but are you viewing this particular issue from a professional standpoint or a personal standpoint?
ok my post was abit d!ck headish you are venting i took it personaly.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
@nos. out of anyone in our department he trusts me the most cause I've done things that no one else has ever been to pull off. That us why top management pull me into higher level stuff. Aqua has told others that he values me alot and without me he wouldn't be able to do much
Why he says I run the dept I don't know. It's probably cause he knows I know as much as him if not moreso which he also told others.
I asked the question if he always waiting for me to tell him what to do with anything whether its an event or what not. If hes "lead" he needs to play the part 100% of the time. With this event it wasnt assigned to me I just started doing it. Cause he wasnt planning it nor did he delegate it out and you cannot plan a 100 attendee event last minute.
I got pissed off when I was doing last minute prep and putting together 100 packets last minute cause he didnt do anything about it so i had to remind him to give it to me. So when I was pissed off cause I ended up having to do these things last minute because if him instead of last minute he just sat there checking his email and the while day he kept interrupting me with questions, needing my opinion, or asking me pointless questions on things that are not important right now.
Them he asked (I guess to be helpful) about if I checked to see if custodial set up the room correctly, he could have just checked himself instead of asking me. And exasperated i said "no I obviously don't have time michaellllllllllllll?"
So he said nothing and checked. Then he came back and asked me what can he work on. If we had day down to discuss last minute details hed know). And I said you know what you could have worked on was printing all the handouts 6 hours ago thats what I needed. He said nothing and figured on his in what he could assist with. Which was put business cards in the folder pockets. When he finished that he asked which hand outs he could put in the folders. I said "nothing cause like I said they are STILL printing". So he went to check the printer and very little was finish printing. So he could do nothing
Its not just with this event he just never seems to know how to assist or do anything. He always asks me what he can do and it's like isnt he the lead?? Hes the one that needs to delegate things
But he keeps asking me all the time what he should do with various projects and it
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
@nos. out of anyone in our department he trusts me the most cause I've done things that no one else has ever been to pull off. That us why top management pull me into higher level stuff. Aqua has told others that he values me alot and without me he wouldn't be able to do much
Why he says I run the dept I don't know. It's probably cause he knows I know as much as him if not moreso which he also told others.
I asked the question if he always waiting for me to tell him what to do with anything whether its an event or what not. If hes "lead" he needs to play the part 100% of the time. With this event it wasnt assigned to me I just started doing it. Cause he wasnt planning it nor did he delegate it out and you cannot plan a 100 attendee event last minute.
I got pissed off when I was doing last minute prep and putting together 100 packets last minute cause he didnt do anything about it so i had to remind him to give it to me. So when I was pissed off cause I ended up having to do these things last minute because if him instead of last minute he just sat there checking his email and the while day he kept interrupting me with questions, needing my opinion, or asking me pointless questions on things that are not important right now.
Them he asked (I guess to be helpful) about if I checked to see if custodial set up the room correctly, he could have just checked himself instead of asking me. And exasperated i said "no I obviously don't have time michaellllllllllllll?"
So he said nothing and checked. Then he came back and asked me what can he work on. If we had day down to discuss last minute details hed know). And I said you know what you could have worked on was printing all the handouts 6 hours ago thats what I needed. He said nothing and figured on his in what he could assist with. Which was put business cards in the folder pockets. When he finished that he asked which hand outs he could put in the folders. I said "nothing cause like I said they are STILL printing". So he went to check the printer and very little was finish printing. So he could do nothing
Its not just with this event he just never seems to know how to assist or do anything. He always asks me what he can do and it's like isnt he the lead?? Hes the one that needs to delegate things
But he keeps asking me all the time what he should do with various projects and it
You were much clearer in this post. maybe the job is over his head. Lacking the skill set to do the job doesnt have anything to do with his sun sign. If planning parties isnt his thing or has never done it lets just string him up. Joke dont do it 🙂 Venting is good and if he gets fired you can finally ask him out. For love of god i hope that happens.
You were much clearer in this post. maybe the job is over his head. Lacking the skill set to do the job doesnt have anything to do with his sun sign. If planning parties isnt his thing or has never done it lets just string him up. Joke dont do it 🙂 Venting is good and if he gets fired you can finally ask him out. For love of god i hope that happens.
you know the two threads simultaneously going on is seriously stretching my attention span lol. And I agree with EvilTurtle to some extent are you actually just here to discuss your particular Aqua or using DXP as a form of frustration release?
So okay the Aqua was the one left in charge of your department. Me personally I've always been placed in a more management role because I prove stability and leadership, I show respect to the bosses all the while caring for the underlings perhaps because I care about those I work with as much as I care about the business itself. For the business to perform I always needed those who I worked with to perform with me.
What I find you said about "yay I'm free" in the other thread does strike me in some way because there was a time at my old job where I was placed into that position. The higher ups refused to lend a hand and the lower downs didn't care much and all of a sudden everything was my fault. Things that needed to be approved and organised weren't being done because of the higher ups and any plans to move forward wasn't taken aboard by anyone else. Being in that environment can totally stress me out.
The difference here is that maybe he just 'broke' under the pressure OR in fact he just didn't know what to do because he was placed in that position without the necessary skills and now you have a taste of what he had to deal with in his department *shrugs*.
What you don't realise is that it might be the nature of the company you work for and you are taking this personally perhaps because you wanted to believe in this Aqua?
This is why I never date anyone from work.
So okay the Aqua was the one left in charge of your department. Me personally I've always been placed in a more management role because I prove stability and leadership, I show respect to the bosses all the while caring for the underlings perhaps because I care about those I work with as much as I care about the business itself. For the business to perform I always needed those who I worked with to perform with me.
What I find you said about "yay I'm free" in the other thread does strike me in some way because there was a time at my old job where I was placed into that position. The higher ups refused to lend a hand and the lower downs didn't care much and all of a sudden everything was my fault. Things that needed to be approved and organised weren't being done because of the higher ups and any plans to move forward wasn't taken aboard by anyone else. Being in that environment can totally stress me out.
The difference here is that maybe he just 'broke' under the pressure OR in fact he just didn't know what to do because he was placed in that position without the necessary skills and now you have a taste of what he had to deal with in his department *shrugs*.
What you don't realise is that it might be the nature of the company you work for and you are taking this personally perhaps because you wanted to believe in this Aqua?
This is why I never date anyone from work.
Lol turtle. My intention was to find out if its an aqua thing, make thing or him thing.
Nos, both but pro moreso. I only got out in that department to help him get the department in order. No where in that did i agree to be a pseudo work gf, his mama, co-lead all in one. I mean I appreciate the compliment that he values me more than anyone and plays favorites but its wrong of him to place thT unnessary burden on me. I mean I wake up in the middle of the night worrying about projects he should be worrying about not me.
I think if he truly wants to be helpful. He needs to delegate more, stop asking how he can help when he knows enough to jump in, and to stop asking me questions.
Nos, both but pro moreso. I only got out in that department to help him get the department in order. No where in that did i agree to be a pseudo work gf, his mama, co-lead all in one. I mean I appreciate the compliment that he values me more than anyone and plays favorites but its wrong of him to place thT unnessary burden on me. I mean I wake up in the middle of the night worrying about projects he should be worrying about not me.
I think if he truly wants to be helpful. He needs to delegate more, stop asking how he can help when he knows enough to jump in, and to stop asking me questions.
I just assumed it was an aqua MALE thing because I have an aqua friend that I was friends with in another life and he comes across the same way. Both aquas I think are idealists but sit around twiddling their thumbs waiting for someone to give him the answer
I know work aqua is capable of delegating I've seen him try before lol.
While I appreciate the faith he has. He should stop waiting for me to tell him what do
I know work aqua is capable of delegating I've seen him try before lol.
While I appreciate the faith he has. He should stop waiting for me to tell him what do
My aqua friend that I just reunited with he has always wanted to be a pilot. He asked me how he should come up with the 50k for the training to be a commercial pilot
I said save money or get a kian or borrow from someone. And he sat there as if still lost.
I think aquas are "idea" people not doers
I should have them take a true colors test
I said save money or get a kian or borrow from someone. And he sat there as if still lost.
I think aquas are "idea" people not doers
I should have them take a true colors test
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
I just assumed it was an aqua MALE thing because I have an aqua friend that I was friends with in another life and he comes across the same way. Both aquas I think are idealists but sit around twiddling their thumbs waiting for someone to give him the answer
I know work aqua is capable of delegating I've seen him try before lol.
While I appreciate the faith he has. He should stop waiting for me to tell him what do
It can be attributed as an Aqua trait for sure I won't deny that. In my teens I was a bit like that but that was more so to do with my own goals and dreams and not my professional life.
Me personally I've had to survive on my own since I was 14 so there's a lot of pressure for me to perform and reaching the top. We are idealists for sure but some do have that practicality to apply the ideas. In your case I don't think your aqua can or maybe he chose not to, it will depend on other influencing factors.
My main deciding factor is, everything in life is our there for me to take and only I can take it.
For you to work him out you might need to view things outside of work perspective. That's if you're keen on doing so because like I said I give off a very different vibe at work as opposed to outside of work.
Your are somewhat right.... We are good at coming up with great ideas... A lot of times most Aquas hate the details... -shrug-
I would like to think I actually act on my great ideas but I know I don't always follow through like how I should Or I should say I don't always in a timely fashion! I like details just sometimes they bore me. You want someone who can solve a problem or come up with a way to resolve a situation an Aquarian is usually good at that they just a lot if times don't want to be the one who actually has to perform the idea they have to solve the situation I guess unless they have to be. I dunno I might be generalizing Aquarians to much so pardon me my fellow Aquas if I have offended thee ^.^
I would like to think I actually act on my great ideas but I know I don't always follow through like how I should Or I should say I don't always in a timely fashion! I like details just sometimes they bore me. You want someone who can solve a problem or come up with a way to resolve a situation an Aquarian is usually good at that they just a lot if times don't want to be the one who actually has to perform the idea they have to solve the situation I guess unless they have to be. I dunno I might be generalizing Aquarians to much so pardon me my fellow Aquas if I have offended thee ^.^
And I'll take blame nothing stopped me from telling Jim what to do before I let it exasperate me but hes the lead. We've done this event many times. He knows what needs to be done and what is missing. Unless hes an indecisive aqua. But I don't wanna be his mama.
But I think after the event ill apologize to him. I'm usually laid back but he pushes my buttons!
But I think after the event ill apologize to him. I'm usually laid back but he pushes my buttons!
I think apology is good but make sure you confront him about certain situations like you mentioned in this post. Let him know that you like the fact he places his trust in you but at the same time you feel so much pressure and point out in detail how he is letting you down. Might be something like,
"I know you care and want to help out but I feel overwhelmed when I have to deal with what I consider to be crucial to the success of the event when you could've lent a hand in delegating or organising this".
Maybe even chuck in you feel like he's let you down, that'll make him snap right out of it. Make sure you look extra sad and hurt 😉 *starts a book, ways to guilt trip the Aqua*
"I know you care and want to help out but I feel overwhelmed when I have to deal with what I consider to be crucial to the success of the event when you could've lent a hand in delegating or organising this".
Maybe even chuck in you feel like he's let you down, that'll make him snap right out of it. Make sure you look extra sad and hurt 😉 *starts a book, ways to guilt trip the Aqua*
Oh we've had that discussion a million times. I think his whole life hes had women tell him what to lol
I think he may even loveeee it lol
I think he may even loveeee it lol
Aqua men like strong women. It makes them feel secure. Bitchy mean-spirited women are a turn-off to them though.
I've read they like intelligent and independent women and thatsssss me lol
We shall see today tho when I do the set up if he just stands around not knowing what to do or his infamous "tries to help but his idea makes things harder" norm
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
My aqua friend that I just reunited with he has always wanted to be a pilot. He asked me how he should come up with the 50k for the training to be a commercial pilot
I said save money or get a kian or borrow from someone. And he sat there as if still lost.
I think aquas are "idea" people not doers
I should have them take a true colors test
From what I read, researched a little, many aqua suns can be leaders, and if they have a lot of air placements, coupled with dominant fire, they are able to tackle anything. (fire dominant - strong will power from astrologers viewpoint, and they need to put their energies into good use when they have dominant air) Put alot of cardinal energy in there, (for leadership skills) and they usually can put their "ideas" into action. Just going by what i've researched and understood.
well i dont know any of those aquas LOL.
Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Your are somewhat right.... We are good at coming up with great ideas... A lot of times most Aquas hate the details... -shrug-
I would like to think I actually act on my great ideas but I know I don't always follow through like how I should Or I should say I don't always in a timely fashion! I like details just sometimes they bore me. You want someone who can solve a problem or come up with a way to resolve a situation an Aquarian is usually good at that they just a lot if times don't want to be the one who actually has to perform the idea they have to solve the situation I guess unless they have to be. I dunno I might be generalizing Aquarians to much so pardon me my fellow Aquas if I have offended thee ^.^
I love my ideas the details not so much. Lol waves at my team and says i dont know just figure it out. Goes to office to think new ideas to torture my people with. My day at work in a nut shell. Lol
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