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Does this Aquarius like me as a friend, or more?
Posted by allegragella
Well every Aquarius is different, but as a young male Aquarius myself - If I was behaving that way around you it would mean I really like you. And that awkward silence may just mean he temporarily ran out of things to say.
I was in a similar situation with a girl not long ago. What I would be wanting to hear from you right now is "wanna make out?" or just go for it. I don't think I could be doing those things without falling for you. Thats me anyway.
Thank you for responding. I never thought about the awkward silence that way. We will still say something to each other, but the general atmosphere is so awkward that even his tone of voice changes and becomes a bit soft. And this only happens when we're alone. When we are with other people, he is more aggressive. And when I am not there with him, he generally keeps to himself.
Posted by FeistyAquarian
You need a new sn lol
I am so sorry, FeistyAquarian! It's just that I am known as "the feisty one" in my circle of friends... AND I am an ARIES! 😉 haha
I think he likes you. And since you're friends with people that REALLY REALLY know him that brings more light to the situation. The fact that his friends can vouche for him when they say he's NEVER acted like this before towards anyone is a GOOD sign. It'd be 1 thing if he was the type to change up when he's around women ONLY as his way to "game" or seduce them. Ya know the "Prince Charming" act. BUT, since his own friends haven't seen him connect with anyone like this before, there's no reason to assume that all he's saying/doing is not geniune.
Aquas are always looking for someone they feel is intellectually compatible with them, so even though he's more of a quiet Aqua doesn't mean that his mind isn't spinning & racing with thoughts like the typical Aqua's mind does. Him opening up to you is always a GOOD thing whether the Aqua is shy or not. And him embracing you & spending lots of time with you is a GREAT thing too b/c it means that so far, he likes all of who you're showing him that you are.
What kind of women is he used to? Are you his usual type? Knowing the answer to those questions might shed more light on the situation. Maybe he likes you this much b/c he's not used to women of your caliber. Maybe he secretely admires something about you that he's picked up that you may not even be aware that he likes. Who knows.
Sometimes I get silent b/c I literally ran out of things to say. And other times, I go into silent mode b/c I'm just enjoying that person's presence..ya know, enjoying the moment. Although awkward at times, sometimes those "silent" moments are the BEST moments, especially when you can relax next to someone & still feel the "chemistry" w/o either person having to say a single word. Leaving an Aqua "speechless" is ALWAYS a good sign though =)
Aquas are always looking for someone they feel is intellectually compatible with them, so even though he's more of a quiet Aqua doesn't mean that his mind isn't spinning & racing with thoughts like the typical Aqua's mind does. Him opening up to you is always a GOOD thing whether the Aqua is shy or not. And him embracing you & spending lots of time with you is a GREAT thing too b/c it means that so far, he likes all of who you're showing him that you are.
What kind of women is he used to? Are you his usual type? Knowing the answer to those questions might shed more light on the situation. Maybe he likes you this much b/c he's not used to women of your caliber. Maybe he secretely admires something about you that he's picked up that you may not even be aware that he likes. Who knows.
Sometimes I get silent b/c I literally ran out of things to say. And other times, I go into silent mode b/c I'm just enjoying that person's presence..ya know, enjoying the moment. Although awkward at times, sometimes those "silent" moments are the BEST moments, especially when you can relax next to someone & still feel the "chemistry" w/o either person having to say a single word. Leaving an Aqua "speechless" is ALWAYS a good sign though =)
Maybe you just don't realize the effect you're having on him. Maybe there's something about you that he loves & that draws him to you. Maybe there's some inner/outer quality within you that he REALLY likes & that caught him off guard. Maybe you bring out another side in him (OR his own family/friends) didn't even know was there. Hell, maybe he doesn't even have words to explain his connection with you. Maybe "IT JUST IS...."
They say the best connections are those you can't put into words.
I'm usually the most aggresive 1 in the group too, so when I meet a guy whom I generally feel a connection with, I tend to calm down a tad bit. I do this so that I can observe him & not scare him away. I like showing those I really really like my humble & soft side. It's not that I'm ashamed of my aggressive nature, it's just that when I'm really into them, I want them to see ALL sides of me, not just 1. And maybe the reason his family/friends are so shocked at his demeanor around you is b/c they've never seen him with someone who can bring those other sides out of him.
And if that's what it is, then yes he probably DOES want more than friendship with you. He may not tell you this right away b/c hey, he's STILL an Aqua & you already know how slow the process is when we can feel ourselves emotionally attaching to someone...and ESPECIALLY if we're attaching at a quick rate, when we didn't expect it. Even if he's falling head over heels for you, he's probably still feeling you out, seeing where your head is & seeing where the chemistry b/w you 2 will lead you.
He probably feels free around you. And depending on his experiences with women in the past, this "freeing" feeling might be 1 that he's getting a euphoric feeling from. Sounds like he's loving every moment with you & instead of checking himself, stopping & getting ahold of his emotions, he might be the type of Aqua who actually lets "this thing" go for as long as it wants to go. And especially if it's a feeling we've never felt before.
They say the best connections are those you can't put into words.
I'm usually the most aggresive 1 in the group too, so when I meet a guy whom I generally feel a connection with, I tend to calm down a tad bit. I do this so that I can observe him & not scare him away. I like showing those I really really like my humble & soft side. It's not that I'm ashamed of my aggressive nature, it's just that when I'm really into them, I want them to see ALL sides of me, not just 1. And maybe the reason his family/friends are so shocked at his demeanor around you is b/c they've never seen him with someone who can bring those other sides out of him.
And if that's what it is, then yes he probably DOES want more than friendship with you. He may not tell you this right away b/c hey, he's STILL an Aqua & you already know how slow the process is when we can feel ourselves emotionally attaching to someone...and ESPECIALLY if we're attaching at a quick rate, when we didn't expect it. Even if he's falling head over heels for you, he's probably still feeling you out, seeing where your head is & seeing where the chemistry b/w you 2 will lead you.
He probably feels free around you. And depending on his experiences with women in the past, this "freeing" feeling might be 1 that he's getting a euphoric feeling from. Sounds like he's loving every moment with you & instead of checking himself, stopping & getting ahold of his emotions, he might be the type of Aqua who actually lets "this thing" go for as long as it wants to go. And especially if it's a feeling we've never felt before.
Oh, we are definitely compatible intellectually. There was one time when I questioned him and challenged his point of view, and instead of responding he just stared at me straight in the eyes. I guess he's not used to a woman standing up to him on an intellectual level. He's also a deep thinker and has impressive memory and remembers things I told him word-for-word.
According to a relative of his, I am different than what he's used to and probably the sanest person he knows. He's used to women either being too bossy and controlling or too clingy, emotional, immature, irresponsible, and needy. Even he has told me about his experiences with those women. Since I am not any of those things, it could explain why he might like me.
I definitely feel something during those awkward, silent moments... I am not sure if "chemistry" is the right word, but there's something there... I just can't quite put my finger on it. I wonder if he feels it, too? Who knows.
According to a relative of his, I am different than what he's used to and probably the sanest person he knows. He's used to women either being too bossy and controlling or too clingy, emotional, immature, irresponsible, and needy. Even he has told me about his experiences with those women. Since I am not any of those things, it could explain why he might like me.
I definitely feel something during those awkward, silent moments... I am not sure if "chemistry" is the right word, but there's something there... I just can't quite put my finger on it. I wonder if he feels it, too? Who knows.
I don't realize the effect I am having on him (at least not completely). I think it would be easier to realize it if I was deliberately trying to impress him, because then I would know exactly what he sees in me. But I am not. I am simply being myself.
If he does want more than friendship with me, that's wonderful. I really do care about him. His family and friends know that I like him... I wonder if one them told him so? Because I know I certainly haven't shown him my interest for something more. If anything, my actions probably have him thinking that I just want to remain friends. I told him once or twice that I see him as a brother, so that might have confused him. But I guess time will tell where this "chemistry" between us two will lead.
If he does want more than friendship with me, that's wonderful. I really do care about him. His family and friends know that I like him... I wonder if one them told him so? Because I know I certainly haven't shown him my interest for something more. If anything, my actions probably have him thinking that I just want to remain friends. I told him once or twice that I see him as a brother, so that might have confused him. But I guess time will tell where this "chemistry" between us two will lead.
Posted by FeistyAquarianPosted by TheFeistyOnePosted by FeistyAquarian
You need a new sn lol
I am so sorry, FeistyAquarian! It's just that I am known as "the feisty one" in my circle of friends... AND I am an ARIES! 😉 haha
lol Me too!! 😛 One of my friends told me if I ever make a SN for anything, it must have feisty in it 🙂 Must be the fire huh??click to expand
Haha, probably! 🙂
I am an Aries sun, Capricorn moon, and Capricorn rising... I have Mercury in Aries, Venus in Taurus, Mars in Cancer, Jupiter in Leo, Saturn in Aquarius, Uranus in Capricorn, Neptune in Capricorn, Pluto in Scorpio, and Lilith in Sagittarius. Am I a handful, or what?! lol
@TheFiestyONe: You said it perfectly. You are just "being yourself," & I'm sure THAT is what he considers rare, thus that's probably why he's so attracted to you. After all, when we really take a look around, this world is filled with people always trying to make some kind of "impression" or put on some kind of "act." Women are told to act a certain way, dress a certain way & hide certain aspects of their personality (especially the NEGATIVE traits) all in the name of finding & keeping a man. So it's RARE that a man meets a woman whose genuienly HERSELF whether others like it or not. It may not seem rare to you since you being yourself is something you're obviously used to. BUT to HIM, he's attracted to anything rare just like most of us are.
And you not having the "I want a relationship" sign on your forehead is probably what attracts him to you even MORE! Men in GENERAL love to be around the women that don't necessarily expect the same ole things from them. Alot of men feel the "pressure" when they date; men are told that they must EVENTUALLY commit or agree to something more than friendship after a certain point. So I'm sure this guy feels better & like he can actually RELAX, since you're not really hinting that you want anything more than just his genuiene company.
Plus, I've noticed that the women who don't hint at relationships up front the minute they start attaching to a man are USUALLY the ones who get wifed up 1st! It's the women who act like they're fine with OR without you that drive men wild. To see a woman being herself & YET a man STILL liking her, is rare for some men & once again, people in GENERAL are attracted to what they're NOT used to, especially if it feels good & natural.
Just keep doing what you're doing. If he really does want more than friendship with you, he'll EVENTUALLY make his expectations known. You appearing to be content with just friendship may cause some hesistation in him b/c of his fear of rejection, BUT it's ALWAYS a good thing when a man naturally feels the urge to commit b/c HE wants it, vs. him only doing so b/c he feels pressured
And you not having the "I want a relationship" sign on your forehead is probably what attracts him to you even MORE! Men in GENERAL love to be around the women that don't necessarily expect the same ole things from them. Alot of men feel the "pressure" when they date; men are told that they must EVENTUALLY commit or agree to something more than friendship after a certain point. So I'm sure this guy feels better & like he can actually RELAX, since you're not really hinting that you want anything more than just his genuiene company.
Plus, I've noticed that the women who don't hint at relationships up front the minute they start attaching to a man are USUALLY the ones who get wifed up 1st! It's the women who act like they're fine with OR without you that drive men wild. To see a woman being herself & YET a man STILL liking her, is rare for some men & once again, people in GENERAL are attracted to what they're NOT used to, especially if it feels good & natural.
Just keep doing what you're doing. If he really does want more than friendship with you, he'll EVENTUALLY make his expectations known. You appearing to be content with just friendship may cause some hesistation in him b/c of his fear of rejection, BUT it's ALWAYS a good thing when a man naturally feels the urge to commit b/c HE wants it, vs. him only doing so b/c he feels pressured
Thank you so much, Krysrenee7.
I would never force him to agree or commit to something more than what we currently have. In my opinion, any woman who forces and pressures a man to commit is very insecure and needy. A relationship cannot and should not be forced.
I definitely do not have the "I want a relationship" sign on my forehead. He's the one who playfully teases me in front of family and friends about us being an item. His sense of humor is very goofy and playful, but mine is quite dry and sarcastic. He doesn't seem to mind it *too* much though. haha :p
Like you said, he will eventually make his expectations known if he really does want more than friendship with me. No matter what, I am quite content with being his friend. He's great. 🙂
I would never force him to agree or commit to something more than what we currently have. In my opinion, any woman who forces and pressures a man to commit is very insecure and needy. A relationship cannot and should not be forced.
I definitely do not have the "I want a relationship" sign on my forehead. He's the one who playfully teases me in front of family and friends about us being an item. His sense of humor is very goofy and playful, but mine is quite dry and sarcastic. He doesn't seem to mind it *too* much though. haha :p
Like you said, he will eventually make his expectations known if he really does want more than friendship with me. No matter what, I am quite content with being his friend. He's great. 🙂
Posted by FeistyAquarian
Yeah you are!! Mostly Fire and Earth, with a sprinkling of Air and Water. Niiice, got some good balance going 🙂
I'm almost all Fire and Air. It's ridiculous 😛
Aw! You must be very intelligent and outgoing! 🙂
@TheFiesty: =)
I think everything will work itself out. If he feels like being "just friends" is best, I get the feeling that you'd be okay with that & wouldn't take away any of your energy from the friendship regardless. And THAT is a quality that most men are looking for, but yet can't find! THAT is the quality that once seen, will make a man want to snatch you up in a heartbeat!
It's amazing how sometimes the best way to get something you want is to literally act like you DON'T want it at all! This makes no sense to those who are impatient & who just want a relationship just for the sake of being in 1. They figure that there's nothing wrong with having "THAT SIGN" on their forehead b/c after all, atleast they're being "honest." My response to them? Well I'm glad you're being honest BUT unfortunately that kind of honesty can make/break the difference b/w whether or not you walk off into the sunset with the one you like/love! BUT, Fiesty, it's apparant that you "get it!"
I think everything will work itself out. If he feels like being "just friends" is best, I get the feeling that you'd be okay with that & wouldn't take away any of your energy from the friendship regardless. And THAT is a quality that most men are looking for, but yet can't find! THAT is the quality that once seen, will make a man want to snatch you up in a heartbeat!
It's amazing how sometimes the best way to get something you want is to literally act like you DON'T want it at all! This makes no sense to those who are impatient & who just want a relationship just for the sake of being in 1. They figure that there's nothing wrong with having "THAT SIGN" on their forehead b/c after all, atleast they're being "honest." My response to them? Well I'm glad you're being honest BUT unfortunately that kind of honesty can make/break the difference b/w whether or not you walk off into the sunset with the one you like/love! BUT, Fiesty, it's apparant that you "get it!"
Posted by krysrenee7
@TheFiesty: =)
I think everything will work itself out. If he feels like being "just friends" is best, I get the feeling that you'd be okay with that & wouldn't take away any of your energy from the friendship regardless. And THAT is a quality that most men are looking for, but yet can't find! THAT is the quality that once seen, will make a man want to snatch you up in a heartbeat!
It's amazing how sometimes the best way to get something you want is to literally act like you DON'T want it at all! This makes no sense to those who are impatient & who just want a relationship just for the sake of being in 1. They figure that there's nothing wrong with having "THAT SIGN" on their forehead b/c after all, atleast they're being "honest." My response to them? Well I'm glad you're being honest BUT unfortunately that kind of honesty can make/break the difference b/w whether or not you walk off into the sunset with the one you like/love! BUT, Fiesty, it's apparant that you "get it!"
Oh, I would be completely okay with it. Completely! I want him to be happy, and if simply being friends with me brings him happiness, so be it. As long as he's happy, I am happy, so it's a win-win situation either way.
I ALWAYS get what I want when I am detached from it and don't try to force things. I don't necessarily have to "ACT" like I don't want it, because I am a calm and detached person by nature. I guess that's why I get along so well with Aquarius men/women in general.
It's one thing to be honest, and another thing to be desperate. That particular delivery method for honesty is an indication of desperation and insecurity. And you're absolutely right, it definitely makes a difference.
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