Emotionless to the extreme

As an Aquarius, I can be very detached. It also depends on how much I like you. I also have my Moon in Capricorn which also counts for a lot. But I was wondering if any aquas ever felt so emotionless in extreme situations, let's say the death of a family member, news of a killer raping and murdering children in your neighborhood who you knew, or one of your parents being diagnosed with a deadly cancer (just examples). I am so cold and ruthless to where I can't control it. I've been DRAGGED and maybe even FORCED to go to funerals of family members or to show at least a little compassion to those who need it most but I can't find it within myself to feel sympathetic.

Even my own MOTHER has told me time and time again how cold-hearted I am.(And manipulative in which I'm somewhat proud of because it always works but give it time and it backfires)
I'm usually emotionless and non-expressive 90% of the time.But anger seems to easily find it's way out.

I was just wondering if I'm the only one who feels like this.

WurD...

I can relate totally.

Although im not manipulative. I think.

OMG Kris. I FANTASIZE about living on my own. And no the rest of you, I don't need counseling. Of course I've felt normal human emotions but compassion or sympathy are the ones that will NOT come out of me.

Kris, tell me more about the antichrist...

AquaSun I see many points of myself there. I guess because I try to be objective as a person (aqua property ?) and emotions do not get along with clear judgment. I clearly remember when leaving my parents to live on my own, my plans for my life overwhelmed my mind that was not considerate of my mom (sensitive taurus) who even cried. But I'm not so cold though, I do remember my grandpa's last moments but didn't want to follow all the procedure to the cemenetary as I didn't want to keep these moments in my memory.

me three.


go away for college.

Too expensive.
But I must admit, sometimes I think it would be worth every penny.

I'm so detached that sometimes I do hate myself. But I can't help it it's just me. Hope someone do understand. lol

AquaSun,

Part of this is because you are only 17. I wasn't all that compassionate either at that age. Wait till you're 40. You'll have enough crappy things happen to you, and you'll want to reach out to others, and will not feel like they are different than you.

precisely.^
Its no one else's problem but [your]our own...so we deal with it.

I dont see the things you do as normal either.


Life is subjective.

Abe Lincoln was Aqua with Moon in Cappie. Putting that factoid out there to give you hope 😉

I never used to cry much as a teenager or young person. I think people who cry too much are spoiled LOL

Its nice to 'see' you venturing around Alantic Myst.

No offence, but i think you are just dissociating yourself from your emotions, and its not a good thing.

AquaSun - i definitely understand where you're coming from in some ways. sometimes i think there's something wrong with me because the things that make other people emotional don't move me. also, sometimes i think excessive emotion is fake and it sickens me. for instance, a guy from my graduating class was killed in a car accident because he was drunk at 2 pm and drove. everyone overlooked that he died because of his own foolish mistake because it was "just such a tragedy to lose such a wonderful young man." well, i grew up with him and, true, never really knew him, but also never saw anything that would make him "wonderful". he was a jerk. and that's all i could say when i heard that he drove while intoxicated and died, that i never liked him and couldn't pretend to care.

and people thought it was callous and "mean" for me to say that but it was the truth, and seeing people who never had a high opinion of him when he was alive suddenly sing his praises was ANNOYING and seemed so false.

i think the main thing for me is that, i certainly have emotion, but i can't make myself feel anything other than what i'm feeling. sometimes the strangest thing will set me off, but if something doesn't affect me, then it doesn't.

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i'd also like to add that being less emotional than the people around you - or "emotionless" as you put it - does not mean you are "doomed". the greatest cruelty comes from highly emotional, vindictive people.

i'm not saying i think it's healthy to bottle up or close yourself off to your emotions. but cerebral people, for example, can be some of the most fair because they don't let personal biases get in the way of what's just.

basically, don't try to change who you are to please anyone else - just try to find the positives in yourself, and ways that your personality can become appreciated, without you having to change what you believe is your essence.

Ok...I have read a lot about these emotionless aquarians. I never fully understood what it meant until recently, I am dating/seeing/hooking up with a guy right now...and I really like him...but I am starting to see this very detached side that people have described. This guy is funny, smart and very charming...but he his protective side is starting to bother me...I am a libra and we love being in love, we love emotion and romance...but it erks me that this guy has probably never said an "I feel..." statement. I have never heard him say he feels anything, not only about me, but about any relationship in his life...he comes from a huge family, but never talks about them, he it's like, I've never seen him get angry, sad, or extremely happy...is this normal? and if so, how am I supposed to know what he is feeling when he never expresses his feelings!!? I almost feel sad for him, because I know he has feelings about many things, but he keeps them all to himself...he has friends, but somehow I see a loneliness to him and I just want to know how to break it! How am I supposed to figure out what he is feeling when he doesn't even seem to understand his own feelings? WE have a casual friendship, we agreed to hook up but be friends...he has been making an effort by calling me and making plans...but I kind of feel like i have to tell him what to do, make all fo the plans..almost like he needs guidance..do aqua men like that? Being directed?

I wish I had someone like you to help me deal with feelings.

I believe a leo wrote that Alantic Myst.

yeah, i'm a leo, with aqua moon.

you don't have to be a serial killer to be an asshole, and that's what he was. i never said he deserved to go to hell. i don't even believe in it. but i also never pretended to feel sorry for him. that was the point, as well as that you shouldn't have to change who you are to please others.

also, from the looks of it, aquasun has never read my response and therefore has not been affected by it. no cause for alarm.

The Aqua Sun and Cap Moon I know.........is also a bit mysterious and doesn't emote much emotion but I see right thru this facade.....and I see the vulnerabilty there.......I know there is emotion there somewhere....it's just really controlled or deeply hidden.....or expressed in a different way...but it is there

but I agree if someone can't express emotions in a healthy way then.... maybe some counseling would be good....cause you can't keep everything to yourself..that is not healthy physically or mentally