Posted by aqulibiniPosted by truecap
Okay, okay. I'll stop being petty.
OP, did you come right out and ask for help? Gotta let people know you need it, can't sit back and expect them to just notice and offer because it usually isn't going to happen. Must be direct and make it known you need help.
This is something I've been working on because I HATE asking for help and would rather eat dirt than ask. Then, I, too get disappointed no one offers, But I figure, how they gonna know unless I tell them? I'm trying to speak up more and have realized I'm much happier.
If you did ask and they wouldn't help, then that's not a good friend right there. Whatever they had to do instead better be damn well important.
i helped finish her project..literally sat down, make editions. rewrite. add my own points..for 3-4 days. cz her deadline fr submission was reached. i was even sleepy n exhausted, still i dint refuse. she even lashed out on me once out of her irritability due to pressure..but i understood n still continued to do it. (though she did mention later that she felt bad abt being rude to me)
what i asked her was not even a return. yes i outright asked her, and requested it more than once. it was a very minor thing. not something on the same level as i did.
and this is not the first time it has happened.
and i have learnt my lesson. thats one reason i hardly ask fr help.click to expand
Posted by splitnconfused
Something else I find very eerie is the whole thing about Leo-Virgo being alternatively secretive and open. I couldn't identify more to this. I'm usually very aware of the fact that I'm being secretive, I just don't see why I should share certain things and this can drive people crazy sometimes trying to figure me out. On the other hand I can be open to a fault and will be freely discussing the most taboo and personal subjects and even make people blush. I've also been told by friends that I often appear as a social butterfly but that deep down I'm a very complex individual and that somehow it's hard to put a finger on the kind of person I really am, sort of like a chameleon type of personality.
Last, the freedom thing..I totally agree with starblues. I also love my freedom and don't like feeling confined by social expectations. This is something that can be tough to live with if you have a SO.
Waow, not easy being a Leo-Virgo but what a ride!