Help!! Fell in love with aqua man on vacay, am I screwed or what?

Any advice would be amazing.. Get ready for a story..

Let me start by saying, I am a twenty something, extremely spiritual, loving and deep thinking ball of Aries fire that marches to her own drum. As of the last year, I've been very independent willing only to have platonic or sex driven relationships with men. I left my Leo boyfriend after 3 yrs of live-in dating in January and have been an icy lover ever since. My quest for inner peace has (fortunately?) plugged my ears from the screams of the men I've left behind..

In October, my mum, aunt and I decided to take a week long trip to Jamaica for my aunts birthday. I desperately needed the trip to do some soul searching, and I can honestly say the first 3 days i did so. Then he arrived. I was walking by the pool when I passed a group of men, a few gawked so I looked the other way, but I honestly felt this weird urge to look right as I got to the end of the group, and that's where he hooked me. Big green eyes staring back at me on the face of the handsomest man I've ever seen. Broad shoulders, tatted arms, trimmed beard and a half smile... But I'm an Aries remember? So after a jolt to my heart and an intense eye contact session, I broke off and swam into the pool.. I didn't see the gorgeous Aqua boy once I did and thought it was all over.. Until he swam right up to me and started chatting me up.

Needless to say, after an hour long flirty chat by the pool, I left.. But that didn't stop him from tracking me down later that evening. That night we played pool for what felt like hours and talked about EVERYTHING. The father he never met, his deep love for digital design (even though he works as a car salesman) even his insecurity over his hairy arms. That night we had sex - and I mean SEX. Dirty, desperate, yet incredibly satisfying sex. On the beach, on a staircase, on his balcony while his roommate slept in the room, even in an elevator! It was amazing.

Over the next few days he continued to surprise me. Id see him around the resort or the pool with his buddies (he was one of 42 there for a wedding) yet when he was with friends he rarely approached me - nor I him (BUT he defs did try to speak to me when around friends, even kissed me at an event in front of them) I am very independent so I have no problem with letting him have his space.

To make a long story short, he surprised me over the next few days by calling out to me any time he spotted me on the resort, telling his friends about me, holding hands while walking along the beach, even calling up to my room one night to ask to see me. Not to mention the sex.. But interestingly he did not pull away after sex as I had expected, every time he wanted to talk after, even cuddle. He knew just how to enslave my heart in only 4 days.

Fast forward to the end, we said goodbye, he still had 3 more days in Jamaica. I fully expected and accepted that this would just be a vacation romance, but he quickly asked for my number.. We both live in Canada, about 7hrs away by car and 45 min ( $ 250 round trip!) by plane. Once I got back to Canada, he would message me constantly, every morning and every evening. We chatted, often about everyday bs but some nights about deep topics.. He seems to have no peoblem opening up to me and discussing touchy subjects.. We sexted on occasion, and things were great.. Until I made the ultimate Aries fuck up.

Unfortunately.. I've had very little involvement with Aquarians. So I was unaware that by pushing my gorgeous Aqua boy to tell me "what this is" I was actually pushing him away. We talked non stop for about a month before I pushed too hard asking to video chat (he does NOT like talking on the phone). He told me he talked to a lot of people from out of town, cared a lot about friendships and would be down to grab a drink if he's ever in my city.. When I made reference to friendzone, he said "no no, just not doing the long distance thing"

My second mistake was posting a very risqué photo of myself on Instagram with little ill intention. I just thought it was a nice pic. He quickly msged me about it, and seemed very.. Jealous? He said it was "better than the one he has gotten" and "pornstar page material".. When I expressed I was taken aback by his comments, he said "don't listen to me, it's a nice picture. You just don't see girls you know posting pics like that" .. Anyway, I changed the subject feeling kind of deflated and not wanting to hear this talk further.

Fast forward two weeks later, no more morning message. No more message at all, actually. Sadly, in the silence, I've realized I've seriously fallen for this green eyed little devil and as a true Aries, I've thought of a million possible next steps. I left him alone for just over two weeks, and in that time he watched my social media very closely.. Liked every one of my photos, viewed every one of my stories on Instagram. So to me, that says "I'm still here" soooooo after much deliberation, I settled on action.

I decided to msg him first for 30 days. Make *some* contact every day, for 30 days straight. It takes 30 days to form a habit, right? If at the end of it things haven't progressed (or he's at least messaging me first again!) then I give up. At least I can say I gave it my best shot, right? Today is Day 2. We chatted about dogs and Christmas, touching a bit on family before conversation died down and I let it go. we have a good bit of playful banter, and when the conversation gets stale I'm practicing the act of letting it go.. That way we talk, but he gets his space.

I have very honest feelings for this man, and if becoming his friend before being his lover is what I need to do, I'm game. Please help! How do I figure out the code to this Aqua boys heart? Do you think my 30 day plan is moronic? Please be honest and let me know your thoughts!!

He told u what was up. He obviously is into u but u guys live too far away from each other. Unless u are moving to where he lives then it's a no go

I would love to just say lolok perfect man whom I fell in love with I'm just gonna turn around and forget you forever but I cannot! Especially knowing he has feelings.. He's hinted before about moving to my city, and I would have no issue with moving to his. So as much as I get he's said it how it is, i just don't feel like it's that cut and dry..

Honestly, I know we both know the connection is there, but we also only spent 4 full days together, you know? So who am I to tell him he needs to commit to anything or jump into a relationship with just that? What I want is to get to know one another better. Im up for the challenge of dealing with an Aqua as an Aries that's typically used to fast fast fast progression. I just don't know what the best way to do that is!

And also.. I'm wondering of what the best way of doing that is at a distance. I'm not expecting much.. I just can't not try. My head will explode

Only read the title.

Yea you're screwed.

Yeah, it's not gonna work. He'll surely accept whatever sexting/phone sex/in person involvement you give him without any deep feelings or commitment, meanwhile you fall deeper. Not a good setup.

Nothing wrong in maintaining FRIENDLY contact, but I only see you becoming disillusioned over time if you think it's going to lead anywhere.

ARIES

*searches entire soul in 3 days flat*



Yes its a terrible plan.

But its the wrong guy too.

Doesn't want to do long distance, but

doesn't want to share you with anyone

else.. but you're totally okay with that so

its working out very well for him.

No offense intended.

Just giving the outside view.

@montgomery at no point did I say I "searched my entire soul in 3 days flat" so please dont belittle me ? Just trying to explain the story and my mindset for those who actually might want to help.. As for my terrible plan, what would you do? What are you supposed to do when you've fallen in love? Admit defeat without even trying? Just give up because it's unlikely?

Unfortunately I am not that kind of woman.. I have to fight until there is nothing left! So while I respect that you think my plan is moronic, please provide some constructive suggestions or advice rather than simple judgement!

Not too many optimistic responses here *sweatdrop* but I guessed that hahaa. But as I mentioned in my last comment.. I can't just lay down and give up because it's unlikely!

There has to be something I can do, some option to at least try.. I haven't felt love for someone like this in so long. And I truly feel that he cares too.. There's got to be a way to work through the distance, I just don't know what it is yet 😢

Aqua men can definitely do LDR. My brother is one and was in a ldr with a Scorpio for years. No girl has really held his eye so I was curious what this girl had because honestly... she was kinda annoying in my eyes. The only things I truly observed was that she was kinda bossy but in a feminine way (pretty sure that's how she got him in a relationship), she bought him gifts, and she was a little needy. All this to say: it's possible but just be yourself. Do ur Aries thing full charge and if he's not into it, move on.