Help me understand this aquarius man

Posted by Devy1004
We are both mars in Virgo, Venus in pisces, and moon in Gemini. His sun sign is aquarius, his mercury is aquarius, and his Jupiter and Saturn is virgo, he also has Scorpio in Uranus, and Neptune is Sagittarius. My sun is pisces (I'm a female btw) My mercury is pisces, Jupiter is aquarius, Saturn is Aries, Uranus is aquarius, and Neptune is Capricorn.We also have an age gap, 16 years apart I'm 20, he's 36. However I often forget about that age gap when we are together. It isn't until I start thinking about his life and past that it really hits me.

I have been involved with him for about 4-5 months now. We both agree we grew close fairly quickly. He seems to love having me around as much as possible, ive met his son, his best friend, brother, aunt, dad, (pretty much everyone except his mom.)

He has told me he loves me. I love him too. Nothing deep tho, not in love, but I love him ya know. We get along great, thanks to our shared moon signs we get along great and share a lot of the same interests. He is romantic sometimes, unknowingly I feel like. He is sweet to me, but he is possessive and jealous sometimes.

However, I've caught him in some very dramatic lies. (Funny thing is I've made up some shit too. Only difference is, I'm slicker than he is. He doesnt know i was lying) and to be honest I lie because he lies. I didn't wanna start the relationship off this way.Another thing I need help understanding, there is this woman. He used to have sex with her he admitted, he claims they are just friends now, her sun sign is Scorpio. I've seen their messages (because I'm crazy and hacked his Facebook account so ive seen a lot of messages. And i find a way to bring it up in person lmao) and even before he ever met me she used to blow up his messenger saying how much she loves him, or supports him, just basically emotional as fuck and even I was annoyed reading it. And this man wouldn't even reply to her sometimes or he'd be dry as fuck like "haha" lmao and that's it.. he has never been in a real relationship with her,however he's been dealing with her for years. But the way he talks shit about her sometimes its like he doesn't care about her. I've seen him argue on the phone with her, yelling saying he didn't owe her shit.

One day she was sending him a bunch of messages on Facebook out of no where, of course I saw them all, and she was snapping on him, threatening him, and he never replied via Facebook but I knew they had probably talked over the phone. Sure enough I was right, she ended up messaging him this weekend while me him his son and his nephew were out camping and it said something about "I missed your call, been trying to call you back, love you." I just don't understand his relationship with her. He told me he doesn't want a relationship with her, yet the way she acts... Its like she's his girl. Even though I know she really isnt. It's like shes okay with kissing his ass and waiting around for him.

My questions are: 1. how compatible are me and him 2. What do you think his relationship with this girl really is and why the hell does he keep her around shes so annoying and 3. Is this someone I should let go of?



Btw my gemini moon mellows me out a lot emotionally I can be very deep, but usually it I am aloof and cold. So ive been told lol. But the people I love get all of my warmth.

Also sorry its so long I was just trying to some up our fast paced relationship in as little as possible. I used to be with him literally everyday and night until I had to move back about 20 minutes away and switched jobs.

Posted by Undine
There are three of you in this relationship, and you are the little voyeur! If it's fun for you, carry on. Just make sure that nobody knows what you are doing. Not because he will get mad, but you may become paranoid, if cut off from this extra source of information. Because trust isn't there, is it?

Is your age, by any chance, closer to the age of his son than his age 🙂?

Posted by workingirl
I wouldn't be so sure that the other woman is not a flying monkey of your manand with consent. Meaning that he is using her and the relationship with her to control you. To control even what you think about in this covert and not really aggressive way. Do you think he doesn't know that you have access to his facebook?

Of all the signs I think it's Aquarius that does this the most often, playing at least two people against one another. My best friend (a girl) still does this. She lives in another country, and when she wants to invite me so we can spend time together it's never just me, it's always another friend, too. It's always a triangle.

If he is normal and has a traditional relationship with you, it's sort of sure there's someone who he doesn't give this too, just to be able to say no to someone. Also, if there is someone he tortures he can be nice to someone else, right? Twisted (Aqua?) logic.

Whether someone is aware of this or does this consciously is another quesiton. Sometimes people can do the most damage when they have no idea what you're doing. When manipulation is a talent, not a plan. Be careful. Aquas can try one's peace of mind. And if you'll still be involved another six month later, he doesn't freak out or gets bored just by the thought of a regular relationship, come up with a VERY intelligent plan to change the role of this other woman between the two of you. Show him that you don't give a damn. You really shouldn't give a damn to be honest. Good luck with all of this at the age of 20... I mean it. 🙂

Posted by Undine
Ask him to block her...on FB and everywhere.

If he doesn't, he is probably a sucker for whatever emotional drama she provides. It feeds his ego. He entertains it, when answering back, even if dismissive. He keeps it going, when he could have cut it short. By doing so, he is sadistic towards her...and it could very well be that she has a masochistic streak.

Anyway, they are having a relationship behind your back, relationship which is far away from being platonic!