How do you know if an aqua man has feelings for u?

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Posted by mrfdg
He said he cares a lot about me. I told him that he can not love and it hurts that he only wanted to be my friend. He said, "I never said I cannot love you. I never said I only wanted you as a friend. I cannot predict the future. Let's enjoy and flow".



One time I told my aqua that he made me happy and I'm glad we got together. He goes into this "just want you to know know I'm in no hurry. Want to take it slow and see what happens" speech. I was like whoah...all I said was you made me happy. His answer didn't fit the statement, but it told me he was thinking more about our relationship than I thought he was.

Anyways, you can't corner an aqua man. He needs to feel like he still has freedom and choice, so your approach makes all the difference in the world. If you need to know something right away, right now, then he's going to feel cornered and your answer will be a negative one.

So, what's the approach? He needs to feel like he has the lead, the freedom, the choice and he doesn't need pressure. Sometimes he needs to feel like he has been given time to think, consider, analyze and an answer is not necessary right now. The approach is about you and what your needs/wants/desires are and not about what is expected of him, in other words, he does not want pressure. He wants to feel like he has a choice in providing those needs to you.

Here's an example - our "are we exclusive?" talk:
Me: I was asked out on a date today.
Him: You go girl!
Me: I turned them down, because I'm not interested in seeing anyone else.
Him: I was invited to dinner at a female friend's house, but I turned her down. Told her I was seeing someone.
Me: So we're on the same page?
Him: Looks like it.

See? No pressure. I expressed what I wanted, didn't pressure him, didn't ask him, but I found out what I needed to know. It was all true though, I really did get asked out. It was honest and sincere and truth.

Just roll with the flow, no pressure, be honest about what you want but don't ever give an ultimatum. If you ever do feel the need for an ultimatum, be prepared to follow through. Aquas aren't going to respond to ultimatums. I have an aqua mars and if I'm given an ultimatum, I'll just call your bluff out of spite.

I don't know if I helped or not. It's just a piece of my experience with aqua.
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Posted by aquansidenout
Hi Angeleyes. I find Scorpio women pair well with Aquarius men. My ex is married to one and she leads with a delicate iron first. Lol And yes the unpredictable communication can get crazy sometimes. What are you alls moon signs?



It's a bit 50/50 I feel because so many Aqua-Scop relationships can either work for the best or the very worst.. (this is just from what I have read) but my experiences have been with loads of ups and downs. I'm not in a relationship with him but I have had a soft spot for him for a long time. My Moon is Leo and his in Gemini. Are we good? Lol
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TRuecap - I had the same convo with him.

Him: Are you going to be intimate with another man?
Me: No. I don't want anyone else.
Him: GOod
ME: You?
Him: I don't have plans
Me: Will you take ma back if I do?
HIm: No.Y ou?
ME: No.

We are in the same page when it comes to seeing other people. We are also open that when something is to ahppen or we want to test the water that we would tell each other first.

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All - Thank you you for your responses.

He told me, "I'am human. I feel. You just don't know hot to make me feel. WHy? Because you do not listen?

What is he saying?

Our relationship is long distance. It's hard to tell if he is serious with me or not. We plan to seee ach other and do things. The last time we spent time was last month. We text a lot.

He said, "You fight the water. While you fight the water, you get tired, frustrated, and maybe even drowns. NOw if you learn to to glide with the water - it's an entirely different story. You call it submitting and I cal it swimming".

I have a difficult time submitting and follwoing because of a previous relationship. He told me it's my choice if I would swim and enjoy the water or stay out of the water. I tild him I was scared. He said, "that's your own fear. the more you glide with the water the more you enjoy. The more you fight and worry about crocodiles the less you enjoy the swim. The coice is yours".
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Just use your gut on this 1.

For every 5 people who respond to this thread saying that Aqua men don't usually lead women on, there will be another 5 women who come behind them giving accounts of when they were led on lol

It could go either way. He has his own pace & he doesn't stray from that b/c he enjoys his right to go at a pace that is most comfortable for him. You being defiant about his pace just b/c it's different than yours may make him want to slow down even more. He is who he is & that won't change for anyone. What you see is what you get. He doesn't say things he doesn't mean. If he tells you he love you & is open to being more than friends with you, then most likely he meant that. Why hasn't he committed to you yet? Either b/c the infamous battle of heart vs. mind isn't over yet OR b/c he feels that there's still more to you that he doesn't know yet & would like to know before he finally gives in to his emotions & makes things official (trust me, you don't want an Aqua doing things on impulse b/c the minute their head comes out of the clouds, they'll immediately pull back & restart the process alllllll over again, putting you both back at square ONE lol)

OR it could be that he's just playing with you. He thinks you're a good person but for some reason hasn't taken you out of the friendzone in his mind. He's got some emotional baggage, insecurities & fears of commitment that overpower AND outweigh his feelings (or lack of) for you. He wants to take things slow b/c he's hoping that you'll give him all the good benefits. He still wants to sleep with other girls & have his freedom to an extent. Being official with you would make him a horrible person & cheater if he were to still get all out of that out of his system AFTER making it official with you. He's hoping that as time goes by, you'll figure it out on your own that he was never going to commit b/c it'll save him the trouble & guilt of having to hurt your feelings & risk losing all of the benefits he's currently getting from you in the meantime.

It really can go either way. Use your gut. Know the difference b/w gut & insecurity though. If your gut is telling you that you're being led on, trust it & put some distance there. Do it for your own emotional sanity & reassurance, AND also to send him the message that you will NOT be his part time or spare time friend, playthang, void filler or "maybe" forever
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Posted by aquansidenout
A Leo moon and a Gemini moon is good balance. I would imagine him having a Gemini moon makes him a jokester and less serious than most. I see why the two of you are friends. You all feed off of each others good energy. I could see the two of you having more especially with friendship being first. We love our friends more than anything and I never dated anyone whom I wasn't friends with first.



Ohh interesting.. that gives me a like hope hehe.. but how would the Leo and Gemini moon give a good balance? i have no clue about the charts etc but do find it interesting. We are friends but i hardly seen him as he lives far at the moment and rarely chats to me.. its very on and off with him (he's the lazy texter) lol
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Posted by Angeleyes17
Aqua are know to be un predictable and hard to understand but when you figure them out makes life a lil more easier. You will know if they like you by there actions.. talk to you more, spend time with you. It will feel like as if you've been put in the friend zone but that's what makes them feel comfortable.



I think after understanding how they tick, it really is a lot easier. They are inconsistent, but there is consistency within the inconsistency.

And yes, actions speak very, very clearly and that tells you a lot.
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totally agree with you.. I've learnt alot of you and others on this forum so thank you x . For me being patient has been a stuggle, but in time i guess you come to terms with it.