caplady
@caplady
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i broke up with aqua man and no news since then
what book?
a book i forgot in his car
Consider the book a loss and move on. You can always buy another one.
Posted by truecap
Consider the book a loss and move on. You can always buy another one.
you're right but i need to understand why he fooled me like that, what was his interest
anyway, i need to move on as he doesn't answer me and i will never learn
sorry i'm new here i don't really know how it works 🙂
i was trying to tell you truecap that you're right, i know i need to move on, but i also need to understand why he fooled me
i was trying to tell you truecap that you're right, i know i need to move on, but i also need to understand why he fooled me
How did your heart get broken by a guy you pretty much had just met and just kinda liked but not really?
that's a good question that i'm also asking myself🙂 maybe it's just my ego.
And why would you outright invite the man over for sex after only 3 weeks? Not judging, just curious what prompted such an invite for that specific purpose.
i don't know how these things work, i just liked him very very much so invited him. but i guess it was a mistake.
This sort of reminds me of this:
I mean I feel for you, on some level, but you're describing what happened in a span of FOUR days. Then you found out he had two other girlfriends... so I can only imagine you want answers so pick one
1. You were his cheap thrill, his game, he got you so he discarded you.
2. He felt you came on way to strong, reverted to his other possibilities after he felt this cling.
3. He's just a jackass and made you do the breaking up.
I tried to think of a good scenario but nope. He doesn't really need to communicate, that's your expectation right there he doesn't need to meet. Call up, if no answer, text and demand it directly and set a time and location. If that fails well lesson learnt, always shag at home.
I mean I feel for you, on some level, but you're describing what happened in a span of FOUR days. Then you found out he had two other girlfriends... so I can only imagine you want answers so pick one
1. You were his cheap thrill, his game, he got you so he discarded you.
2. He felt you came on way to strong, reverted to his other possibilities after he felt this cling.
3. He's just a jackass and made you do the breaking up.
I tried to think of a good scenario but nope. He doesn't really need to communicate, that's your expectation right there he doesn't need to meet. Call up, if no answer, text and demand it directly and set a time and location. If that fails well lesson learnt, always shag at home.
From reading your post CapLady, you sound just as hot and cold as he does. It seemed like you weren't interested in him when he was interested in you. Then when he wasn't as interested in you, you then became interested in him.
This already sounds like a hot mess. Forget the book, forget the guy and and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
This already sounds like a hot mess. Forget the book, forget the guy and and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Posted by aquasnoz
This sort of reminds me of this:
I mean I feel for you, on some level, but you're describing what happened in a span of FOUR days. Then you found out he had two other girlfriends... so I can only imagine you want answers so pick one
1. You were his cheap thrill, his game, he got you so he discarded you.
2. He felt you came on way to strong, reverted to his other possibilities after he felt this cling.
3. He's just a jackass and made you do the breaking up.
I tried to think of a good scenario but nope. He doesn't really need to communicate, that's your expectation right there he doesn't need to meet. Call up, if no answer, text and demand it directly and set a time and location. If that fails well lesson learnt, always shag at home.
i guess it's a combination of 1 and 3. thanks i haven't seen it that way. i have a stupid pride, i will be able to ask him when i won't care at all.
But you broke up with him....
First, you didn't even want to go out with him. You didn't think it would work out between you. You didn't believe he was sincere. Three weeks in you got upset he was eating with some other women. You broke up with him.
I guess I'm confused at how he "did you that way". Seems to me you "did HIM that way".
It takes time and patience with an aqua man. They will not just jump into an instant relationship. They need time to get to know you and they need time to analyze whether they want to continue seeing you. After all that, they will need to determine what their feelings are. It takes time and they can be slow.
You threw out a couple of red flags:
You didn't give him a chance to explain who the females were he was eating lunch with. Sounds like you assumed they were intimate girlfriends. Maybe they were, maybe they were just friends or coworkers. You jumped the gun and made assumptions without asking him about it. Besides, so what if he had lunch with them. You guys weren't exclusive and you had no right to get upset. Aquas have a lot of friends - male and female. They can be friends with someone without being intimate.
Then, you initiated and invited him for sex. You took the lead. Aqua men would rather not be chased like that. I think you should have waited on him to initiate sex. Most men would rather be the ones initiating. IF you come on too strong, aquaman will run. Must wait for him to develop feelings first, then you can take the lead on some things. Otherwise, they feel cornered or trapped and will come out resisting.
Seems like you expected too much, too soon.
Of course, I'm not an aqua man. I'm not even an aqua. And I can't speak for aqua men. But I have dated three in my lifetime and have been with my current for over two years.
Keep in mind, this is just my opinion.
First, you didn't even want to go out with him. You didn't think it would work out between you. You didn't believe he was sincere. Three weeks in you got upset he was eating with some other women. You broke up with him.
I guess I'm confused at how he "did you that way". Seems to me you "did HIM that way".
It takes time and patience with an aqua man. They will not just jump into an instant relationship. They need time to get to know you and they need time to analyze whether they want to continue seeing you. After all that, they will need to determine what their feelings are. It takes time and they can be slow.
You threw out a couple of red flags:
You didn't give him a chance to explain who the females were he was eating lunch with. Sounds like you assumed they were intimate girlfriends. Maybe they were, maybe they were just friends or coworkers. You jumped the gun and made assumptions without asking him about it. Besides, so what if he had lunch with them. You guys weren't exclusive and you had no right to get upset. Aquas have a lot of friends - male and female. They can be friends with someone without being intimate.
Then, you initiated and invited him for sex. You took the lead. Aqua men would rather not be chased like that. I think you should have waited on him to initiate sex. Most men would rather be the ones initiating. IF you come on too strong, aquaman will run. Must wait for him to develop feelings first, then you can take the lead on some things. Otherwise, they feel cornered or trapped and will come out resisting.
Seems like you expected too much, too soon.
Of course, I'm not an aqua man. I'm not even an aqua. And I can't speak for aqua men. But I have dated three in my lifetime and have been with my current for over two years.
Keep in mind, this is just my opinion.
Posted by caplady
a book i forgot in his car
OK, this book sounded more important. Yeah, you might never see that book again. As for him... hmm, he could be a player? Therefore, you might never understand quite why, except he's just that kinda guy.
When's his birthday?
Posted by truecap
But you broke up with him....
First, you didn't even want to go out with him. You didn't think it would work out between you. You didn't believe he was sincere. Three weeks in you got upset he was eating with some other women. You broke up with him.
I guess I'm confused at how he "did you that way". Seems to me you "did HIM that way".
It takes time and patience with an aqua man. They will not just jump into an instant relationship. They need time to get to know you and they need time to analyze whether they want to continue seeing you. After all that, they will need to determine what their feelings are. It takes time and they can be slow.
You threw out a couple of red flags:
You didn't give him a chance to explain who the females were he was eating lunch with. Sounds like you assumed they were intimate girlfriends. Maybe they were, maybe they were just friends or coworkers. You jumped the gun and made assumptions without asking him about it. Besides, so what if he had lunch with them. You guys weren't exclusive and you had no right to get upset. Aquas have a lot of friends - male and female. They can be friends with someone without being intimate.
Then, you initiated and invited him for sex. You took the lead. Aqua men would rather not be chased like that. I think you should have waited on him to initiate sex. Most men would rather be the ones initiating. IF you come on too strong, aquaman will run. Must wait for him to develop feelings first, then you can take the lead on some things. Otherwise, they feel cornered or trapped and will come out resisting.
Seems like you expected too much, too soon.
Of course, I'm not an aqua man. I'm not even an aqua. And I can't speak for aqua men. But I have dated three in my lifetime and have been with my current for over two years.
Keep in mind, this is just my opinion.
That's the thing Truecap! I wanted things to go slower with this one because i wasn't sure of him. But he was the one who went too fast. he assumed that we had already had a relationship on our first date. it was too serious too soon and i know it's hard to believe but it wasn't me at all. he was making plans and buying gifts and texting, calling all the time.
then he started being a bit more distant, like a real aqua... 🙂
i got mad not because she had lunch with these girls but because we planned
Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by caplady
a book i forgot in his car
OK, this book sounded more important. Yeah, you might never see that book again. As for him... hmm, he could be a player? Therefore, you might never understand quite why, except he's just that kinda guy.
When's his birthday?click to expand
18th of february
ps: It was my favorite book, all highlighted with notes and all but he can't understand it, he doesn't read.
Funny, my birthday is February 18th as well. We're a bit slippery to hold onto at first.
Posted by capladyPosted by aquapiscescuspPosted by caplady
a book i forgot in his car
OK, this book sounded more important. Yeah, you might never see that book again. As for him... hmm, he could be a player? Therefore, you might never understand quite why, except he's just that kinda guy.
When's his birthday?
18th of february
ps: It was my favorite book, all highlighted with notes and all but he can't understand it, he doesn't read.click to expand
What did you like about this guy besides all the compliments he gave you?
Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by capladyPosted by aquapiscescuspPosted by caplady
a book i forgot in his car
OK, this book sounded more important. Yeah, you might never see that book again. As for him... hmm, he could be a player? Therefore, you might never understand quite why, except he's just that kinda guy.
When's his birthday?
18th of february
ps: It was my favorite book, all highlighted with notes and all but he can't understand it, he doesn't read.
What did you like about this guy besides all the compliments he gave you?click to expand
His presence.
1. You weren't his girlfriend. And he never agreed to be exclusive with you. Unless a man agrees to do either with you, he's technically still a single man. And what do single men do? Sleep with & entertain other women.
2. You weren't so honest & forthcoming about your feelings with him. Your intentions were in the right place when you refused to admit your lack of interest in him in the beginning b/c you didn't want to hurt his feelings, but nonetheless it still equated to dishonesty & mixed signals from you.
Now that he's doing the same to you (trust me, there's a reason behind his sudden behavior too...a reason he's not giving to you...sound familiar?), and you can't handle it.
I can't stress #1 enough. If you didn't want him to treat you like a "hit it and quit it," then you should've never given him the power & opportunity to do so.
3. Forget about that book. He's made the decision to ignore you. When an Aqua is in that mood, nothing you say/do can get them out of it until THEY are ready to. So save your energy.
If you do get your book back it'll be b/c 1. He's ready to be done with you, thus no longer needing the book as a memento reminding him of you or 2. He'll get the sense that you no longer care, which takes away his incentive to keep it and see you sweat (His goal was to see you sweat. Once he sees that you stopped caring, the reverse psychology will take effect & he will give it back OR look for another way to hang something over your head or keep himself relevant in your life).
Move on.
2. You weren't so honest & forthcoming about your feelings with him. Your intentions were in the right place when you refused to admit your lack of interest in him in the beginning b/c you didn't want to hurt his feelings, but nonetheless it still equated to dishonesty & mixed signals from you.
Now that he's doing the same to you (trust me, there's a reason behind his sudden behavior too...a reason he's not giving to you...sound familiar?), and you can't handle it.
I can't stress #1 enough. If you didn't want him to treat you like a "hit it and quit it," then you should've never given him the power & opportunity to do so.
3. Forget about that book. He's made the decision to ignore you. When an Aqua is in that mood, nothing you say/do can get them out of it until THEY are ready to. So save your energy.
If you do get your book back it'll be b/c 1. He's ready to be done with you, thus no longer needing the book as a memento reminding him of you or 2. He'll get the sense that you no longer care, which takes away his incentive to keep it and see you sweat (His goal was to see you sweat. Once he sees that you stopped caring, the reverse psychology will take effect & he will give it back OR look for another way to hang something over your head or keep himself relevant in your life).
Move on.
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@champranger : apparently i was wrong when i invited him home, but it just felt right at that moment. i find it stupid to have to wait but i see now that it is necessary, that you can't live on your emotions, you need to consider the social status quo.
@krysrenee7 : we were exclusive and i'm not jealous because of these girls, but because we made a plan and he didn't care, typical aqua not showing up after promising to do so... i would love to believe you about the reason of his behavior but in my opinion i was too nice to him, so he thought that he could care less. It's normal, when someone never complains you tend to put her/him aside.
about the book, i don't think he will give it back to me. Because you don't write to someone out of a blue if you don't communicate with her/him at all.
"If you didn't want him to treat you like a "hit it and quit it," then you should've never given him the power & opportunity to do so." = I totally agree!!!
Do you have scorpio in your chart btw?
@champranger : apparently i was wrong when i invited him home, but it just felt right at that moment. i find it stupid to have to wait but i see now that it is necessary, that you can't live on your emotions, you need to consider the social status quo.
@krysrenee7 : we were exclusive and i'm not jealous because of these girls, but because we made a plan and he didn't care, typical aqua not showing up after promising to do so... i would love to believe you about the reason of his behavior but in my opinion i was too nice to him, so he thought that he could care less. It's normal, when someone never complains you tend to put her/him aside.
about the book, i don't think he will give it back to me. Because you don't write to someone out of a blue if you don't communicate with her/him at all.
"If you didn't want him to treat you like a "hit it and quit it," then you should've never given him the power & opportunity to do so." = I totally agree!!!
Do you have scorpio in your chart btw?
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i'm a capricorn who dated an aquarius for 4 years, and he had nearly everything i wanted, but we had to break up. then i met this aquaman2, let's call him A2. we met in a club, as i was volunteering in a charity event. he came to me and we chatted for 3 minutes, and he told me i was the most pretty girl there and he left. i liked him a bit that night. he added me on facebook and wrote me for a week to plan a meeting, i didn't really want to (what if we knew to listen to our instincts..) so i made excuses.
then he invited me to a concert and i said why not, i was planning to tell him that it couldn't work out between us. he complemented me so much that i didn't know how to answer and i was quite embarrassed. he was TOO romantic and it lasted for a week. I always thought his feelings and his words were not sincere. he was planning our next year in our first date! he brought me flowers he asked me to text him more during the day, etc.
on the third week i invited him home to have sex. he already told me that he had a problem and it didn't work out well. he started being distant and less caring after that (i need o mention that i broke up 4 days later). i didn't see him before 4 days, on the third day we talked on the phone for an our and fixed a date for the next day. on the next day, he didn't even mention it and i learned that he was with 2 girlfriends on a mall at lunch time, when we were supposed to meet. on the afternoon we met elsewhere on my initiative and he broke my heart again.
that day i broke up with him by texting him. he asked me why and i told him he was always hurting my feelings. he didn't say anything. it has been 6 days now. i liked his picture on facebook, than i got mad and unfriended him. on the evening i've asked him to give me back my book because i really care about it (which is true), and he didn't even answer to that.
WHY does he not communicate with me anymore? Ok we don't need to be friends, but he could have at least write me about my book.