Is this Aqua?

I get really stressed from being around people too much, but I really desire close relationships.

Although I desire close relationships, I don't know how to express myself, lead a conversation, or feel comfortable around people.

Most of the time, I set aside my feelings and work through a problem logically, but the feelings usually resurface and I deal with them by isolating myself.

Often, I want to tell people what is bothering me so they can understand, but I feel like they won't care and I am afraid they won't care. And although I enjoy helping others, at some point in time I feel resentment for one-sided relationships. -- Though, I realize it is my own fault.

When I disappear, it causes tension. Other times, people move on with their lives and forget about it. Either way, I realize it is hard to maintain any form of relationship with anyone. I can't express myself, I can't have a normal conversation, and I isolate myself.

I realize these are all qualities that an Aqua's possesses, but does it really have anything to do about our sign? Does anyone else struggle with this?

Hey lammal23...yeah I'm an Aqua female and I can relate to what you're saying here cause I used to be like you. BUT, there is hope! I decided that I didn't want to be so isolated anymore so I set out to change myself. I spent LOTS of time just people watching. Yep, and that was what really helped me open up. I found a new me hidden inside that really was a "social butterfly" and I'd give myself goals I had to accomplish like when I was out I had to meet/introduce myself/and remember at LEAST 6 new people every week. I did it. It wasn't easy at first, but once I got going I had a blast! I found so many new friends, and also lots of people who weren't allowed in my personal space-yes, they do exist, you just have to weed them out as you go. I became a very good social director of our local area and had LOTS of people gathering on different weeknights to join in doing different fun things like playing pool, bowling, darts, dancing...I was NEVER alone or wanting for anything social anymore. Thru these newly formed friendships I was also able to observe many "relationships" and the do's and dont's of dating, marriage, friendships, family life, etc. I did what I had to do to make my life what I really wanted it to be. Although I'm no longer in that crazy busy scene I'm still having fun meeting and learning all about new people here on the internet, which gf is way too cool in my book. How else could I meet and befriend someone who lives on the opposite side of our country or of the world?!!! Decide what you want out of life and then go get it. You'll have those "me" moments your whole life when you'll want to disappear or go MIA as people call it, but hell EVERYBODY wants that in their life from time to time so just make notice that you'll be temporarily gone, go do your thing, and come back all refreshed and ready to go once again. I guess the most important thing is to just be YOU. You'll be fine. Oh yeah, and being "different" is a GOOD thing!!! PEACE & LOVE

Hi lammal23,

Although I am not Aqua, I can relate and I struggle with this sometimes as well. My journey is similar to lunar baby, the only difference is I didn't make it my goal to go out and meet new people. I met people by persuing my interests and projects and other goals I had set for myself. That is how I learned to be more observant and watch how other people interact with each other. I understand how you feel about being afraid noone will care, from my experiences I've learned that when I don't isolate myself and keep people guessing about how or what I feel, it opens the door to communication and eliminates the one-sided relationship. The difficult part is finding someone who will listen patiently and without judgement.

You CAN express yourself, you're doing it right now 🙂 I can't tell you what to do, but I can offer advice.....and my advice is to do what it is that you want to do and that is "Often, I want to tell people what is bothering me so they can understand" If you want to be alone with your thoughts or yourself then say exactly that. When they ask why, you have the option to offer the reason. If they don't like the reason, SO WHAT they don't have to. A true friend will respect your request. I will concur with lunar baby, be true to yourself FIRST. Good luck and have fun!

Hi lammal23,

Although I am not Aqua, I can relate and I struggle with this sometimes as well. My journey is similar to lunar baby, the only difference is I didn't make it my goal to go out and meet new people. I met people by persuing my interests and projects and other goals I had set for myself. That is how I learned to be more observant and watch how other people interact with each other. I understand how you feel about being afraid noone will care, from my experiences I've learned that when I don't isolate myself and keep people guessing about how or what I feel, it opens the door to communication and eliminates the one-sided relationship. The difficult part is finding someone who will listen patiently and without judgement.

You CAN express yourself, you're doing it right now 🙂 I can't tell you what to do, but I can offer advice.....and my advice is to do what it is that you want to do and that is "Often, I want to tell people what is bothering me so they can understand" If you want to be alone with your thoughts or yourself then say exactly that. When they ask why, you have the option to offer the reason. If they don't like the reason, SO WHAT they don't have to. A true friend will respect your request. Always be true to you FIRST. Good luck and have fun!

I can definetely relate to what you're saying. It's almost like we have split personalities, but not in the negative sense. We can crave 2 completely different things at the exact same time (for example, isolation but also closeness).