Just Friends—

Do you have a friend that you would consider being more intimate with...anyone...anyone?

It doesn't work most of the time, so why risk a good friend.

Why not Clady...why not take the risk if you think there could be more—? Why not— You've tried and failed—

Actually no I haven't. Once you go into friend mode with me, it is hard to get out.

However, I do have a few friends that did try it and failed miserably! Then they lost their friend too which sucks. Conversely, hooking up with a friend can be one of the most fulfilling of relationships.

Do you have a situation with a friend now?

Yeah, I'm kinda torn. I really like her alot and wouldn't want anything too happen to our friendship ,but I also have kinda romantic feelings around her at times. I don't know exactly what direction too go. Cruisin for a bruisen I'm sure.

True, but she could also be waiting for you to make the right move. What is your repoire like now? Friendly/Buddy or Friendly/Flirty?

I would have too say it's both friendly flirty. Any suggestions?

Lol Judah

You can't be the same way friend with women as you with men. Women and men could be only on flirty side friendship and nothing more. Yes they can, but this is against human nature and surely not any way benefical for any party in this sitaution.

Next time, act with women like your potential girlfriends, not just friends.

Haffo,

I totally disagree. I've had many, many male friends and absolutely nothing has become of it. Actually, I get along MUCH better with men than I do with women and I know of other ladies that are the same.

When I was in college I hung out with a group of people, both male and female, none of us went beyond the friendship and we are still close as of today.

I think your feelings on the subject are culturally influenced. If you (generally speaking) make an effort to see someone beyond their body, then we are all basically the same.

Judah,

That's a tough one. You'd be better off letting her make the first move. Yes, you have to read the signals. Calling you with lame excuses is a pretty good hint so that's something to keep your eyes open for. In addition, if she ever invites you to family functions, that's another.

In these cases (I think), it's more than likely for the woman to try and change the situation from friends to more.

The way i see it if you are attracted to them.. then your living a lie just pretending to be m8s anyway.. and if you both like each other then hell go for it...

No, I wouldn't want to put a great friendship at risk by take the chance it could ruin everything a friendship is built on. Actually, I have just lost a friend today. It's for the better as time went on I felt the friendship was starting to drain on me and I was getting sadder and sadder. The guy is a Virgo. Never encounted a Virgo before, at least that I know of, and I have to say it's been a worthwhile experience but not one I'd want to go through again. He and I got to know each other very quickly. I'm an Aquarian so I love to make new friends. He would constantly call me every day. Then it went for while that I would hear from him within two days. He always wanted me to know how popular he is among girls which never seemed to bother me. Anyway, in the recent I have hardly heard from him and I was getting a bad feeling. Turns out the bad feeling I was having was right. Sometimes I can be very blunt so I called him today asking what was going on. Oh, suddenly he has girlfriend. I said: So? There should be no change in our friendship. He said his new girlfriend is the jealous type. All girls he seems to attract are always jealous. I think he uses the excuse of jealousy on the girls part. I asked him what did he want to do then since his new girlfriend was the jealous type. Oh, he would call me at another time. By the way, since he has a new girlfriend he has a lot on his mind. Typical Virgo. I told him not to bother. I said to him that I wanted to know where I stood with him and finally I got my answer. I'm so happy for that. I don't like someone playing games with me. I just don't see why he can't stay friends with me. I'm not after him at all. Anyway, the friendship was not meant to be but I learnt so much. I won't deny, I am a little sad because I thought he and I had a unique friendship. Seems like I was wrong. I don't need someone calling me out of the blue just when they feel like it. I don't think all Virgos are the same but I did get somewhat hurt by him. He said he and I would always be friends. Although when I'm writing this I see some clues. He would tell me he doesn't respect himself or anybody, he's an a**hole etc,. I would always say that wasn't true. Maybe he was right. Next time I encounter a Virgo, I will be more cautious. Today, I am a little blue but I will get past this. In life nothing is a guarantee.