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Mental Breakdown & Save the World?
Can I ask how old your Aqua is? Seems a bit similar to the Aqua in my life...mid/late 30's and is currently going through a crisis of sorts. Not sure what he wants out of life or where he's going (so many things in the world he has strong feelings about too and wishes he could change)....Perhaps in meeting me it brought on this "life-change" as he has told me I am the first woman he has ever considered marrying and we seem to have a very strong emotional and mental bond, even with distance between us....As for myself, I'm a Sag/Cap cusp with Libra moon and Sag rising....
I don't consider this crazy at all. From what I have read about Aqua's they seem to be passionate creatures that tend to analyze every last detail, especially when it comes to life changing emotions, thoughts, people or events....so I would consider these "episodes" they go through the nature of the beast. For myself, I don't analyze every last detail (for the most part, although I can be this way sometimes) I consider things fairly cut and dry after a bit of thought and believe me I do think!....to them, it takes a while longer to reach a conclusion, if they ever do, because their thought process is so lengthy...they seem to go over every last scenario in their heads which can be extremely hard to deal with sometimes.
Giving them space is of utmost importance. Mine didn't ask for it, but I gave it willingly because I know they need the space to think without outside pressure and it is in my nature to not be overly needy emotional wise, I am one of those that needs space as well and can be quite a loner sometimes. But I could tell he was getting a bit distant and I addressed this with him. I then told him that perhaps I should step out of the picture to let him think clearly without any influence from me (I also hoped this would speed up the process! ha ha). I also told him that if the day comes he feels he wants me to be a part of his life, he knows where I am and how to reach me......the lack of contact after that lasted about 4 days, he then called me to let me know he was making positive changes in his life and since then his contact with me has been more attached and less distant. I suppose I can take that as he indeed does want me to be a part of his life....but, until the day he states (in one way or another) that I am indeed the woman he wants to be with, I will be living life as I normally do.....
I don't consider this crazy at all. From what I have read about Aqua's they seem to be passionate creatures that tend to analyze every last detail, especially when it comes to life changing emotions, thoughts, people or events....so I would consider these "episodes" they go through the nature of the beast. For myself, I don't analyze every last detail (for the most part, although I can be this way sometimes) I consider things fairly cut and dry after a bit of thought and believe me I do think!....to them, it takes a while longer to reach a conclusion, if they ever do, because their thought process is so lengthy...they seem to go over every last scenario in their heads which can be extremely hard to deal with sometimes.
Giving them space is of utmost importance. Mine didn't ask for it, but I gave it willingly because I know they need the space to think without outside pressure and it is in my nature to not be overly needy emotional wise, I am one of those that needs space as well and can be quite a loner sometimes. But I could tell he was getting a bit distant and I addressed this with him. I then told him that perhaps I should step out of the picture to let him think clearly without any influence from me (I also hoped this would speed up the process! ha ha). I also told him that if the day comes he feels he wants me to be a part of his life, he knows where I am and how to reach me......the lack of contact after that lasted about 4 days, he then called me to let me know he was making positive changes in his life and since then his contact with me has been more attached and less distant. I suppose I can take that as he indeed does want me to be a part of his life....but, until the day he states (in one way or another) that I am indeed the woman he wants to be with, I will be living life as I normally do.....
This aqua is 21, I dated him a year ago...but I've stayed friends with his friends and they let me know. They say he's completely changed and not for the better, snotty attitude and constant philosophical talk even in situations where it really doesn't call for it, (i.e., parties lol).
From my experience with my aqua (and what an experience that was), they do seem to like their space, but mine must have had some influences that said otherwise.
I gave him enough space for him to state to me that I was "too cold" and not showy in front of friends, etc etc. One of the many, many downfalls!
Hopefully an aqua here will give you some better advice :/
I must commend you for having the patience to deal with the distance and this mental trip he's going through though!
I wouldn't hold my breath personally, I'm not the type to wait around, as bad as that is...I'm thinking if your aqua sees that you're there with him (sort of) he will realize it sooner or later!
I'm actually considering a leo now, and I'm slowly losing interest as days go by with no bold moves...
I'm a gemini/cancer cusp, moon in aqua and sag rising (like you!) lol. Just putting it out there.
Hope everything works out in your favor SagGal70! 😄
From my experience with my aqua (and what an experience that was), they do seem to like their space, but mine must have had some influences that said otherwise.
I gave him enough space for him to state to me that I was "too cold" and not showy in front of friends, etc etc. One of the many, many downfalls!
Hopefully an aqua here will give you some better advice :/
I must commend you for having the patience to deal with the distance and this mental trip he's going through though!
I wouldn't hold my breath personally, I'm not the type to wait around, as bad as that is...I'm thinking if your aqua sees that you're there with him (sort of) he will realize it sooner or later!
I'm actually considering a leo now, and I'm slowly losing interest as days go by with no bold moves...
I'm a gemini/cancer cusp, moon in aqua and sag rising (like you!) lol. Just putting it out there.
Hope everything works out in your favor SagGal70! 😄
Ahhh, very true Feisty.....I honestly think everyone goes through this sometime or another, some more than once, some longer than others, some major, some minor....but, we all handle it differently. Do you think, though, that the difference here is Aqua's tend to analyze these situations more and take more time than most to sort out these feelings and thoughts?
I've been going through a bit of soul searching myself these days, but realize what changes I need to make and have started to put my plan in to motion (new location, new job, pretty much a new start planned in the next year...)
Quebom: Patience is really not in my nature, ha ha....but, when it comes to men, I understand those that feel the need for space as it is something I relate to. I can be quite the loner myself at times and like to ponder lifes questions in solitude...so pretty much I am not afraid to be alone. The key here is that I know I don't need a male around to be happy...yeah, I do get lonely for companionship at times, but it passes and the next day life continues. As far as my Aqua goes I love him dearly and, of course, if he chooses another life path that doesn't involve me there will be a great sense of loss I will feel for someone I had a wonderful connection with.... and yes I will have my mourning period....but in my mind and the way I reason, I will realize it wasn't meant to be and the earth keeps spinning...
So in this case, patience is really not a factor...I've found a very special man that I'm willing to give the space and time he needs because my life continues on as normal, by myself....really, it's a win/win situation for me. You just have to dive in to these kinds of situations in the right mindset that is all...
I've been going through a bit of soul searching myself these days, but realize what changes I need to make and have started to put my plan in to motion (new location, new job, pretty much a new start planned in the next year...)
Quebom: Patience is really not in my nature, ha ha....but, when it comes to men, I understand those that feel the need for space as it is something I relate to. I can be quite the loner myself at times and like to ponder lifes questions in solitude...so pretty much I am not afraid to be alone. The key here is that I know I don't need a male around to be happy...yeah, I do get lonely for companionship at times, but it passes and the next day life continues. As far as my Aqua goes I love him dearly and, of course, if he chooses another life path that doesn't involve me there will be a great sense of loss I will feel for someone I had a wonderful connection with.... and yes I will have my mourning period....but in my mind and the way I reason, I will realize it wasn't meant to be and the earth keeps spinning...
So in this case, patience is really not a factor...I've found a very special man that I'm willing to give the space and time he needs because my life continues on as normal, by myself....really, it's a win/win situation for me. You just have to dive in to these kinds of situations in the right mindset that is all...
Some Aquas have a very hard time analyzing & thoroughly examining themselves. They spend so much time trying to be humanitarians for others that they sometimes forget about themselves. They can be such good counselors & logical for others, thus this kind of role they give to themselves sometimes prohibits them from living in an emotional state all the time. Therefore, when an Aqua finally does have time to examine, evaluate & analyze their own lives, this is usually when they get down & out. This is when they start seeing the good, the bad & the ugly within themselves & b/c Aquas truly cherish how others think of them (especially those they are trying to help & be there for), Aquas become VERY dedicated to fixing and/or atleast tweaking anything within themselves that others could potentially pick up on & turn on them for.
The bad thing about Aquas going through this kind of mental state is that they often do distance themselves from everyone. During this time, they are known to send mixed signals & carry on wishy-washy behavior that confuses others & often makes others second guess them. And b/c Aquas usually go through strong emotional phases in the dark & away from everybody, another person seeing their Aqua so down & vulnerable is so shocking, considering when they're down, they are REALLY down. BUT the good thing about this is that Aquas who finally found it in themselves to look in the mirror usually turn out to be 10 times better than they were before. When they finally acknowledge faults/flaws, they can FINALLY use the same counseling & "get to the bottom of it" techniques on THEMSELVES that they use on other people. Once an Aqua has mastered the art of being a humanitarian for self, they come out of their darkness as even better people, thus those on the outside & their friendships/relationships with them are often better.
Once an Aqua comes out of that mental darkness, they come out very positive & ready to change the world. This comes from an overwhelming proudness of themselves to have completed the hardest challenge fixed signs face: looking in the mirror. That is where their ultimate optimism comes from. Once out of the darkness, they feel so great & that huge weights have lifted off their shoulders. THey not only want to show their loved ones their progress, but they want the whole world (OR as many people as possible) to witness this change in them too
The bad thing about Aquas going through this kind of mental state is that they often do distance themselves from everyone. During this time, they are known to send mixed signals & carry on wishy-washy behavior that confuses others & often makes others second guess them. And b/c Aquas usually go through strong emotional phases in the dark & away from everybody, another person seeing their Aqua so down & vulnerable is so shocking, considering when they're down, they are REALLY down. BUT the good thing about this is that Aquas who finally found it in themselves to look in the mirror usually turn out to be 10 times better than they were before. When they finally acknowledge faults/flaws, they can FINALLY use the same counseling & "get to the bottom of it" techniques on THEMSELVES that they use on other people. Once an Aqua has mastered the art of being a humanitarian for self, they come out of their darkness as even better people, thus those on the outside & their friendships/relationships with them are often better.
Once an Aqua comes out of that mental darkness, they come out very positive & ready to change the world. This comes from an overwhelming proudness of themselves to have completed the hardest challenge fixed signs face: looking in the mirror. That is where their ultimate optimism comes from. Once out of the darkness, they feel so great & that huge weights have lifted off their shoulders. THey not only want to show their loved ones their progress, but they want the whole world (OR as many people as possible) to witness this change in them too
Kevin Costner wasn't too bad in that film! 🙂
Posted by valeria25Posted by Aquaguy7
Kevin Costner wasn't too bad in that film! 🙂
It was a FLOPPED film!! LOL
All of us totally need earth!! 😛click to expand
LOL! True but still Kevin did his thang!
I've got plenty of Earth! 😉
^ Oh I like that. Every element has some importance there! 🙂
I go through this every 3-4 months. Usually means I need to find something new to occupy my time so that I don't go through another breakdown. Sitting around thinking about the world's problems and figuring out how to make a difference can really tear you to pieces if done for extended periods of time. That's why I've committed myself to become somewhat of a projects kind of person. If I don't have a project to work on that will take a substantial amount of time and effort then I'll start to feel completely and utterly useless until I've found it and finished it. Like most people will tell you Aquas live in their heads and if we can somehow channel that mental energy into something productive then we won't over think things and end up messing everything else up around us.
Can't really see what the problem is, unless he is making such declarations from atop a tall building with a sign around his neck saying —The world is dark and leaden. Watch me soar above it in flight??.
Considering the current state of the world, I would think anyone not worried about it to be a little strange. Being aware of such a flawed product, one that possesses the capacity for such great beauty and wonder, you would have to be very indifferent not to give it any thought. Such ignorance requires a super kind of ostrich and a huge desert of sand.
As to the philosophical musings, one of my degrees happens to be in Philosophy. Why would any Aquarian not be interested in the 'behind the scenes' workings of our various worlds?
The sad thing is that the vast majority of people either aren't interested or lack the mental capacity to support such abstract conceptual thinking. As Platos analogy of the cave suggests, most people would prefer to gaze upon the torch lit trickery of the shadow theatre upon the wall than turn their gaze away to seek out its source/explanation. Granted, parties are fun events, and probably not the best place for deep philosophical musings. However, he appears to be in desperate need to articulate his thoughts to someone that can appreciate them and talk them through with him.
Such a need, once recognised, can be very powerful - to the extent where any social gathering and meeting of people can be seen as an opportunity to reach out in the hope of finding another person to bounce ideas off.
I think he just wants someone to talk with about the things on his mind — and everyone appears to be more concerned with his temporary change of character than addressing this newly emerged need.
Considering the current state of the world, I would think anyone not worried about it to be a little strange. Being aware of such a flawed product, one that possesses the capacity for such great beauty and wonder, you would have to be very indifferent not to give it any thought. Such ignorance requires a super kind of ostrich and a huge desert of sand.
As to the philosophical musings, one of my degrees happens to be in Philosophy. Why would any Aquarian not be interested in the 'behind the scenes' workings of our various worlds?
The sad thing is that the vast majority of people either aren't interested or lack the mental capacity to support such abstract conceptual thinking. As Platos analogy of the cave suggests, most people would prefer to gaze upon the torch lit trickery of the shadow theatre upon the wall than turn their gaze away to seek out its source/explanation. Granted, parties are fun events, and probably not the best place for deep philosophical musings. However, he appears to be in desperate need to articulate his thoughts to someone that can appreciate them and talk them through with him.
Such a need, once recognised, can be very powerful - to the extent where any social gathering and meeting of people can be seen as an opportunity to reach out in the hope of finding another person to bounce ideas off.
I think he just wants someone to talk with about the things on his mind — and everyone appears to be more concerned with his temporary change of character than addressing this newly emerged need.
Makes life interesting though don't it? Hahahaha!
Puts on his best Jack Nicholson accent
You wanna see me being weird Valeria?, You can't HANDLE me being weird ...!! 😉
Is a secret fan of the word weird, because it breaks the convention of the well known mnemonic aid
"I before E except after C"
You wanna see me being weird Valeria?, You can't HANDLE me being weird ...!! 😉
Is a secret fan of the word weird, because it breaks the convention of the well known mnemonic aid
"I before E except after C"
Not that I'm aware of it Ms Parfait.
Although I'm quite used to the weird moniker being handed out when I mention any Philosophy - Thus Spoke Zarathustra.
Must be my Sag Ascendant that makes me comfortable with the seeking of knowledge in areas other people avoid.
The shadows on the wall might have sounded strange, but its actually a very basic and famous Philosophical analogy
http://www.theologicalstudies.org/articles/article/1527417/17139.htm<BR>
Then again, I'm also quite used to the goofy-weird label being attached to me at times and I quite like it 🙂
Although I'm quite used to the weird moniker being handed out when I mention any Philosophy - Thus Spoke Zarathustra.
Must be my Sag Ascendant that makes me comfortable with the seeking of knowledge in areas other people avoid.
The shadows on the wall might have sounded strange, but its actually a very basic and famous Philosophical analogy
http://www.theologicalstudies.org/articles/article/1527417/17139.htm<BR>
Then again, I'm also quite used to the goofy-weird label being attached to me at times and I quite like it 🙂
Never inappropriate to interject with humor around me Ms Parfait.
My Moon is in Libra Val
My full natal chart can be viewed at
Made the quick vid awhile ago to show someone what info a free natal chart site gave.
My Moon is in Libra Val
My full natal chart can be viewed at
Made the quick vid awhile ago to show someone what info a free natal chart site gave.
It seems to work very well for me. I'm equally happy being single or in a relationship.
On the whole I'm pretty much a typical Aquarian, in that I like being with people - but I also like my own space. The influence of my Libra Moon probably explains why I'm more comfortable and open to the idea of togetherness than Aquas with other aspects.
However, there are times when it can be difficult for the person I'm with, but that depends on the emphasis they place on together time.
I guess the best way to explain it would be to say that I like —Rubber Band Relationships??
Oh Lovely Hugs
I Need My Own Space
Quick, Run Away
Twang !!!!!
Oh Lovely Hugs
Repeat Until Fade
Pfft, aren't we Aquas supposed to be confusing and unpredictable. You expected something original and I gave you something ordinary — perfectly Aqua to me 🙂
On the whole I'm pretty much a typical Aquarian, in that I like being with people - but I also like my own space. The influence of my Libra Moon probably explains why I'm more comfortable and open to the idea of togetherness than Aquas with other aspects.
However, there are times when it can be difficult for the person I'm with, but that depends on the emphasis they place on together time.
I guess the best way to explain it would be to say that I like —Rubber Band Relationships??
Oh Lovely Hugs
I Need My Own Space
Quick, Run Away
Twang !!!!!
Oh Lovely Hugs
Repeat Until Fade
Pfft, aren't we Aquas supposed to be confusing and unpredictable. You expected something original and I gave you something ordinary — perfectly Aqua to me 🙂
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