Need Advice Please

I talked with some of you about writing the Aqua a letter expressing what I liked and admired about him (belated Valentine's Day since he's been out of town). Soooo, I'm thinking about doing it. Any thoughts or advice on this?

Still a little unsure whether its something I should do. I've got a week until he gets home.

Why are you having doubts?

Do his birth chart!! then its kinda nice but not too in your face mushy where you might feel embarassed and then you have something good to discuss because THEN you can both talk about what you think is true and what you think isnt, you could add tunes to it, or remember back to conversations and quote them and add them where you think appropiate... I just did one for the aqua`s birthday, even though hes doing the quiet thing i still sent it, weve no reason to fall out and im not going to be bitchy and withold something, AND its taken me months, it was kinda a birth chart but i did it like it kinda had a story to it, like how it came about for his gift to be a birth chart, from one silly short conversation we had and i quoted it, there was lots of little messages in it, a bit of music, kind of backing bits up with facts ive noticed about him, i added things for self growth, simple quotes or words from songs, things to make him think but nice and none offensive... no appreciation as yet so i cant tell you whether he liked it or not but i did think how can anyone not be facinated with reading about themself even if they found astrology all gobbledeegoop...another aqua liked the idea and thought it was awesome if thats any help 🙂

I can only assume your having doubts because your planning on sharing more of your feelings then you ever have?

I know! the awesome truecap I've come to know has gone all SOFT on me 😛 kidding kidding

I'm going to do it!! There. I know once I start writing, it will flow out without thought, so I think I'll just get to it.

Yes, NYAA, I'm afraid I'll get sappy and make myself vulnerable, but ah well! I don't think it would be so bad. lol! Yup, another cap shield done gone.

@Feb16 - That's how I should approach it, as if I wasn't giving it too him. Would be a lot easier to write that way!

Elle - I'm not sure if he would be interested in a birth chart. I may do that for him another time.

Aquasnoz - Not completely soft, my heart melts for this one, though! lol!

I think I just needed to hear some encouragement. Thanks yall for the support. I'm pretty sure he already knows how I feel, so it probably won't be much of a shock to him if I give myself away.

I'll let yall know how it goes.

I dunno if it's better for an Aquarius to say first or the other I guess it just depends. At the end of the day he has caused you to feel this way and if it has been as long as you say, then I think there is nothing wrong with it at all. About the only the only thing that could be prudent is to not overdue it I guess BUT then again you never know.... I think overdoing it should be reserved for when the one you love is showing they are insecure about how you feel or what you think. In the situation at hand I think well chosen words that can be interpreted to mean everything that you feel or just being direct and to the point might be better. But you know the relationship better than us all and if you think it calls for it then by all means be sappy as can be 8). If it's just for you though because you want him to show how he feels more to you.... I would refrain from going overboard and just do as I suggested. I'm thinking as if it were me and I know if I was gone and I come home and my Cap girl is doing her own thing not even needing me I mean.... Not ignoring me but showing she is responsible and taking care of her life I would be more attracted and express my feelings then someone giving me a card with how they feel about me, unless she already has..... But hey that's me. A card like what your talking about unless of course it's already been expressed may still be liked of course I just don't know for sure if it would have the same effect or not if you weren't careful about the wording.

Sorry, if this is discouraging.... I think no matter how you write it, he will like it. You just don't want to cause an aloof episode in case for whatever reason this makes him feel pressured because these are feelings he has not fully processed. Who knows it could even make him feel bad if be realizes he's caused such strong feelings and he is still unsure of the responsibility he has at hand to you and your kids at that. It's just a thought after all and it's good to stay open minded. I think the most attractive thing to me is a women who is independent and just as responsible or more so than I am. There really is a lot to be said for huntresses's post about Aquas..... I'm not sure If totally agree with the whole relationship lazy-ness or not But a women who he does not have to worry about (not that he would not think of her), that takes care of her shit and got's it together.... That while still satisfying that little quarky uniqueness we can't find an

Anywhere else is going to get all the expressions of love and adoration she could ask for.

Note: I'm only saying this because as you said neither of you have fully expressed this to each other as of yet.

NYAA - I will definitely keep that in mind and choose the wording with care. I appreciate your input!