pisceslicious
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need some help from aquarius male out there..
Understanding Aquarius Males in Relationships
Aquarius males value independence and freedom, which can lead to flirtatious behavior despite their feelings. They often seek mental connection and may struggle with commitment if they feel confined. Open communication is key to understanding their intentions and boundaries in relationships.
OK I'll give this a shot. I have to say from the outset that I don't approve of his behaviour, although the chances are, he didn't mean to deceive or hurt you. It is likely no intent of malicious was involved it is simple ignorance. Also his actions were probably completely justified in his head.
First thing, did he actually ask you to be his girl friend? Were they his exact words or did he imply it? Second when he was flirting online again did he actually say he didn't have a gf or did he imply it. Us Aquas can have no problem bending the truth a little, but when I give my word on something I do my damnest to keep it (it took me a while to get there don't assume your Aqua is the same way). On the football match, when he said you are his friend. He is technically telling the truth. You are his friend, the fact that you are also something more does not make the statement, you are his friend not true.
Us Aqua males can be damned insensitive and can have issues with the truth. We can be very in our heads, all ideas, we can tell what you??re thinking sometimes, but this means we can miss blinding obvious things. Like the fact that inviting you to the match and telling his family you are his friend, would hurt you.
The big positive I take from above is that he invited you to meet his family. In my book that a big step for him. I think he got a little embarrassed and that's why he introduced you as his friend. We can feel sometimes, that something is so blinding obvious that we don't actually need to say it. Pure conjecture, but you and him turn up together, he's holding your hand or gives you a kisses, to anyone watching it is obvious that you and he are more than friends. Us Aquas are about actions more than words, he showed the world and more importantly his family that he likes you. The fact that his words were different probably makes very little difference in his head.
I??ve said the above, so you have a little understanding of what you are letting yourself in for, if you proceed with this. With all relationship things — TELL HIM WHATS ON YOUR MIND. Especially the online dating thing. Ask him straight why he denied having a gf, when he asked you to be his gf.
Also if you have a mutual friend, try to find out about his character. I can see from the —I tried to break up with him but he does'nt want (to)?? that he talked you round and you both have feelings and like each other. That said make an informed choice if you want
First thing, did he actually ask you to be his girl friend? Were they his exact words or did he imply it? Second when he was flirting online again did he actually say he didn't have a gf or did he imply it. Us Aquas can have no problem bending the truth a little, but when I give my word on something I do my damnest to keep it (it took me a while to get there don't assume your Aqua is the same way). On the football match, when he said you are his friend. He is technically telling the truth. You are his friend, the fact that you are also something more does not make the statement, you are his friend not true.
Us Aqua males can be damned insensitive and can have issues with the truth. We can be very in our heads, all ideas, we can tell what you??re thinking sometimes, but this means we can miss blinding obvious things. Like the fact that inviting you to the match and telling his family you are his friend, would hurt you.
The big positive I take from above is that he invited you to meet his family. In my book that a big step for him. I think he got a little embarrassed and that's why he introduced you as his friend. We can feel sometimes, that something is so blinding obvious that we don't actually need to say it. Pure conjecture, but you and him turn up together, he's holding your hand or gives you a kisses, to anyone watching it is obvious that you and he are more than friends. Us Aquas are about actions more than words, he showed the world and more importantly his family that he likes you. The fact that his words were different probably makes very little difference in his head.
I??ve said the above, so you have a little understanding of what you are letting yourself in for, if you proceed with this. With all relationship things — TELL HIM WHATS ON YOUR MIND. Especially the online dating thing. Ask him straight why he denied having a gf, when he asked you to be his gf.
Also if you have a mutual friend, try to find out about his character. I can see from the —I tried to break up with him but he does'nt want (to)?? that he talked you round and you both have feelings and like each other. That said make an informed choice if you want
(cont) to be with this —fruitloop?? (I consider myself a —fruitloop?? too by the way). If you decide yes you??re gonna have to tell him some basic stuff about what pisses off girls, because it seems likely he's never had a girl friend before. Do so gently, kindly and slowly so not to bruise his ego too much.
Further down the track if he runs, just leave him be and if he comes back he really cares for you.
Further down the track if he runs, just leave him be and if he comes back he really cares for you.
His family knows him and he probably doesn't introduce many girls to them. Actually, they probably already knew about you. Keep in mind, the fact that he brought you around pretty much confirms to them that you are his girlfriend. The first time my aqua introduced to me to his family, he said "this is truecap" then some other family members came to the dinner late and his mom and sister introduced me to them as "this is aqua's girlfriend". It was actually surprising to me how they just assumed without words ever being said.
As far as the online girl, just ask him about it. Realize though, you're going to have to be honest and tell him how you know about it, so if you've been snooping, you're going to have to fess up.
If you're ever feeling something is off, just talk to him. Whether you want this, or are feeling that or want to know something. He will most likely give you a straight answer. From my experience, they are pretty honest, even if the honesty will hurt you. You won't ever know until you express yourself. They are pretty open-minded and nonjudgemental. Just keep it rational, logical, nonconfrontational and nonemotional.
As far as the online girl, just ask him about it. Realize though, you're going to have to be honest and tell him how you know about it, so if you've been snooping, you're going to have to fess up.
If you're ever feeling something is off, just talk to him. Whether you want this, or are feeling that or want to know something. He will most likely give you a straight answer. From my experience, they are pretty honest, even if the honesty will hurt you. You won't ever know until you express yourself. They are pretty open-minded and nonjudgemental. Just keep it rational, logical, nonconfrontational and nonemotional.
I know exactly how you feel. I had almost the same situation you're going through. Read my post "is true that aqua guys flirts with other girls?" I got a lot of responses from aqua people. Read it. It might help your problem.
tnx for the responses..I talked to him and asked him about denying that he have a gf..he says he never denied which is BS..and I became distant to him whixch makes him feel aggravated and asking me wats wrong..I told him I wanna break up with him then he says he feels that, thats why he didn't call me when he was out of town again..then I dunno but what I saw on his eyes was shocked and lonely he says that I kept on sabotaging the good relationship we had..and he says that he cares about me and he loves me and he says that it seems that I put a spell on him (which is a mushy line for me lol)..he says he wants me to let him in ( wer hebis pointing on my chest)( I know its very dramatic..lol.) I told him that he is in already its just that there are too many doors that I cant let him in..he says that he knows that I got hurt before with my past relationship and he says that he is not my past..he is my present and my future..and he even mentioned what it would gonna look like our kids in the future which freaked me out!coz I told him from the start that I am not yet ready to have kids (,btw he is 28 and im 26) and he says that he is not planning to have kids yet too ..
then last night, my co-workers invited me to hang out with them 2 males and 1 female..I hang out with them till 2:30am and he called me up and asking me wat am I up to, and I told him the truth and he got aggrevated which end up me going to his place after me and my coworkers done drinking..when I got to his place he was so sweet and i am still distant to him..but after he kissed me, I gave in for being intimate with him, then he put a hickey (kissmark on my cleavage!) and I was pissed! he says that I am marking my territory..you are mine..I dont want to share..and he says that he loves me again..
I dunno wat il gonna think about him..he is driving me crazy, he says words that I dont even know if il gonna believe it..
I felt like my emotions is being played by him like a tidal wave..which sometimes it would gonna be low then all of a sudden gonna be high..
he even asked me once to move in with him which I turned down..I told him that we will gonna end up smotheing each other..
and one time he was under in the influence of alcohol, all of a sudden he says he wants to marry me..and I laugh at him..I says thatvhe is crazy and I said that I dont wanna get married yet..
is he really loves me?or he is just being nice to me or bored and I am the one that he can manipulate?
then last night, my co-workers invited me to hang out with them 2 males and 1 female..I hang out with them till 2:30am and he called me up and asking me wat am I up to, and I told him the truth and he got aggrevated which end up me going to his place after me and my coworkers done drinking..when I got to his place he was so sweet and i am still distant to him..but after he kissed me, I gave in for being intimate with him, then he put a hickey (kissmark on my cleavage!) and I was pissed! he says that I am marking my territory..you are mine..I dont want to share..and he says that he loves me again..
I dunno wat il gonna think about him..he is driving me crazy, he says words that I dont even know if il gonna believe it..
I felt like my emotions is being played by him like a tidal wave..which sometimes it would gonna be low then all of a sudden gonna be high..
he even asked me once to move in with him which I turned down..I told him that we will gonna end up smotheing each other..
and one time he was under in the influence of alcohol, all of a sudden he says he wants to marry me..and I laugh at him..I says thatvhe is crazy and I said that I dont wanna get married yet..
is he really loves me?or he is just being nice to me or bored and I am the one that he can manipulate?
Seems to me you need to ask yourself "Do you love him?"
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