AQUARIUS MEN I NEED ANSWERS!

Ok So first and foremost. My lady is an aggressive female, who in my eyes acts like a MAN, thinks like a MAN, and Loves like one.
We have been through HELL the past few months. ONLY because of Her trust for me & her ex (comfort).
This woman, shows PDA, Kisses me, holds my hand, and enjoys convos, outings EVERYTHING....
BUT what she doesnt understand is my flirting, my friendliness (im a cancer) and my lack of keeping friends who have betrayed me, or whom I have had relations with.
With that trust issue, when too many things confuses her and scares her she runs and a day later shes speding time with her ex....
Its been a year and a half for us. Shes mentioned, house, cars, marriage children.....
The last disaster I told her she would be back and less than a week she returns, told the girl she cant do it and I told her I was done....
Ignored her a day or two and she literally called and I answered she cried, said she was sorry, and also said she is in love with me...
said she cannot seee life without me...
BUT The next day its LIKE it NEVER HAPPENED!
She offered dinner and I declined but three days later I agreed, she said I would like that.
WHAT IS THIS??
I AM SUCH A FIGHTER, BUT IS THIS REAL? AQUARIUS MEN I NEED ANSWERS!

Terribly sorry. Im a woman!
and also when I said Lack of. That was a sentence I changed.
SHE doesnt understand why I keep people around that keeps her feeling threatened.

What's this got to do with aquarius men if your friend is a woman?

Are you implying that we are MANLY? LOL!

Well in a Lesbian Relationship, Most times there is an agressor.
And My gf is an AGressor.
SOOO I want to speak to Aquarius men who have these traits and even women who have dealth with Aquarius men, Maybe I shouldnt have JUST said men.

Posted by WaterCup
Are you implying that we are MANLY? LOL!

OMG NO!
Please dont take it that way.

It is what it is to be honest. Is there a specific opinion you want?

Posted by Ssasy
Well in a Lesbian Relationship, Most times there is an agressor.
And My gf is an AGressor.
SOOO I want to speak to Aquarius men who have these traits and even women who have dealth with Aquarius men, Maybe I shouldnt have JUST said men.

But she's still a woman, right?

Posted by Ssasy

Posted by WaterCup
Are you implying that we are MANLY? LOL!

OMG NO!
Please dont take it that way.

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I'm was joking 🙂

My take on the whole post was

She acts like a man so I'm asking the men.

In short she exhibits behaviours that bug me and I outright told her she'll be back and she even said she loved me.

Why is she like this?

To be fair, how are we suppose to answer this? I'd just break it off.

Posted by feby16aqua
Can you clarify more on the people you have around you who make her feel threatened? It sounds like she's getting angry with you pretty consistently.

A guy I dated briefly lives close, a friend who is attracted to me is a very close friend whom I had relatons with but it was years ago and once....
Someone who I befriended disreespected us twice. My coworker I speak highly of she was threatened by him.
Her trust issues are beyond me, But she says she feels amazing in my pressnece and the thought of given someone that time makes her feel weak and as much as she loves me it scares her away. but for a weird reason her ex doesnt make her feel any way about anyhing even when she goes out she doesnt really worry....

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Ssasy
Well in a Lesbian Relationship, Most times there is an agressor.
And My gf is an AGressor.
SOOO I want to speak to Aquarius men who have these traits and even women who have dealth with Aquarius men, Maybe I shouldnt have JUST said men.

But she's still a woman, right?

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She is, :/ I see your point forgive me and positive feed back please I never did this before lol

Posted by feby16aqua
She gets angry at you. She leaves. She gets over it. She comes back. I've known a few aqua women like that.

The thing thats odd is that this time she says, I cant keep running from the one woman who makes me feel soo much. Im in love with you. BUT now we dont speak about that day, the 2 hrs of sobbing, and realy coming to terms on her incensitive behavior and I as a cancer woman who appreciates validation, is confused because we talk and laugh as usual but no one is being extra emo..

Posted by feby16aqua
Lol @ WC . 🙂

Don't you find it weird? I do. It's like asking libra females or ALL WOMEN about libra men. LOL! Yes, they're feminine, but they still pee standing.

Posted by aquasnoz
It is what it is to be honest. Is there a specific opinion you want?

Honestly I just came here to get a non bias response to what has happened.

Anyone would be blown away if the person they were with wsant very emotional, and then this.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by feby16aqua
Lol @ WC . 🙂

Don't you find it weird? I do. It's like asking libra females or ALL WOMEN about libra men. LOL! Yes, they're feminine, but they still pee standing.

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Ok ok.....
AQUARIANS PLEASE HELP!
IS THAT BETTER LOL

Sheesh is anyone going to explain based on there on experience, rather than the Name of my post?

Posted by Ssasy

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Ssasy
Well in a Lesbian Relationship, Most times there is an agressor.
And My gf is an AGressor.
SOOO I want to speak to Aquarius men who have these traits and even women who have dealth with Aquarius men, Maybe I shouldnt have JUST said men.

But she's still a woman, right?

She is, :/ I see your point forgive me and positive feed back please I never did this before lol

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No don't worry I get your point & stop apologizing lol. Welcome to DXP by the way 🙂

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Posted by aquasnoz
It is what it is to be honest. Is there a specific opinion you want?

Honestly I just came here to get a non bias response to what has happened.

Anyone would be blown away if the person they were with wsant very emotional, and then this.

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I'm quoting what you wrote here because it's the only information to go by

"Ignored her a day or two and she literally called and I answered she cried, said she was sorry, and also said she is in love with me..."

Could assume she does display emotions unless she's a super good actor! Though I think the problem is her way of showing you affection isn't matching up to your standards. But again, you gave us a rundown of the events that occurred, as an Aqua that's the only version I can go by and unfortunately it seems to be what WE do which is think it over, come back like nothing's happened.

So that's my non-biased response.. not much I know.

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Posted by Ssasy

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Ssasy
Well in a Lesbian Relationship, Most times there is an agressor.
And My gf is an AGressor.
SOOO I want to speak to Aquarius men who have these traits and even women who have dealth with Aquarius men, Maybe I shouldnt have JUST said men.

But she's still a woman, right?

She is, :/ I see your point forgive me and positive feed back please I never did this before lol

No don't worry I get your point & stop apologizing lol. Welcome to DXP by the way 🙂

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Ok OK, No more lol and Thank YOU!
This is soo much better than Yahoo answers. No one has ever made me blog lol

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Posted by Ssasy

Posted by aquasnoz
It is what it is to be honest. Is there a specific opinion you want?

Honestly I just came here to get a non bias response to what has happened.

Anyone would be blown away if the person they were with wsant very emotional, and then this.

I'm quoting what you wrote here because it's the only information to go by

"Ignored her a day or two and she literally called and I answered she cried, said she was sorry, and also said she is in love with me..."

Could assume she does display emotions unless she's a super good actor! Though I think the problem is her way of showing you affection isn't matching up to your standards. But again, you gave us a rundown of the events that occurred, as an Aqua that's the only version I can go by and unfortunately it seems to be what WE do which is think it over, come back like nothing's happened.

So that's my non-biased response.. not much I know.

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My question is, Is it real, is she serious( or a damn good actor lol )
because Ive never seen her this hurt...
And When you say your in love or I love you....is it necessarily true?

Posted by Ssasy
Sheesh is anyone going to explain based on there on experience, rather than the Name of my post?

Do you still want to continue dating her? If you don't like her behaviour, but still want to be in a relationship with her, then talk to her about it. And if she doesn't change then drop her. Your happiness & peace of mind should be #1.

Lol this thread.

Let's call up Ellen!!

you know she's always on top.

Alright well a completely biased answer, yes she means it.

Now a question back to you, are you going to believe her.

I do want to continue dating her.
I also want a future, the same one we have been discussing heavily...
My happinesss definately should be #1......
And simply put youre right....Just wish I could understand her acctions with her words...but then again i can be demanding to the mushy crap...

Posted by aquasnoz
Alright well a completely biased answer, yes she means it.

Now a question back to you, are you going to believe her.

I like that...You are SEXXYYYY With your straight forwardness (see i caught myself the shit i say that would drive her insane)

Well only time will tell if I do believe her...

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
GOOD ONE!

Nothing beats communication. Just talk to the girl. Most water signs like to assume that people (should) "get it" when something is not akay with them. Therapist make a killing for a reason, or we would all be sniffing each other & get it if talking wasn't a necessity. Plus aquas love talking..get to the point with her & things might improve on her side if she really cares about you.

it doesn't take a therapist to figure that out either. Even therapists and psychiatrists still have to TALK and communicate. They dont know you inside and out like family or those close to you.

Posted by lisabethur8
it doesn't take a therapist to figure that out either. Even therapists and psychiatrists still have to TALK and communicate. They dont know you inside and out like family or those close to you.

I disagree. Example is murderers- most of their families don't know why they do what they do. All you hear is that "he was a good sweet boy". They've known them for life. A few sessions , even minutes, with a therapist they're able to diagnose them based on words alone. Some even open up more to therapists than they ever did to their families throughout their whole lives.

Therapist talk too? Who said they grunt? They TALK TOO because they know how important talking is. You know, practise their preach.

I commmunicate often. But That honestly has been her means of coming back. She values my opinion and even acts crazy questions like why do you think I cant shake you and we have a friendship like that.....
Thanks ladies today we have dinner plans....
Lets see what happens.

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Posted by lisabethur8
it doesn't take a therapist to figure that out either. Even therapists and psychiatrists still have to TALK and communicate. They dont know you inside and out like family or those close to you.

I disagree. Example is murderers- most of their families don't know why they do what they do. All you hear is that "he was a good sweet boy". They've known them for life. A few sessions , even minutes, with a therapist they're able to diagnose them based on words alone. Some even open up more to therapists than they ever did to their families throughout their whole lives.

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Right. After $ $ $ $ has been spent. It's all psychological.

The problem is, not being there for them when people need you. So when they get older (adult) they run to a therapist. Instead of running to people that they should depend on.

But well, yeah, a therapist still helps when there is NO ONE to turn to.

smh

Good for you, Ssasy. Who'll be eating who? LOL! Enjoy your dinner, sweety.

Posted by Ssasy
I commmunicate often. But That honestly has been her means of coming back. She values my opinion and even acts crazy questions like why do you think I cant shake you and we have a friendship like that.....
Thanks ladies today we have dinner plans....
Lets see what happens.

Have fun at dinner, you.

who's wearing the pants tonight?

j/k. laters

Posted by WaterCup
Good for you, Ssasy. Who'll be eating who? LOL! Enjoy your dinner, sweety.

well at least your mind is in the right place. lol

I was imagining Dominatrix/Sub. =D

Awww LADIES You guys are awesome!! DEF made me smile and laugh!
She is always wearing the pants but somehow at home shes quick to give them to me!
Thats one department she doesnt have anyworries about!!!

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Posted by WaterCup

Posted by lisabethur8
it doesn't take a therapist to figure that out either. Even therapists and psychiatrists still have to TALK and communicate. They dont know you inside and out like family or those close to you.

I disagree. Example is murderers- most of their families don't know why they do what they do. All you hear is that "he was a good sweet boy". They've known them for life. A few sessions , even minutes, with a therapist they're able to diagnose them based on words alone. Some even open up more to therapists than they ever did to their families throughout their whole lives.

Right. After $ $ $ $ has been spent. It's all psychological.

The problem is, not being there for them when people need you. So when they get older (adult) they run to a therapist. Instead of running to people that they should depend on.

But well, yeah, a therapist still helps when there is NO ONE to turn to.

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Well, not everybody has a picture perfect family who's is always there, so why not pay someone who'll pretend to care. It's also interesting that most people are said to develop emotional attachments with their therapists than with their next of kin..family has become dysfunctional for many people out there.

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Posted by WaterCup

Posted by lisabethur8
it doesn't take a therapist to figure that out either. Even therapists and psychiatrists still have to TALK and communicate. They dont know you inside and out like family or those close to you.

I disagree. Example is murderers- most of their families don't know why they do what they do. All you hear is that "he was a good sweet boy". They've known them for life. A few sessions , even minutes, with a therapist they're able to diagnose them based on words alone. Some even open up more to therapists than they ever did to their families throughout their whole lives.

Right. After $ $ $ $ has been spent. It's all psychological.

The problem is, not being there for them when people need you. So when they get older (adult) they run to a therapist. Instead of running to people that they should depend on.

But well, yeah, a therapist still helps when there is NO ONE to turn to.

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I think sometimes havig someone around still doesnt help.
I know people who are JUST bitter. Has great family and friends and STILL neeed some damn type of validation.
AND then run to a therapist...
it depends on the indivissual!

Posted by feby16aqua
A therapist represents an unbiased third party. They can give an objective opinion, but usually they help you to answer your own questions, hence you solve your own problems through their guidance.

I agree that in an ideal situation, yes, family should be there and they SHOULD be the ones that people turn to, but unfortunately this is not always the case. Family drama lol. I wouldn't share much with any of my family. I've learned my lessons.

I know that for me I would rather speak to a therapist than anyone else. The only exception to this would be to my boyfriend or husband. But even then, there are things that someone might feel comfortable sharing with someone who is "outside" their lives.

I concur. DXP is a great example- all people here have families or friends (I hope. LOL!), yet they still come here to bare their souls..why not aunt Marta? LOL!

"I think sometimes havig someone around still doesnt help.
I know people who are JUST bitter. Has great family and friends and STILL neeed some damn type of validation.
AND then run to a therapist...
it depends on the indivissual!"

That's true. I was thinking more in terms of to the beginning, to avoid future complications. Kind of like a SECURITY lock down.
But...that's never a guarantee either. Nothing in this life is ever a guarantee. That's what makes it all so scary at times.

Sigh. yeah there are people out there with great family and friends and they can't turn to them.

Posted by Ssasy
Awww LADIES You guys are awesome!! DEF made me smile and laugh!
She is always wearing the pants but somehow at home shes quick to give them to me!
Thats one department she doesnt have anyworries about!!!

aww. you remind me of this couple now:

"Sigh. yeah there are people out there with great family and friends and they can't turn to them."

YUP...
OR that just isnt enough for them....

Hey How ironic I asked for men and got a shit load of lvely strong and brilliant LADIES!@!!

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Posted by WaterCup
Good for you, Ssasy. Who'll be eating who? LOL! Enjoy your dinner, sweety.

well at least your mind is in the right place. lol

I was imagining Dominatrix/Sub. =D

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LOL!

Posted by Ssasy
Hey How ironic I asked for men and got a shit load of lvely strong and brilliant LADIES!@!!

Don't forget aquanoz. Lol.

Don't forget aquanoz. Lol.

YES THAT TOOO!!! LOL

Posted by Ssasy
Don't forget aquanoz. Lol.

YES THAT TOOO!!! LOL

THAT TOO!? You disrespectful crab you! Take that back!

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Posted by feby16aqua
Can you clarify more on the people you have around you who make her feel threatened? It sounds like she's getting angry with you pretty consistently.

A guy I dated briefly lives close, a friend who is attracted to me is a very close friend whom I had relatons with but it was years ago and once....
Someone who I befriended disreespected us twice. My coworker I speak highly of she was threatened by him.
Her trust issues are beyond me, But she says she feels amazing in my pressnece and the thought of given someone that time makes her feel weak and as much as she loves me it scares her away. but for a weird reason her ex doesnt make her feel any way about anyhing even when she goes out she doesnt really worry....

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This isn't necesarily an aqua/cancer thing.

The people you keep around that she is threatened by are men? Maybe she's afraid you'll go back to men, that deep down you're really heterosexual and this is just a phase for you.