Not your typical Aries & confusing Aqua guy

Grrr is all I can say about this darn Aqua guy... is it just completely aqua of a guy to start off SO strong rope ya in & then 3 months later all of a sudden flip the switch & start to retreat?! Well girls & gents this is what I went through. Met a guy a while back & things just started off amazing & pretty fast--- first date felt like the 100th and second date was just as great literally felt like I knew this guy forever & just had that gut gut feeling that this was going to be it for me. We would do fun things together he'd play with my hair & hold my hand & we'd kiss like -- well gosh!!!-- month later things were still just as great-- at this point I started telling friends about him & even they felt this was going to just be it. But then month 3-4 came-- work got busy for him & the everyday all day talking started getting slimmer then days went skipped & because of this sudden shift in my norm I began to feel awkward & withdrew because my insecurities set it about where everything was going. Started doubting what i said, how i acted everything. I dont know if this made things worse but slowly but surely the talking got fewer & the making plans with me more seldom-- I started feeling that I was always the one to start the convo or make the plans & it started to make me mad-- on top of the fact that it was now 3-4 months and there was no talk of where we were going with things-- and how was I to start that convo when I wasnt even feeling confident about the relationship anymore. As awkward as I would feel by text or phone everytime we would hang out things would be great & just as they always were--we always had great conversation, great laughs & ohhhh so great sex.

So what happened—

Skip to 2 more months later & the holidays come up & long story short broke everything to pieces. I end up getting a long long message about how he thought he wanted a relationship but now hes realized he doesnt for a while & im a great person & he loves spending time with me & ive been so great to him & he just doesnt feel that its fair to me to continue what weve been doing bc i deserve more & he doesnt want to string me along but sincerely hoped we could remain friends bc he really cared about me and went on & on about how hard of a decision it was for him to do this. A lot of things seemed scripted average break up stuff & a lot was genuine-- just cant ever tell which parts can ya?

Long story short we remained friends-- he started literally 2 days later talking to me like nothing ever happened-- like I didnt need time to heal after bearing my heart to him. Anyway we continued talking once a week-- never more never less. Then 2 months later we met up for a drink & had the best time talking & laughing & one thing led to another... since then every time we hang out it happens.. I just cant help myself---but now its been 5 months-- his test he was studying for and the biggest reason why we broke up is over & I guess i just expected things to pick up again... I dont know what to think anymore everytime we hang out its the best time we have the sammmme sense of humor and talk & laugh & actually have intimacy


Ughhh what am I doing— Help!!!!

Metoo thanks so much for taking the time to read my post & offer your two cents- I really appreciate it. You were correct to assume he was younger. I am 31 and he is 29-- not the biggest difference in the world I know but in this situations his age holds him back despite his good job, owning a house etc.

The thing that kills me the most is I have seen the evidence that he HAS had girlfriends in the past (via pics his friends just never took down from Facebook) so I see that he has been capable of it but to add some insight to that... every girl left him, cheated on him as far as I know from what he's actually said to me when talking one night after several drinks-- ohhh how the stories flow when you're a bit drunk huh? lol

When this friend with benefit type relationship unfolded I actually was ok with it despite still having feelings for him-- I just decided I would leave the feelings at the door & make the situation all about me & have it be all on my time. I would call him to talk when I wanted & make plans when I wanted based on MY schedule but after 5 months of this... I am just tired--- and I have been thinking of just checking out & dissapearing. I know he won't let more than a few weeks pass before he is contacting me but I already have it set in my head not to run when he does. After a few weeks of no contact I am at the point where it will cause me to excel in my desire to just want out completely.

If you have any other advise/thoughts aquaintances on here you can head towards my post please share/ do so.

Thanks again! 🙂

When I first read your story, I felt karma might catch up with me one day because all the lines your Aqua guy told you were the lines I told one of my ex Aqua. I'll say this again. Take care of yourself when facing a damaged Aqua, he will consciously/unconsciously treat you the way he was being treated in the past by other lovers. It takes a long time and might be for ever for him to recover from what he experienced. Those who are first loves of Aquas, please treat them nicely.