Ok girls...

I don't know whether to be frustrated with this or not. Well...actually I am. I'll keep it short and sweet.

My aqua told me he's in love with me. Told me all the reasons why, when he fell in love with me, yada yada yada, wants me to have his children, etc. This happened a couple of weeks ago. We've taken it slow and are 3 months in.

Background: He lost his mom to cancer when he was 11. Dad was alcoholic. He married a cancer chick (really gorgeous girl, but I think she would annoy the hell out of me, no offense UC or any other cancer chicks) after dating her for 5 months and the marriage ended after only 9 months. She left. He said she wanted him in bed by 10 with a book. That is so not him, not me either, but I digress. So from what I gathered, she wasn't getting the emotional support that she as a person needed and made the right decision. I'm digressing again...sorry. Anyway...

He is a wonderful person, tolerant, kind, and "care takes" a lot of his friends. He is definitely an aqua though, and sometimes I think he does things out of insecurity, which brings me to why I'm posting. He brings things up that are important to discuss in our relationship, like future plans, possibly moving in together, etc. then halfway through the discussion he says "Ahh I don't want to talk about it" and sort of turns it around to where it looks like I'm the one that brought it up/wants to talk about it, which is not the case. I am not afraid to bring things up like this, and I have, and we've talked about them, and he is an open book, but when he brings them up and I talk back or add to the discussion he seems to get nervous (I think? I am soooo bad at reading things like this) and shuts down the conversation.

I can understand his nervousness, he has been impulsive in the past and is trying not to be this time around, and I highly agree with that and am so not a needy girl, i.e., I don't WANT anything from him that he doesn't want to give me, get my drift? I am in love with him (as in I love and respect the person he is) but I am not trying to nail him down. So do you think he is just having a little bit of fear of pushing forward? He brought up living together last night, then shut down the conversation, which is fine, as I'm not ready to live with him...just yet. We're going to have to do a lot more talking before we do something like that. Ahhh, actually I feel better just after typing this out, maybe I just needed to get my thoughts

Maybe I just needed to get my thoughts down.

In a nutshell, he hasn't had a problem at all telling me how he feels or what he wants. What I think I'm sensing is that he is a bit scared, and while he tends to rush things, he's attempting to catch himself before he does. What do you think? UC? Leokitten?

We are very honest with each other. He says one of the things he likes about me is that he feels like when I say something I mean it, which I do.

But at the same time, while I agree that values and character and personality matter more than the sign, I can definitely see both of our "signs" interacting here. He is very sensitive, I am very sensitive, but we both definitely have those glass walls that surround it. We tend to be very "equal" in this relationship, which I like. He is more emotional than I. I like to think that is a good thing, but I wonder, haha!

3 months in is a short amount of time. enjoy building your relationship - get to know each other as individuals and DON'T overanalyze everything. let things progress naturally, otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy and cause unnecessary stress in the relationship.

take your time.....

I agree. I am pretty good about not over-analyzing, just letting it flow, however I think I needed to kind of take a step back and look at things. I am definitely taking my time, and he is too, I think he just gets ahead of himself at times then catches himself, which honestly I think is a good thing because I'm not so sure he used to do the same before.

It helps to come here and type it all out. I'm not meaning every little action or happening, just sort of a "ok let's step back and take a look" sort of deal. And I like getting perspective from people that are not close to me, who won't lean to living vicariously through me and are non-biased.

I agree with you. He seems to have caught himself, though, without me having to say anything, so I'm encouraged. Slow and steady...

But for what it's worth, the sex is FANTASTIC!

Oh nooooo no no no you can bet that THIS girl was not taking any of it seriously. I was curious, and it made me think, but I generally got the same impression you did, UC. I am not the type to pick out furniture.

My cancer best friend, the one with cancer in sun, moon, and merc and scorp rising (can you say psychic? hello!) says we mirror each other A LOT. He admitted to me that he's been playing hard to get.

But yea, UC, you pretty much laid out what was already in my head, and while I think his impulsiveness is showing, I think it bears well that he's at least acknowledging it and while it may slip he's attempting catch himself.

And the glass walls, yea...question is...who gives in first? We are so parallel.

And the expressing himself bit, I totally got that too, I just listen to him. He talks a LOT!

I need an example. I am utterly confused by what you mean or by what any of that means. Give me a situation or something.

Damn you two kitties taking over my thread with your Leo pettiness! Outside! Shoo, shoo!

This is why I love crabs. They really help me understand this stuff. I am so clueless.

UC!!! You are awesome! You've read my mind!

I can be in love with him but mature and realistic right? Because that's what I've tried to give off here. I guess the better way to put it would be I'm FALLING in love with him, does that sound better? Because I am. 🙂 And yea I could totally see myself long term with him, he is a wonderful person, and no matter what happens we will end up friends no matter what.

That is an excellent thing to say/example and I'm going to utilize it. LOOOOVE you crabbies you are so good with the feelings!