Question about emails from aqua

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Sola
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Aqua men in my experience..5 of them (despite any don juan, ladykiller pretences) are basically very insecure individuals, hence the constant hit and miss relationship theories going on in here. I am now older and very much wiser (and in a serious relationship with yet another one, damn)!, and i can guarantee you that these emails are only to make himself feel valid. These men like to screw around, it makes them feel useful..but later they feel sooo alone, and that's where you come in. He hurt you and he knows it, and you exposing yourself to him in a painful email does nothing more than soothe his ego. It was a BIG mistake, but you know now not to do it again. # 1...NEVER EVER give any man the satisfaction of your pain..if you need closure go speak to your friends etc, but to write back asking for why, explanations etc etc..you only hurt yourself when he doesnt answer you. Sooooo, long story cut short, forget about him, enjoy the fact that he has lost a good thing and he knows it,, but you dont need to worry about that because its o-v-e-r. Hell, its hard..but not for long. Bring on the next lover 🙂
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lunarbaby711
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16 Years

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Dear Jen: I just wanted to tell you that as an Aqua female I'd NEVER put up with that kind of disrespect from ANY man, let alone from one of my male counterparts. I know lots of Aqua males, and I guess I'm just lucky that they are all some really awesome people!!! Like myself they do NOT like to use people or hurt them. I hate that a few give all Aquas a bad name. And just remember that YOU have ALL the power now, because YOU get to choose who stays and who goes from your life! Take a GOOD look in the mirror and say this out loud to yourself...HE is not worth my TIME, EFFORT or BREATH!!! I've been thinking that perhaps we could make up business cards with that saying on them, and for every dickhead that approaches us(male OR female)we could just hand them a card and go on our way...think of how much more time we'd have to spend with people that are actually WORTH our time, effort and breath!!! (Best damn idea I've heard in a long time for sure!) Oh yeah, and gf-Mr. Right is out there waiting/looking for you...
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lunarbaby711
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Posted by jen1213
But no matter what I could never hate him for what he has done. Of course I feel really mad and hurt but I get that he didnt want a commitment and if he finds someone he would prefer to have a fling with rather than be with me he shouldnt have to let the opportunity pass by. Still wish he first dumped me, but oh well. The thing that really bothers me is that I wish we could still be friends.



I'm a little confused by your "who gives a shit" attitude to this guy cheating on you. How can you feel sympathetic towards a man who cheated on you with some ----- while you are still together, and who "KNOWS" what she had which he could've so generously then passed onto you? HPV...ever hear of it? Yep, males carry it have no symptoms and cannot be tested for it, but if we females get it, it causes lovely things like cervical cancer-which can kill you. I had two good friends get it-one from her husband, and she wasn't thrilled to have TWO surgeries to have her whole cervix removed. I am just thankful that she's still alive. Screw that azz--did he worry about YOU/YOUR FRIENDSHIP when he was with her w/o telling you? No. You really DON'T want to have friends like him. He "KNOWS" what an azz he was to you that's why he won't answer your calls...you might actually make him feel guilty and have a conscious about what he did, and he doesn't want to have to do that. He got away with it, don't let him think it was OK, cause it wasn't. Perhaps instead of worrying about gaining his friendship, you should send him the bills for all the tests you should now be getting done to make sure that you still have a clean bill of health don't you think? (Gawd I HATE being the brutally honest Aqua all the time, but somebody's gotta do it.)
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lunarbaby711
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16 Years

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I think that one day when you meet a man that REALLY loves you and cares about you then this guy who just trashed you will be not even a memory anymore. Your heart has an emptiness right now, but it'll fill back up with friends, family, hobbies, whatever and eventually a new love, but until then just try to keep in your mind what a man who steps into your personal space is supposed to do. Being faithful should be right up there on the top of your list. AND, don't let anyone make you feel like it's okay that he did something as low as cheating on you without telling you upfront and right away, because you have the right to make a good life choice whether to accept his behavior and be okay with it, or to curb his azz ASAP which is what he really deserved. There are too many good people out there who are much more deserving of your friendship/love Jen. But before you go out and meet them take time for you to heal your heart, get your relationship priorities all in order and set in stone so that you don't waver from them no matter HOW great the next guy is, and to have your "life lessons" properly memorized so that you will NOT make the same mistake again...you do NOT accept anything less than what you deserve in a relationship! You're "good" people, and your heart is pretty "true" and "real" from the sound of it, so why don't you make sure that the man you allow into your space is all of those things too?!!! If he's not...send him packing immediately, because you have NO TIME for losers, abusers, cheaters, liars, and just all around "bad" people! Set the bar high gf, cause if he's the right one he will have NO qualms about doing whatever he has to to get his azz over that bar and up close and personal with you!!! You are worth it...you just have to convince yourself of that. I once took a year off from a past really heart wrenching break-up. This time I took 5yrs, every second of it well used and well worth it, and you know what? I met a guy who's so amazing and he's on a 6yr break! Talk about AWESOME-he's all that and then some. It really does happen gf...you just have to believe K?! PEACE & LOVE