Saying the right thing

So my bf is due back from Argentina on Friday, its been 3 years since he last went home, and now that he?s been and had a great time, he doesnt want to come back here (we live in Spain). I was there with him for 18 days amd it was perfect. He was asking me if i would think about moving there to be with him on a permanent basis, because we?re both sick of it here. Im from Scotland, so i have a lot to think about in terms of a long-term thing. Anyways, my question is, i know that he is going to be SOOOOO down, maybe until he actually gets out of here and i dont thik there is anything i can do to help him. Already he has been so quiet, and i can tell he is going to be self-destructive when he gets back..its what he does when he?s lost. He?ll get drunk and stuff, and i?m kind of worried. I dont want to leave him alone completely, but i was thinking to make a plan from now until March, something for him to save for and focus on?? Any other ideas??

Gracias!

Is he returning to Spain only for your sake— What stops you from moving to Argentina - you did enjoy it on holiday?

The thing is, we went on holiday with neither of us knowing what would come of it..we would either get closer or fall apart. We got on so well, we?d never spent 18 days and nights together before and we didnt fall out once. So, i would happily move there with him (i think)!! but its so far away and flights arent cheap, you get me?? The problem is the in-between time of decision making. Its going to be tough.

If there's nothing holding you back and you feel you cannot live without him I'd say go.
If however it was a family issue or perhaps a job holding you back and weighing up the options it just wasn't worth it then no. Depends on how much you stand to lose?

Well show me a smooth relationship under any circumstances!! And then month or so have been great, so i know how good it can be. Definitely i already told him that i want us to be engaged or married if i do decide to go..and he needs to ask my dad too. My life is Spain is over, ive done everything ive wanted to and now its time to go!! There?s nothing new here for me and he feels the same about his life here. Well, he?ll be home soon..i?ll keep the post updated..thanks.

Well, i never said at any time that it was perfect did I?? Cheating, yes, insecurity, a problem of a lifetime for me, regardless of current partner, and bumpy, well they do say that life is a rollercoaster. At least im not glossing over any of it.

And he?s not exactly on a trip, he?s at home with his family..do you get anything??