Scorpio (21F) into Aqua (27M) - signs he wants to get serious?

Hey Aquas (and anyone else who wants to help me out), thanks in advance for any advice.

So I'm really digging this Aqua man. I know this is usually a terrible matchup, but for whatever reason it's working. I can provide planets if needed. I've only ever dated another Aqua once. On the intellectual level it's really flowing - we have great conversations and we're VERY flirty with each other.

I know for a fact we're "dating" in the sense that we're going on dates. But being a Scorpio woman, as we all know, means I want it to be mine mine mine right this instant. No chill. I know Aquas are very laid-back, so for the most part I'm trying to hide my lack of chill as best as I can - I think he likes it though. He's admitted he likes alpha women/high-strung women though. We'll see, I guess.

So I'm wondering - what are some signs that Aqua is gonna go for it, or bring it above from dating to an exclusive relationship? I know Aquas are very vocal - it has never been lost on me that he's into me both emotionally and especially sexually. He talks about it all the time, and I know I've garnered the nickname "cutie". I've also noticed that he talks about the future a lot, i.e. "we"/"we'll have to" do this and this or "you'll see that (insert personal quality here)" when talking about himself. If I understand correctly that Aqua men love the chase, I won't bring the pressure to become exclusive. He also talks a lot about learning about me and things he'll do for me or avoind doing to me.

We also talk a lot for sure, when he's not working. He'll even text me a couple times in a row if I'm slow to respond.

As a Scorpio who loves reading into things, I hope this isn't the naturally flirty Aqua man and I'm reading too far into it...like I said, any feedback definitely appreciated.

If he isn't talking to other women or giving a damn about them, it might indicate that you mean something to him.

He insists he's the type of guy to only go after one woman at a time, regardless of if it's friends with benefits or dating. It's a "preference."

Posted by Chantilly
Nono Aquarius can say that when he likes you, but when there's someone else he fancies, the deal is off. I agree with the other post. When Aquarius not chasing other women or talking to them, you're the one.

Posted by yamilette7410
He insists he's the type of guy to only go after one woman at a time, regardless of if it's friends with benefits or dating. It's a "preference."

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Thanks for the advice! I'll have to take him at his word.

Posted by aquarius_beauty
Aquarians aren't ones to play with love games. Because we take love very seriously this is why we are slow to commit. We do not date simply because we're lonely. We will wait for the right one to come along and make it official. He's testing the waters with you and he's still around. So that's a good sign. Aquarians are very straight forward. Either through words, action, or both. If he were to be talking to other women, he would have told you by now. Scorpio's are intense, they want everything done within a month whereas Aquarians are patient and wait it out as long as needed be. We love the whole romance, getting to know each other, and what not. Why ruin the fun by rushing things? It will only drain the relationship and the end, what will we have to talk about or to relate too?

I would advise you to be careful what you say. Scorpio's have a tendency to be pushy and when not going there way will say very hurtful things! This will only hurt your Aquarian and although Aquarians forgive...we NEVER forget. We will take that sh#t to our graves.

I'm definitely starting to catch on to this as I talk to him more and more. I definitely want to lock this down as soon as possible - he's a really good catch. I've also noticed how straightforward he is as well. I usually get brutal honesty from him, and I'm fine with is as my moon is a Pisces/Aqua cusp.

Thanks again for the pointers. He said he won't jump in until he's 100% sure and he needs more face-to-face time with me to make that decision, but he seems to imply (at least to me) that he wants to be in a relationship with me.

@aquarius_beauty I definitely have some follow-up questions for you, and am in need of some coaching to land this dude for good.

The Aqua I'm interested in hasn't been talking to me as much since he's back in his hometown and has been catching up with family/friends. However, all we've really gotten into deep conversation about while he's been gone has been sexual - about what he wants to do when he gets back to our town, about how he wants to be all over me the minute I walk through his door, etc etc. Not sure if this is still a good sign or that I'm out of the relationship race, although he mentioned two days ago that coming home and going back to work means he gets to see me.

He's been more distant conversationally, but since being social for Aqua is important, I get that he's recharging with his old friends and family and won't be blowing up my phone like he does when he's here or traveling through airports and such.

He's definitely reaffirmed that he's still trying to figure out if he wants a relationship WITH ME. "It's the part where it's with you that I'm trying to figure out. I'm trying to figure out if you're the one I want. If you are the one I wanna tell all my friends about. If you're the one that I'm willing to back. That's where the hesitation is." Again, not sure how to take that except personally, because Scorpio.

One of my Scorpio friends said I should be nervous about him being wary to commit and the previous statement being absolute bull - but that could be sample bias. But I think they raised a good point - he broke up with someone he had been with for three years because he didn't want to "couples match" (a medical school thing where you try to get residency with your significant other at the same hospital) and thereby limit his career. As a Scorpio with Scorpio Venus who loves commitment, this scares the ever-living shit out of me. Should I worried that an Aqua man could just change his mind like that one day, for the sake of himself/his interests? Cause that will definitely factor into whether or not I want to get serious with him.

I think he learned his astrology earlier than most. He knows that that scorpios normally plan and do work towards those goals and plans into the future. He know that if he speaks of the future he will keep your attention.

I think he could be planning and serious about the future but the first thing i thought was that he wanted to have you in every way possible and that he would use astrology to help him keep you around.

I have had a scorpio girlfriend and I didn't do that. I knew that I could but I felt I really wanted to see if things would work naturally and correctly and on point so I didn't come at her side ways... It didnt work as far as staying together for a few reason. One mainly distance. The other just not being able to communicate. And she would say probably we didnt share the same wants .

About the mine mine mine.. Its all good he probably wants you to feel that. But if you can somehow not make him feel crowded or that he can be free to smell freedom then you guys will do just fine. I don't mean freedom to cheat or be with someone I just mean everyday freedom to breathe and not feel like he cant go have fun every once and a while without you being there. If he knows you trust him and he knows you aren't crowding but he knows you are claiming him and that you are not selfish with your wants of his time when you know he needs some freedom then you will do great. Feel free to comment with more than a sentence or two.... If not its all good I will take the one or two word response.... 🙂 I am aquarian male by the way