Seriously why is Aquarius hard to figure out?

Sorry for this rant, but would like some insight if you guys know anything about Aquarius men in relationships or romance. I have been talking to my Aquarius guy for a few months now. We both get along really well as friends, have things in common, and have attraction towards one another. The only issue is that *sometimes* I get mixed signals from him. For example him saying he just wants to be friends. Don't get me wrong, I can be friends with him no problem, but then he'll tell me that I am his GF. And that he likes me. He is also very sweet towards me and always initiates talking to me first. So I get mixed signals from him. What is going on? Are we such good friends that he is confused? Does he not know what he wants? I know a lil bit about Aquarius is that they need/want to be "friends first" with their lovers correct? He'll tell me we're friends but will tell me he likes me, calls me beautiful, wants to hang out, texts me first, we have great conversations, blah blah blah. SO what should I do? Keep being his friend and detach myself from liking him too much? Or let it flow? What do you guys think? Thanks so much.

Have you been intimate with him?

@cappy129 - No I have not been intimate with him at all. The only thing we have done is kiss. We've even talked about sex and what he wants to do with me (I don't need to go into detail LOL) but then other times he'll say we're just friends... WTF? How do I handle this? I've Googled this and it seems Aquarius men tend to be friends or be confused with intimacy?

Can you elaborate on the instance where he told you, you are his girlfriend. Sure Aquas might exhibit this behaviour but I find it unlikely for us to take back something we once said especially if it's as big as calling someone our girlfriends/boyfriends.

I can be friends with someone and tell them I like them, sometimes the lines between friendship and romance can be blurred especially if the friend is of opposite sex. Given what you said I'm more inclined to think he's genuinely interested in you and just letting things flow until he feels comfortable.

Do you know his other placements? Because depending on that he might just be saying things out of niceness to reciprocate your current feelings.

@aquabeauty Hey thanks for your help! That gives me a little better insight to what I already (kind of) knew lol... Me and him have a pretty good easy fun friendship so I'll just keep it at that. The womanly part of me doesn't want to get attached too soon though 🙂 that's why I want a little insight. Do you put that guard up because you don't want to get hurt..? Or cause u really don't know if someone is a friend or more ?

Well idk what to say. I don't get them, I usually don't like them, but I usually attract them. If I were you, I wouldn't kiss him again and I would clearly define the line between friendship and romantic relationship. It seems like they try to be romantic with you without commitment, as a scorpio venus I can't do that. They'll try to hold your hand and cuddle and kiss but then say you're just friends. It's disgusting, but it might also have to do with emotional maturity. I'm sure the evolved, mature aquas don't do this. Sorry I can't really help more but if I were you I would be strictly friends. No kissing, no sexy talk, just buddies. Lol I'd treat him like one of my female friends. Maybe one day he'll want more and actually act like it. Hot and cold is never a good sign, just a waste of time

@aquanoz - He said I was his GF a couple times while texting (yes I'm aware texting doesn't mean a thing Lol). But it's weird to have a guy say I'm his GF, then say we're just friends, then talk about me and him being intimate, then talk about going on a road trip, then I'm his GF again, kind of like that. I know it sounds confusing and dumb, but that's how we text. Sadly, no I don't know his other placements. I know he definitely is attracted to me, as a friend, and more than a friend, I just got confused as to which one I actually way... But I'm going to let things flow you guys, thanks for the help.

I read Aquarius men are confused emotionally and don't make the best lovers/romance, but they are better at friendships. So confusing.... and then it said the Aquarius men get confused from who are friends to who is more. I rest my case. Lol.

@cappy129 I totally get and understand what you're saying 🙂 I'll keep me and him on a friendship level 🙂 because like you too, I need to know where I stand and what's going on between me and my partner.. Because when I love I give 100% , I don't mess around. So if it's just friendship then it should stay that way. I usually attract them too, even though they're so confusing. The whole wanting to be friend but still flirting hard.. Confusing.

Posted by LoverofLove
I read Aquarius men are confused emotionally and don't make the best lovers/romance, but they are better at friendships. So confusing.... and then it said the Aquarius men get confused from who are friends to who is more. I rest my case. Lol.

Take that stuff with a grain of salt. If all Aqua men are the same the world would be a lot simpler. Some people will tell you we're a bunch of emotionless douchebags, others will say we are the best lovers.

As I said the other placements will give you a better insight into it. In most cases though we all seem to agree we value friendship and after a certain stage we all want relationships for the long haul so we're slow to express things too soon, sometimes painfully slow to open up.

I would suggest asking him about the girlfriend thing if you are genuinely confused.

@Aquabeauty Do you have friends that turn into relationships, ever? Because that is what I read from Aquarius men, but then again you're a girl so I'm not sure if it's the same for you. I put my guard up too sometimes... Thanks, I'll just let it flow. I like the friendship anyway and if I had to choose I would choose friendship with him, because he is so friendly and quirky!

@aquanoz - As an Aquarius male yourself, do you find it's hard to open up emotionally with someone? When you're first getting to know them and what not? I also read that a girl who dates an Aquarius male needs to have patience, because Aquarius men are slow to open up emotionally, about their feelings. I'm not saying you do but since you're an Aqua would like to know.

I'd say for me personally, I wouldn't make my intentions known until I'm sure there's something I can pursue. Whatever information I need to gather about you would've been done way before asking you out and by this point I probably would've befriended you. This is sort of my way of gauging whether you like me and for me to see whether the feeling is mutual.

So you could say I'm friends first and then gauge whether there can be more. I don't really go for the whole sappy "I like you, you're my girlfriend" talk though. I personally never liked labels such as that but I won't be so heartless as to say "oh no we're just friends" when there's clearly more to it.

I like to please and reciprocate feelings, that part has gotten me into trouble plenty of times especially when a girl wants more or moves too fast for me. But once I'm sure there's really no inhibitions for me to hide my feelings.

Perhaps you could make a joke and tease him a little about it. Like joke about how confusing he is and he'll probably want to know why you said that and you could tease back about what he's saying. Keep it light hearted. Maybe you'll find your answer.

That's what I do with my aqua. After that I don't bring it up again, but I see whatever effort or lack of effort he puts into it and I get my answer indirectly.

Posted by aquabeauty
@aquasnoz
That was nice wish more men thought like that.

Well I'm not without my faults! But rest assured there must be plenty of guys out there like me!

for a man, astrology wise...find out his venus/moon/rising/mars..the personal planets.
especially venus/moon.

if he's aqua moon/venus aqua...wellllllllll

Lol.

The one thing I know about Aqua Men is they are great people to have as friends. They are fun to be around...

what makes them tough is to get them into a relationship...they want someone as friends first and most people after a while can't handle their seemingly flighty nature.

If you can handle everything being so ambigous and can take everything he does/says with a grain of salt...he will disappoint you less LOL

But believe me all people have patterns and the longer you know him, you'll notice patterns in his flightyness.