She Sent a Hello

So I havr contemplated writting anything about my Aqua ex, only because of how much I drowned in fuckery over the summer over this break up.

Its been since June that she decided to leave because she lost trust in me.

She finally gave up and we havent communicated since August.
Her final words were "This is the hardest decision shes ever had to make, I miss you all the time. I thought we could keep a friendship but I dont think its best, trust is gone, and im ready to move on."
I stopped sendig any emails or texts on September 9th.
November 1st, she sent me a hello message wishing me and my family well. I was shocked. I finally responded on the 9th with the same words she sent me.But of course she didnt reply yet.
I have been trying to move on, but I just cant let go completely.
Not sure if its hope, intuition, or plain stupidity...

This is the 1st time I ever wanted an ex back...After all this time.
Another 1st for me is staying quiet.
I want to tell her how much I miss her, but I wont.
I want to tell her how much this still hurts, but I cant.

---I guess im here to vent a bit & to also ask.
-If she reached out, is she just making sure im ok?
-Is she testing the air to see where I am?
-Would she appreciate if I said more?
I know if an Aqua feels betrayed and is REALLY done they wont look back.
But she sent something..... 😢 I wish I knew what she was thinking.

Btw shes a Aqua/Cap Moon (I think)
and I Cancer/Scorp Moon

I think the best thing to do is to reply and be transparent with your feelings. At least then you will get some clarity and or closure from her which will enable you to move on.

As an Aqua female after breaking up with an ex a few months down the line I sent a card to the family when his father was ill, but there was no way in hell I was ever going back to the relationship it's just that I cared about his family and felt close to them. It's difficult breaking up with someone in the sense that you are breaking up with their family as well.
You're never going to know unless you express how you truly feel! I think now would be the perfect time to say something because she has initiated the contact??_.

Posted by cultstatus
I think the best thing to do is to reply and be transparent with your feelings. At least then you will get some clarity and or closure from her which will enable you to move on.

As an Aqua female after breaking up with an ex a few months down the line I sent a card to the family when his father was ill, but there was no way in hell I was ever going back to the relationship it's just that I cared about his family and felt close to them. It's difficult breaking up with someone in the sense that you are breaking up with their family as well.
You're never going to know unless you express how you truly feel! I think now would be the perfect time to say something because she has initiated the contact??_.

She wasnt close with my family, Myself, my daugther and I were becoming a family.
My daughter still misses her, even cries sometimes.
I said ALOT prior to my discontinuing of contact.
Even sent her the notes my daughter wrote.
What would change now?
I said so many I love yous, Im sorry, I miss you...I feel like that wouldnt do anything.

I was very transparent with my feelings.
I responded.
"Hey, myself and family is doing well, Hope you and your fam is doing fine as well"

If I read that I would feel nothing. I would suggest there arent any emotions are involved.
But thats what I felt from her email as well....:/

I meant myself, my daugher and the aqua were becoming a family...

I hate mind games, why don't you call her? At least you'd know you've done your part. Take the first step and tell her how you really feel. Take your time though.

Posted by Namy
I hate mind games, why don't you call her? At least you'd know you've done your part. Take the first step and tell her how you really feel. Take your time though.

I hate them too.
Guess im just afraid of more rejection. 😢

I'm pretty sure the fear of rejection is one of my biggest flaws and that could be one of the many reasons why I run. I feel that's a big step for an aqua to say hello and ask how you're doing. I've been in 5+ year relationship and I never once reached out to the ex, as a matter of fact I don't think I've ever reached out to an ex until recently. The only reason I reach out to this one is because a part of me is hoping we will reconnect and work things out.

Every aqua is different and I'm not sure why we do the things we do, by her reaching out could be because she misses you (nostalgic) or she's extending that Olive branch to maybe see if you have changed.

Posted by Aquadeer
I'm pretty sure the fear of rejection is one of my biggest flaws and that could be one of the many reasons why I run. I feel that's a big step for an aqua to say hello and ask how you're doing. I've been in 5+ year relationship and I never once reached out to the ex, as a matter of fact I don't think I've ever reached out to an ex until recently. The only reason I reach out to this one is because a part of me is hoping we will reconnect and work things out.

Every aqua is different and I'm not sure why we do the things we do, by her reaching out could be because she misses you (nostalgic) or she's extending that Olive branch to maybe see if you have changed.

Could also be her making sure i dont think the worse of her....:/
Cant call it. But I wont say anything. Im too afraid.

So I responded again to the Aqua ex and told her I miss her more than words can describe and I hope shes happy and in a better place.
I sent it Sunday Midnight.
She responded this morning and said "I miss you too! Hope you and your daughter are doing well, btw I got the promotion"

MY heart just stopped.
I believe thats all she wanted to do...Was tell me her great news...
is this a sign of anything else?
Or just take it for what it is...a simple hello- and heres an update with my life without you! 😢—?

Posted by Ssasy
So I responded again to the Aqua ex and told her I miss her more than words can describe and I hope shes happy and in a better place.
I sent it Sunday Midnight.
She responded this morning and said "I miss you too! Hope you and your daughter are doing well, btw I got the promotion"

MY heart just stopped.
I believe thats all she wanted to do...Was tell me her great news...
is this a sign of anything else?
Or just take it for what it is...a simple hello- and heres an update with my life without you! 😢—?

Haha! this made me realize how different my mind works from other people. I'm pretty sure that's not what her intentions were. I sent you a pm.