Should I move on from Aqua man?

Last month after talking for four months, the Aquarius man tells me that we should "be friends" and lets things cool down between us. I figured that he meant there was still a chance for us to be in a relationship. I noticed that lately, we've been talking less and he's been ignoring me, so I called him out. After getting some things off my chest he says "I'm dating now so that's part of it, but I'm not ignoring you" meaning part of the reason he's been ignoring me. I was hurt(he had told me we would be friends and see if it turned into something & also that he wasn't talking to other girls) but I tried to play it off..but then he decided to call me. I cried--a lot. I'm pretty sure it was a huge mistake. He then told me about how he wanted to be friends because we lived too far apart and since we both are in tough living situations, we didn't "have anything to offer each other"(whatever that means) He kept saying he was sorry,and he didn't mean to hurt me and he still cares about me. Then he asked me why I was REALLY sad. He kept saying he still wanted to be friends..I told him I wasn't sure because if he gets a girlfriend I want to be happy for him, and I didn't know if staying friends would be the best thing for me. I swear, lol this is my last question about this guy, but I really need some help. Is there any chance at all for a romantic relationship? Or is being friends all that's ever going to happen? Right now I'm taking a few days to think about what's best, I'd really like some help..I'm Leo(July 28) he's Aquarius(Feb 14)

He gave you his answer and his thoughts on this. He was polite and honest and obviously respects you.

To reiterate:
1. You live too far apart for this to work.
2. You are both in tough living situations - I assume you know what he's talking about.
3. You have nothing to offer each other.
4. He's dating other people.

In other words, he's not interested in continuing this relationship.

I suggest moving on.

This is the part where most women mess up

This man TOLD you the truth. Yes the truth hurt & was maybe shocking but why are you asking questions he already gave you the answers to?

He told you very clearly that:
He 'friend-zoned' you
He doesn't want more than a friendship & he doesn't want you to resent him for it
He's not that into you
All the things he knew from the beginning (the distance, etc.) he now sees as not worth the trouble
And he's "dating now" which absolutely means you are not the only one & that he's found better

Seems like he was honest about everything except for him dating other women. He lied about that part b/c he didn't wanna hurt your feelings. And you can't blaim him for that b/c you made it clear that if another girl was the real issue that it'd what? Hurt your feelings!

He's seeing someone else & is more interested in them. And even if he wasn't, he's not into you enough to see you as more than a friend.

When a guy tells you who he is & what he wants/doesn't want, LISTEN!

Yes he meant everything he said! If he didn't mean it, you would've saw an LOL or "Just kidding" right after his words! But you didn't, which means that what he said is exactly what it means!

No use in trying to interpret something that was clearly spelled out for you. No use!

I know it hurts & I know the rejection sucks!! But move on!

If you can't be friends with him b/c you are still too attached, that's fine, but move on & lean on friends/other distractions to help you get through it

Remember, he's a man & if he's not that into you, it wouldn't do him any harm to still be your friend & hang with you, but the same may not be so true for you

Appreciate the fact that this guy was atleast honest! He could've held that truth in & never told you & let you find out the hard way (months, years, a failed relationship, a heart break, and a text message from the other woman, later!)

Posted by krysrenee7
This is the part where most women mess up

This man TOLD you the truth. Yes the truth hurt & was maybe shocking but why are you asking questions he already gave you the answers to?

He told you very clearly that:
He 'friend-zoned' you
He doesn't want more than a friendship & he doesn't want you to resent him for it
He's not that into you
All the things he knew from the beginning (the distance, etc.) he now sees as not worth the trouble
And he's "dating now" which absolutely means you are not the only one & that he's found better

Seems like he was honest about everything except for him dating other women. He lied about that part b/c he didn't wanna hurt your feelings. And you can't blaim him for that b/c you made it clear that if another girl was the real issue that it'd what? Hurt your feelings!

He's seeing someone else & is more interested in them. And even if he wasn't, he's not into you enough to see you as more than a friend.

When a guy tells you who he is & what he wants/doesn't want, LISTEN!

Yes he meant everything he said! If he didn't mean it, you would've saw an LOL or "Just kidding" right after his words! But you didn't, which means that what he said is exactly what it means!

No use in trying to interpret something that was clearly spelled out for you. No use!

I know it hurts & I know the rejection sucks!! But move on!

If you can't be friends with him b/c you are still too attached, that's fine, but move on & lean on friends/other distractions to help you get through it

Remember, he's a man & if he's not that into you, it wouldn't do him any harm to still be your friend & hang with you, but the same may not be so true for you

Appreciate the fact that this guy was atleast honest! He could've held that truth in & never told you & let you find out the hard way (months, years, a failed relationship, a heart break, and a text message from the other woman, later!)

We actually ended up talking and he told me that he's dating but he doesn't know what he wants...he said he still has feelings for
me and whatever happens between us happens. he also said that even though he's dating, he doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't know what he wants with us either..I'm basically going to start dating too, but I won't expect a us to get back together.

I guess there's no chance then, huh?

Sweetie, there are LOTS of men out there. Why put all your eggs in one basket? You're young. Get out there and explore!!! Plus, find someone local who you actually have a chance to develop a deep relationship with and spend actual face-to-face time with.

Ok thanks everyone! 🙂