So I've..

met an Aqua. We've been dating for a few months now and things are going well. Our charts are:

Me - Taurus Sun
Gem Moon
Taurus Mercury/Venus/Mars
Sagi Rising


Him - Aqua Sun
Libra Moon
Capricorn Mercury/Mars
Aries Venus
Pisces Rising

Is this a chart that looks promising? When I first met him, he was so sure of himself and a lot of people seemed to think he was really arrogant. We spoke quite a lot the first time we properly met, although to be fair he did most of the talking 🙂 but after spending time with him, it's become apparent this arrogance is just a front so that he doesn't show his true feelings. We have so much fun together, we never really plan to do anything specific, we just see what mood we're both in and decide, I love that. He is still quite guarded about his emotions, but he did tell me the other day that he was falling for me.

So, does anyone have any advice for a Taurus dating an Aquarius?

Thanks Aquagirl! It's nice to hear of Aqua and Taurus getting along for once as everything I read tends to be fairly negative! I think that we are starting to get each other, we've talked about previous relationships and we've both found that behaviours we have are not understood by a lot of other people and it's these quirks that make us more interested in each other. It's really nice and I'm having so much fun. We're even planning a holiday together in summer - it's like I'm dating my best friend, he's always up for a bit of an adventure but he also loves just lounging about. He says that he's never laughed with someone as much as he has with me and that he loves how open I am to experiencing different things. He's like a breath of fresh air to me at the moment - we have a great time together, but he understands that I need my time away from him to recharge and get my own stuff done, as does he.

If there's any negative it's that we both have a tendancy to get bored with our partners, so since we're both like that I think it'll be interesting to see what occurs in the future. But I like having the security of him being there, but not because he feels obligated but because he wants to.

I'm so excited about this relationship!!! 🙂

Sounds promising. Just be careful of the transit at the moment. It's not very stable for starting new relationships. Sudden attractions, sudden ends.

Yeah, it's strange, I see this totally different side to the Aqua that other people just don't seem to see or aren't interested in getting to know. Although I think he is quite good at putting up barriers. He's a sensitive soul and I can tell when he's distracted by something. Like this week, work has been kicking his backside and I mentioned that he's seemed a little off - he came back with 'You are very perceptive'. Which is a good thing I hope. He's a total humanitarian, but he can take it to the point where he's not looking after his own needs so I try and move him towards thinking about himself first for a change. I know that I definitely ground him and that I give him the chance to put some of his ideas into practice because of that. It's a lovely thing we have at the moment.

Thanks for the info on our moons Aquagirl! I think emotionally we are quite similar which is really comforting after certain previous relationships.

One question I have, if I start to feel that he is becoming distant or not giving me what I need at that moment, should I call him out on it? Or should I let him have his pouty mood and let him come back to me? I don't want him to think I'm a pushover and that I'm going to let him get away with stuff that I think is unacceptable. But I also don't want to come over as a nag. I suppose, when it happens, the solution will present itself to me!!

Thanks aquagirl! I think the Aqua appreciates it as well. I met him last night and we had such a great time. Seriously, it's like every time we're together we're both gushing about what an amazing time we've had. He was a little bit cranky when we first met and he was being really down on himself, but I think him being so busy at work is not giving him enough time for himself and it's stressing him. I gave him a compliment and he wouldn't even acccept it, he kept saying I was wrong, so I had to put my foot down and tell him it was rude of him to not accept the compliment graciously...he just beamed at me and said ok. It was so cute!

Aww, thank you, that's so lovely of you to say!! I'm glad there's another Aqua who appreciates Taurus and doesn't just write us off as slow and boring 🙂 it was a mini adventure last night, we had a couple of drinks and then went for a walk around, it was a lot of fun. I think we're off somewhere this weekend, I've offered to take him to a place in the country that he's not been to before (and I haven't been too for ages). It has amazing views and lots of walks so I'm going to make a picnic or something for us to take as well. It'll be really good to get out of the city for a few hours.

He's very shy with his feelings, definitely. His work means that he has to stand up and talk to lots of people and he's great at it, but when it comes to him expressing himself, he appears to be very guarded. But then again, so am I, it's only been a few weeks. And he can say some very sweet things, out of the blue. I really like that, it feels much more sincere.

Taurus & Aqua relationships are either completely rocky OR completely awesome. It's usually 1 or the other though

And it's b/c Aqua & Taurus get along great in areas where they are alot alike, BUT clash harder than others in areas where they are completely the opposite.

Aquas & Taurus are alike in that they're BOTH stubborn, fixed in their opinions, like to go at a slow-to-medium pace, despise betrayal or lack of control in any way, & can both be misunderstoood alot by other people.

However, they're completely opposite too. And depending on how long you've known the other person can determine what level of understanding/loyalty is there.

Aqua puts up with Taurus b/c Aquas are naturally understanding & will literally spend all day performing a mental diagnosis/psychological exam on the other person. Taurus puts up with Aqua b/c Aquarians are 1 of the only signs that won't bow down to them or put up with their bullshixt, in which this about Aquarians is a turn ON for Taurus moreso than a turn off.

My suggestions?

Consider it a GOOD thing/sign when an Aqua actually opens up about their personal life vs. tricking you by talking about general topics & leading you to believe that you're somehow getting a glimpse of who they are inside.

When the both of you get into your 1st argument, communicate & expect for your Aqua to get stubborn & retreat to a shell just like Taurus probably will. Know that despite whose in the wrong, SOMEONE has to go 1st & re-initiate the communication again! Trust me, Aquas are excellent at the silent treatment & will NOT give in! We're warriors at making the other person make the 1st move & come to us, whether we're in the wrong or not

Respect your differences, while at the same time letting your Aqua know when certain things about him are NOT ok with you. Aquas can't stand it when THEY know that YOU know that you're not standing up to them like you're supposed to. That's the 1st way to lose an Aqua's long-term respect.

Thanks for both your comments, aquagirl and kry. I appreciate your aqua insight into this!

Had a great weekend with the Aqua. He loved where I took him and he was really on top form since a lot of his work stress is reducing from this week onwards! We stayed up all night to watch the sunrise and then slept for most the day. Was really cool.

"Taurus puts up with Aqua b/c Aquarians are 1 of the only signs that won't bow down to them or put up with their bullshixt"

This is soooo true, I feel that he won't let me get away with being stroppy for stroppy's sake. I need boundaries, not someone who is going to let me walk all over them. We have had one argument, and like you said, he just shut off and wouldn't speak to me. We had a little cool off and I was the one who made the first move, and after that he was ok. We talked about the issue and we both made it clear why we were annoyed. We do have respect for our differences, for me I think this is what makes him so interesting, he makes me see things from a different perspective, even if that won't change my opinion. For him, I think he likes the fact that I'm independent but that I'm also interested in engaging with him a few times a week and spending time with him actually doing things and getting to know each other slowly, rather than jumping headfirst into something that might not be right for us long term.

It's just a real joy at the moment, and I can't remember the last time I felt so good about being with another person 🙂

Ok, so he's now becoming a little distant!!! It had to happen I suppose ha ha 😛

I last saw him on Sunday and we're supposed to be meeting tomorrow. This is the longest I've gone without seeing him and I do miss him, I miss being able to talk through my day with him. When I say he's distant, he has been texting a few times, but it's taken him a lot longer to reply and his messages aren't as affectionate as normal. His workload has decreased a lot this past week, so I know he isn't overwhelmed with work. And it's making me a little bit paranoid. I haven't said anything to him, as texting is never a good way to talk things out. I'm not even sure I should mention it to him tomorrow or if I should leave it a little while longer and see if he snaps out of it.

Any suggestions?

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Ok, so he's now becoming a little distant!!! It had to happen I suppose ha ha 😛

I last saw him on Sunday and we're supposed to be meeting tomorrow. This is the longest I've gone without seeing him and I do miss him, I miss being able to talk through my day with him. When I say he's distant, he has been texting a few times, but it's taken him a lot longer to reply and his messages aren't as affectionate as normal. His workload has decreased a lot this past week, so I know he isn't overwhelmed with work. And it's making me a little bit paranoid. I haven't said anything to him, as texting is never a good way to talk things out. I'm not even sure I should mention it to him tomorrow or if I should leave it a little while longer and see if he snaps out of it.

Any suggestions?

yeah, I have a suggestion - stop over analysing, people have lives. Aqua people are especially busy with people in general. It's the way we are. You'll rarely get number one spot. Stop making a disaster out of thin air, you don't even know why he's quieter.

Ha ha, ok, fair point 🙂

You can have my best friend, aquagirl, he's an April Taurus and has just come back on the market 🙂

He's well used, but in fairly good condition 😛