Stupid People

I want to apologise to people here who are very emotional. I hope you aren't to the point it makes you stupid.

Seriously.

Okay, so here goes: they're the most self-centred, stupid people I know.

Here's what I think a stupid person is: someone who -

1. clearly knows what their flaws are

2. doesn't embrace the good flaws and set out to change the bad ones

3. chooses to b**ch and whine and cry "woe is me" to all who will listen, seeking only attention and validation without taking any advice

4. does the above over and over and over and over again, expecting everything from the world but not willing to give anything back in return.

They're always overly emotional, which makes them not see how STUPID and maddening their actions really are.

All they think about is themselves and all they want to talk about is how THEY feel, how YOU'RE making them feel, how X made them feel etc etc

I'm not the brightest tool in the shed myself but for the love of God and all his wonderful creations IF YOU'RE STUCK IN SH*T COMMON SENSE SHOULD TELL YOU TO FIND A WAY TO GET OUT OF IT OR F**K SAKE.

I'm beginning to hate stupid people. Not because I feel I am smarter than them, NO.

But because they can hurt you if you're connected to them in anyway. The pain most of them go through is MINOR.

It's a big deal to only THEM. And it's sickening hearing about their woes day in day out. It's like that's all they cling to to identify themselves.

They're lazy f**ks and they piss me off.

And I WOULD just cut them off if our relationship were'nt complicated by a little thing called BLOOD.

*sighs*

Perhaps I'm a monster, who's become so hardened by experience I can't sympathise with people.

But if I couldn't sympathise, then why can you feel the despair in my words?

Rant Over.

Rant reopened

One more thing: I need some advice, man. I'm dealing with a super depressive person who IS NOT like the stupid person described but who would rather wallow than do aynthing about their situation.

My mouth is dry, my blood pressure's up and I pretty much feel I'm not handling the situation very well (actually got angry and began putting 'em down).

Ideas, please, knowing that I can't walk away?

Posted by TasteOfChaos


Is it something they can change?

YES.

Social awkwardness, bad conversational skills and a bit of an inferiority complex CAN be changed! Not overnight but overtime?!

And it's like you tell 'em these things and you tell 'em you're living proof but they don't seem to want to do jack about it.

You know - no matter how many times you tell 'em they got it good it just doesn't register. Which is why I think they're being sef-centred: they don't realise that there's people whose got it WAY worse than they have.

But you know, I think I'M stupid as well for trying the same tactic over and over: using reason.

Just get out of the muck. It ain't easy but shouldn't you atleast try to dsomething everyday to get to a better place?

Ugh.

I keep using the candle analogy when I think of people who doom themselves and cry for help afterwards:

when you WILLINGLY put your hand over a candle and the heat gets unbearable isn't it instinctual to remove your hand from over the flame?

It's not like I haven't gone through much pain myself. It's not like I've forgotten the pain. But after a while I had enough.

Why don't they?

And you see, my reaction worries me: how'd I be if I had kids? I know leos are supposedly hard on their kids (leo dad) and aqua is the opposite of leo, but this isn't me being hard to teach them a lesson. It's me being hard because it's killing me.

And I mean this physically.

And I ain't ready to die.

I think Valeria25 is right on.

Just one thing that might also help is to show them the way by acting and not talking so much. Involving them in your own activities, the activities you are passionate about. Action can be contagious just like a smile.

Posted by jade_dragon
I agree, NIB....

Nothing is more annoying than a person with no social skills, who only knows how to talk about themselves.


I like to call them Personality Vortexes


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NIB, this isn't the first time I've heard you complain about this.....something going on again?

Pretty much. A family member is depressed. Another family member doesn't realise that they're encouraging the depressed to wallow.

I've sort of realised that the depressed is a little self-centred and would rather complain than do anything about their problem.

I love the depressed and so it hurts me to see them this way. Especially when their prblems are clearly fixable.

Basically, it's an ongoing thingy, Jade. It's like they're giving up on life without having lived.

It pisses me off and I feel a lot of guilt because the depressed is recoverin from a breakdown.

Posted by valeria25

Posted by &2gedanow

Oh...so you're related by blood.

Well, they say that if you're born into a family that doesn't understand you, and vice versa, there are lessons to be learned. You're above all this, because you REALISE this fact that you see they are wallowing, they are probably hurting.

Try and be more understanding. You dont have to "fix" them or try to make them do anything. You don't really know what's going on deep inside their hearts and their minds. You may think you do, but no one is really privy to the private parts of our souls. If you can't walk away, try and listen, and if you can't take it, just tell them honestly it pains you that you can't handle it. You aren't equipped for such things. Try and get them to seek counsel. Anything, so you dont go crazy yourself. You need to look after yourself first, because if you can't, how can you deal with anyone else, much less your family?

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Wish it were as simple as that. And I understand I don't know what they're feeling.

But it colours my sympathy some, listening to the pain described while knowing I've endured far, far worse.

People have different thresholds of pain, this I understand very well.

But sooner or later everyone reaches a point where their skin thickens and they are numb to the pain.