kiki1186
@kiki1186
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venus in aquarius hot stuff
this is over a period of about...3 -ish months.
huh??
oh goodness
stupid yeah i need to move on got it
Your young and its the sign of the times.
Having sex and unnecessary drama is what you do at this age.
Go with what you know.
Having sex and unnecessary drama is what you do at this age.
Go with what you know.
oh dear, that sounds a little condescending?? youre superior i take it— more grown up and mature than i, im sure. been there done that, you think.
Yes, a bit condescending, but your not dumb.
Your situation is what it is. You aer young and he's
probably not your soulmate and you shouldnt really
put so much effort into this.
eh, just enjoy yourself.
Your situation is what it is. You aer young and he's
probably not your soulmate and you shouldnt really
put so much effort into this.
eh, just enjoy yourself.
yes i think you're right then. thank you!
Well hey, be content in everything you do. You said "go away" when he made it clear that he was okay with only being "friends with benefits" with you b/c your heart told you that you don't settle for those types of things. But now, you're dealing with the "mind" & your mind is telling you that you should've given in to him just for the sake of keeping him around. And the truth is, Aquarians can be very detached & very picky, but it's not like we run out on every good thing that comes our way. We may be slow to commit and/or find someone worth commiting to, but we're not idiots who always "miss out" on a good thing. If he felt that you were a "good thing," he would've held on to you for as long as you'd let him. But somewhere down the line, his mind changed about wanting to grow further with you & once Aquarians make that decision, we are very content with that decision & don't feel bad if the person left behind continues to cling b/c we know that personally, we would never prioritize someone who only sees as an an "option" no matter how hard or much we loved them.
You already know the answer to your own question. You were right the FIRST time. No, you will NOT settle for being just an F buddy. It's normal to still want him around b/c cognitively, you put alot of time & energy into him. But come on girlie, we all know that with ANY guy (not just Aquarians), the LAST way to get a guy to see you as serious is to show him that we'll risk our own self respect just to be in their company. This guy has clearly shown you that he doesn't want anything more than friendship (if that) from you so the best thing to do is to just take this as a loss & move on. If he really wanted you he'll come back & further more, with him being an Aquarian, if he really wanted you, he wouldn't have wanted you to get the impression that all you are to him is a possible sex partner when he, himself gets lonely & bored. You know what you've gotta do. You just don't want to b/c like alot women, we hate to be alone. But we always forget that if we put too much focus on something that isn't paying us any attention, it's no wonder we miss out on the OTHER 3 billion guys who actually saw the worth in us. Make him want you (commitment wise) b/c he realized he missed out on a a STRONG "know-what-she-wants", won't-take-any-bull type of woman.
You already know the answer to your own question. You were right the FIRST time. No, you will NOT settle for being just an F buddy. It's normal to still want him around b/c cognitively, you put alot of time & energy into him. But come on girlie, we all know that with ANY guy (not just Aquarians), the LAST way to get a guy to see you as serious is to show him that we'll risk our own self respect just to be in their company. This guy has clearly shown you that he doesn't want anything more than friendship (if that) from you so the best thing to do is to just take this as a loss & move on. If he really wanted you he'll come back & further more, with him being an Aquarian, if he really wanted you, he wouldn't have wanted you to get the impression that all you are to him is a possible sex partner when he, himself gets lonely & bored. You know what you've gotta do. You just don't want to b/c like alot women, we hate to be alone. But we always forget that if we put too much focus on something that isn't paying us any attention, it's no wonder we miss out on the OTHER 3 billion guys who actually saw the worth in us. Make him want you (commitment wise) b/c he realized he missed out on a a STRONG "know-what-she-wants", won't-take-any-bull type of woman.
He'll never want you for anything but for what you allow yourself to be to him. If you give in to being his "F buddy" just for the sake of being in his company, then understand that once you give in, you can NO longer complain about how he doesn't want to get serious with you. What you see is what you get. This guy not only TOLD you how he felt, but he also SHOWED you also. And like mama said, when a man shows you (not tells you) who he is, believe him. He's only being himself & he'll treat you the way you allow him to treat you. Giving in or doing things that your heart naturally won't allow you to do is not going to change his mind about you. He made the decision in his head that he couldn't see you as anything more than a friend & he expects & I'm sure it probably bummed him out that you might not have been the woman he wanted you to be, but at the same time nothing will stop him from approaching or embracing the next "eye candy" that comes his way so you should remember that the next time you find yourself thinking of 1,000 ways to try to wheel him back in.
In his mind, any possibility of the 2 of you growing to be anything serious, is over. In your mind though, you may not want to let go & hey, that's okay. You're human. But don't take yourself through these emotional rollercoasters if what you REALLY want is not going to be the result at the end of the day. You probably know what it's like to have someone cling to your so much & not be able to take the hint. And no matter how much that person begs and/or pleads with you, it won't matter b/c once you've made the decision that that person isn't good enough or isn't your "cup of tea" there is nothing THEY can do about it. So put yourself in his shoes. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck girlie!
In his mind, any possibility of the 2 of you growing to be anything serious, is over. In your mind though, you may not want to let go & hey, that's okay. You're human. But don't take yourself through these emotional rollercoasters if what you REALLY want is not going to be the result at the end of the day. You probably know what it's like to have someone cling to your so much & not be able to take the hint. And no matter how much that person begs and/or pleads with you, it won't matter b/c once you've made the decision that that person isn't good enough or isn't your "cup of tea" there is nothing THEY can do about it. So put yourself in his shoes. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck girlie!
I have a venus in aquarius. We are hot stuff🙂
krysrenee- this is the best advice i have gotten, from anyone in person or anyone on this message board. thank you for taking the time to write that, i have been laying in the dark in my room listening to the blues all day and i just logged on to read any more responses, and yours truly helped me. even though all day all i have been able to do is fantasize about him or seeing him or crazy scenarios with him involved (however i am so happy i have not tried to call him or text him once or anything), this response has completely grounded me. hello reality!!! i am ready to get back out there and be myself again, rather than hibernating. i miss my friends, they miss me, i think. i know i am so dramatic right now, well blah blah blah my emotions are all over the table at this point. thanks for letting me blab, internet!!
Oh evan, Your always bustin my chops!
"more like ice stuff..the planet of love in the coldest sign of the zodiac is never a good thing"
says the virgo.
P-Angel is right...those smilies Evan likes to throw in now...
I remember when you first discovered them Shaka...what a difference in tone!
says the virgo.
P-Angel is right...those smilies Evan likes to throw in now...
I remember when you first discovered them Shaka...what a difference in tone!
krysrenee- this is the best advice i have gotten, from anyone in person or anyone on this message board. thank you for taking the time to write that, i have been laying in the dark in my room listening to the blues all day and i just logged on to read any more responses, and yours truly helped me. even though all day all i have been able to do is fantasize about him or seeing him or crazy scenarios with him involved (however i am so happy i have not tried to call him or text him once or anything), this response has completely grounded me. hello reality!!! i am ready to get back out there and be myself again, rather than hibernating. i miss my friends, they miss me, i think. i know i am so dramatic right now, well blah blah blah my emotions are all over the table at this point. thanks for letting me blab, internet!!"
Hey I've been in your situation before & I know how it feels to just sit around & daydream about that person. You start trying to think of schemes to wheel him back in. You start wondering what went wrong & particularly what YOU did wrong instead of HIM probably being the problem. You start wondering why he was sent to you if it was just going to fail & why you should let go of someone you can't seem to get over. Been there done that. But at the end of the day, I had to say, "when I'm crying, is he? HELL NO." Does he sit around & think about me to the point that he blocks others from entertaining him? HELL NO. When I go out on dates with other guys & can't seem to really focus, is he doing the same thing when he goes out on dates with other women? HELL NO! It's so easy to sit & play tricks on your OWN mind all day long, but if the end result will never be what you want it to be, then you'll just end up being very resentful that you spent precious time on something that wasn't good enough for you. You have to keep reminding yourself that this was HIS loss, not yours & that HE ended up not being good enough for you, not the other way around. You know how it feels when you look back into your past & say "what the HELL was I thinking?" But when you were in that moment, you thought the world was going to end. You have to keep reminding yourself that it wouldn't even be fun, special or true if you ended up with someone who only scooped you up while you were vulnerable or desperate for love. Some men pick the time when you're at your lowest point emotionally to play games with you (why? b/c they can)
Hey I've been in your situation before & I know how it feels to just sit around & daydream about that person. You start trying to think of schemes to wheel him back in. You start wondering what went wrong & particularly what YOU did wrong instead of HIM probably being the problem. You start wondering why he was sent to you if it was just going to fail & why you should let go of someone you can't seem to get over. Been there done that. But at the end of the day, I had to say, "when I'm crying, is he? HELL NO." Does he sit around & think about me to the point that he blocks others from entertaining him? HELL NO. When I go out on dates with other guys & can't seem to really focus, is he doing the same thing when he goes out on dates with other women? HELL NO! It's so easy to sit & play tricks on your OWN mind all day long, but if the end result will never be what you want it to be, then you'll just end up being very resentful that you spent precious time on something that wasn't good enough for you. You have to keep reminding yourself that this was HIS loss, not yours & that HE ended up not being good enough for you, not the other way around. You know how it feels when you look back into your past & say "what the HELL was I thinking?" But when you were in that moment, you thought the world was going to end. You have to keep reminding yourself that it wouldn't even be fun, special or true if you ended up with someone who only scooped you up while you were vulnerable or desperate for love. Some men pick the time when you're at your lowest point emotionally to play games with you (why? b/c they can)
Of course in the beginning, we all make ourselves (as women) believe that b/c he is still communicating with us to some level, that it must mean he still wants us, even if it's 1% . And when we're vulnerable or desperate for companionship, isn't it funny how we'll ignore the 99% WARNING label that says "NO GOOD" but yet cling on to that 1% chance of hope? lol.
But in reality, he emotionally detached himself from you a long time ago & b/c you guys didn't end off on bad blood, he's not going to just drop you like you never existed. But instead he'll tell himself, "Well I know she's not what I'm looking for in a girlfriend, but hey, she might be a good sex partner or a good plan B just in case all the other women I'm dating don't work out" & hey, when he starts to tell himself this, he'll communicate with you, stir those emotions up in your head & get you thinking that he must still be around for a reason but in reality, he's still around b/c of his pride & b/c of a man's natural greedyness to try to hold on to something that he knows good & damn well he doesn't want. But yet they don't want anyone else to have you though. But you can't fall for that. Majority rules. You're ignoring (by choice) the 99% of him that is full of Bull & has already told you that he wasn't "ready" (classic line) & that's okay, but ignoring the majority comes with consequences. Even if you get him back (that 1% ), that 1% is all you'll ever get & later on down the road you'll be back at the same circumstance, wishing he would love you the way you could love him. But by that time, you'll be so mad at yourself for waiting & giving in that you won't even want him as a friend anymore, let alone for a serious commmitment. But hey, sometimes that's what it takes before we let go & move on. We have to get MAD first. Trying to stray away from someone that hasn't made you gut-wrenching angry (maybe sad or emotional, but not bitter) is close to impossible b/c we have no control over our emotions. BUT we do have control over our actions & eventually your emotions will jump ship to what your actions are saying & doing. Be strong girlie!
But in reality, he emotionally detached himself from you a long time ago & b/c you guys didn't end off on bad blood, he's not going to just drop you like you never existed. But instead he'll tell himself, "Well I know she's not what I'm looking for in a girlfriend, but hey, she might be a good sex partner or a good plan B just in case all the other women I'm dating don't work out" & hey, when he starts to tell himself this, he'll communicate with you, stir those emotions up in your head & get you thinking that he must still be around for a reason but in reality, he's still around b/c of his pride & b/c of a man's natural greedyness to try to hold on to something that he knows good & damn well he doesn't want. But yet they don't want anyone else to have you though. But you can't fall for that. Majority rules. You're ignoring (by choice) the 99% of him that is full of Bull & has already told you that he wasn't "ready" (classic line) & that's okay, but ignoring the majority comes with consequences. Even if you get him back (that 1% ), that 1% is all you'll ever get & later on down the road you'll be back at the same circumstance, wishing he would love you the way you could love him. But by that time, you'll be so mad at yourself for waiting & giving in that you won't even want him as a friend anymore, let alone for a serious commmitment. But hey, sometimes that's what it takes before we let go & move on. We have to get MAD first. Trying to stray away from someone that hasn't made you gut-wrenching angry (maybe sad or emotional, but not bitter) is close to impossible b/c we have no control over our emotions. BUT we do have control over our actions & eventually your emotions will jump ship to what your actions are saying & doing. Be strong girlie!
mmm yes he called me today, to hang out casually. but i turned him down, i never called back or responded to his voicemail. i still have a crush on him but im drawing up my boundaries and dont think he's going to be very persistent. time to let this one go. more fishes in the sea!!!!
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