aries men, are they pursuers?

i'm really new to aries sign in general. i've never liked one before, and I'll say this guy is throwing me through a loop. (i'm gemini). this aries guy is a breath of fresh air, very relaxed, though I do feel some extreme/intense emotions at times under the surface.

when we have been out (we are in the same friend group). he will get quite intense with me. focus on me all night, we usually end up breaking off.

there is some tension as i'm best friends with his best friend (we new each other first).

he is VERY busy. i know his schedule can be hectic, but at times it feels as if, were he really into me, he would make time. though i do know this isnt always the case for people. he does get very focused on his career at times, and disappear. but when were together he's very attentive and makes comments about having missed me or been thinking about me. is it so hard to send a text to that affect?

he's also not great with technology and talking by that means. but in person he is happy to see me. he's a little less into PDA than I am as well it seems. though i can't tell if it's also as we don't know each other great yet.

I'm confused. is this the sign of an aries just having some fun, or is he perhaps more interested but just busy?

Well I am an Aries Women and My first serious boyfriend was an aries. Aries men are chasers, yes they pursue.

Don't ever chase an Aries man. Like ever. My aries ex still chases me to this day, even though we are broken up. The more you resist the more they will pursue. Aries want what they do not ( notice I didn't say can't) have.

How long have you beee seeing this guy? We aries tend to be very busy people, we like to set goals and then accomplish them So it is natural for him to be very busy.

But if he is ignoring your texts or emails in any way, he might not be that interested and or might be seeing other people.

This all depends on the stage of your relationship.

What ever you do, just get really busy with your life, Aries love busy people! It attracts us and motivates us. Always let him come to you first.

Your guy seems like he likes you if he always comments on how he misses you that's a good sign.

not very long. i've known him for a bit, but as i said was only best friends with his best friend. then he started messaging me on fb saying he'd been wanting to really get to know me for quite a while. we hung out a few times, and i've spent the night with him a handful of times. it's all been very new though. just kissing, talking, getting to know each other and enjoying each other.

the last i saw him intentionally (not cause i was seeing my best friend) was last week, and it was great we spent the day/night together. we had a lot of fun and he was happy and chatty all day. since then, he doesnt ignore my texts, but as a gemini i have no problem saying what i want. (him). i have asked to hang out and he just told me he's busy. i fully believe him, but i do feel like he could maybe make time if he wanted.

however i do get the sense (as you said) that he needs someone who has their own life. and i do! ha so i'm trying not to over think. but was hoping to get some insight!

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not very long. i've known him for a bit, but as i said was only best friends with his best friend. then he started messaging me on fb saying he'd been wanting to really get to know me for quite a while. we hung out a few times, and i've spent the night with him a handful of times. it's all been very new though. just kissing, talking, getting to know each other and enjoying each other.

the last i saw him intentionally (not cause i was seeing my best friend) was last week, and it was great we spent the day/night together. we had a lot of fun and he was happy and chatty all day. since then, he doesnt ignore my texts, but as a gemini i have no problem saying what i want. (him). i have asked to hang out and he just told me he's busy. i fully believe him, but i do feel like he could maybe make time if he wanted.

however i do get the sense (as you said) that he needs someone who has their own life. and i do! ha so i'm trying not to over think. but was hoping to get some insight!

Seem's like he isn't chasing you as much as you would like. When an Aries is really into you they will chase and stop at nothing.
He might be into you but just testing the waters. I hope you haven't given him the good's yet. I've learned that if you really want a man, you must wait until you two are exclusive before giving it to him. If he can't wait he wasn't the one for you.
Also wait until he ask you to hang out. If you ask him you are chasing him and Aries men do not like to be chased.

no not yet. obviously he wanted to but he's been really patient and laid back about it. i was more reluctant at first to hang out simply because i was friends with his friend, so perhaps he liked it more when i was a little reserved and held back, and he did need to try a bit more. however he's also told me he really likes my honesty, when i've said to him, you know i'd like to see you, or i'd prefer to come see you than do this (he'd asked me to hang out one night and i had some very soft plans with a group of friends).

im hoping it is the case that he is just very busy right now. and i do know he is. but i'll do my best to just do my own thing and let him come to me. if he wants to ha.

just a quick update. i did message him, and it was just casual, to talk on facebook. i didnt ask to hang out or anything. he responded, within just a few hours. so im thinking perhaps he is just busy and genuinely cant hang out with me at the moment? i really appreciate the responses. still so confused about this sign.

Why, yes, I do "Chase." Please note, there does come a time when I get tired of wasting my time, and then I move on without looking back. If you are just jerking my chain, eventually I will figure that out, and hit the road.

I don't have any problem with being "chased" a bit, either. If the only feedback/input I am getting from you is some sort of nose stuck in the air, snooty type behavior, Adios, beatch!!!