atrracting an Aries man

Hello. I've been working with an Aries guy (38) for about 3 years in the same firm, but he is in another team and we do not see another much. I2ve been attracted to him for the whole time but I am a very shy person and could not find the right time or opportunity. There has even been some misunderstandings and for a while he was acting cold towards me. He basically got the idea that I was telling lies and gossiping about him in the company, but it was a total misunderstanding and after about 3 months I finally cleared myself by sending him a long email which explained what really happened and then he forgave me and we started to exchange light conversations. But I wanted more so I showed him a lot of interest. Compliments, lots of eye contact, texting him things like "It is so nice to see you around. Come more often" whenever he drops by. I even sent him a surprise gift for his birtday a few weeks back. But he is always silent. I wanited him to say something when he received my gift but nothing. So after 4 days I asked him if he found something on his desk the other day and he smiled and said yes thanks, but I am very busy now, to the point that I can not breath so I am only stopping by my office in the morning and then I am here or there so, no, I did not have time to look at it yet. ?? was so sorry to hear this. I thought I did not mean anything to him. He knows that I am interested in him I have made it so clear and explicit but he is always silent. And does not reciprocate my advances. I called him last Friday and ask him "hey ?? am sending you messages but you never reply, I do not want to bother you I am just worried about you, is everything okay?" and he said "You should not worry about me. I am fine. Yes I have peoblems but I am capable of resolving them myself. You and other people in the company do not know me much, I have a life outside and I enjoy it". I was shocked and later on texted him "What you have told me made me sad becuse I have never thought that you were incapable and desperate. I just felt that we are alike and I felt close to you so wanted to speak with you about things. You are right I do not know you much, but I should not be blamed for it, as I was trying to get to know you for months now with little success..." He have not responded to that either.

one thing is that he has alot of trouble at work, he hates the people and the place and he openly says that he's gonna leave soon. And he told me this also on the phone. ?? asked

i asked what he plans to do next and he said "you'll see in a few days, but I think you should also leave there as you can do much better in another firm, don't waste your time". Then he said "Wa can talk later" and got off. Then this morning I saw him again but he just looked at me and did not say anything.

I am just wondering how can I attract him? Being nice, ladylike, quiet and submissive. ?? am like that. ?? am a very soft speaing very much kind person. But I am also very tough in my job. I can handle many things at a time and I can make good analysis and clever comments and can think out of the box. I have a nice body and a very pretty face and I notice him somethines glancing at me but we do not talk , he is very quiet eround me, not like his usual self. He gets kind of irritated and shuts down and does not say a word. That's wahy at the beginning I thought he must be attracted to me and I was happy but he stayed away. I am n't sure if that's because he thinks he's going to leave soon anyway or he really has too much to think right now?

How can I establish a good and clsoe relationship or friendship with him without scaring him away? I just want to know him better.

Thanks!

it made me sad to read this...😢 i'm so sorry that he's been so cold toward you.
it must have taken a lot of courage on your part to do all of that. to be honest, from the description you gave here i don't think he is interested in you in a romantic sense. an aries guy won't be this cold to a woman he is interested in even if he is busy with work and other things...you've obviously made a lot of effort in trying to get close to him but if this is the kind of response you're getting, i think you should leave him alone for a while and see how he reacts. he might just be shy or awkward by nature or sumthin...i dunno. i'm at work right now so i can't really type a long response (lol) but hope this helps...

Posted by SinNombre
it made me sad to read this...😢 i'm so sorry that he's been so cold toward you.
it must have taken a lot of courage on your part to do all of that. to be honest, from the description you gave here i don't think he is interested in you in a romantic sense. an aries guy won't be this cold to a woman he is interested in even if he is busy with work and other things...you've obviously made a lot of effort in trying to get close to him but if this is the kind of response you're getting, i think you should leave him alone for a while and see how he reacts. he might just be shy or awkward by nature or sumthin...i dunno. i'm at work right now so i can't really type a long response (lol) but hope this helps...

I agree. I have had this feeling of wanting someone and not having it reciprocated so I feel for you on this. However, there isn't much you can do to make him want to be closer to you.

theres nothing you can do but stop pursuing him. Aries men like to chase and prefer a challenge. Fall back!

actually most men.

Sounds like maybe he is not interested romantically? You sound like a lovely beautiful girl I would find someone who want's to chase you 🙂 Don't chase after him if he is not reciprocating your advances as it will only break your heart in the long run and you deserve someone who want's to chase you. 🙂