Confused with libra man.....help!!!!

Sooo, I need some help with a libra man....who doesn't ha!! I'm a 35 year old Aries girl, he's a 28 year old libra male. I've know him a good few years and always felt there was a spark...no romance though. We recently reconnected and I was having a few troubles with my (now) ex and was talking to libra about it. He was a great listener! When things fell apart with my ex I told libra and he told me that he had liked me for 7 years, always felt we had a spark and a connection and that when he looked in my eyes 'bang' something happened...very nice!! After that we had 2/3 days if constant messaging, all hot and heavy and culminating in us meeting up on a night out. We kissed and he said he'd been waiting 7 years for it and that he wanted to see me when he was back from a work trip he was going on. He messaged me when he was away and I told him I was considering trying again with the ex (we have 2 children) and that, in my situation, I could only have been some fun for him (he is childless and free). He said that wasn't true and he had genuine big feelings for me. I then messaged saying things were off with the ex bad libra said he wanted to see me when back. For the next 2 weeks he was away the messages became inconsistent, he ignored me sometimes or answered back shortly...no flirty stuff at all, once he left it nearly a week and I asked if he was ok, he said yes and it had just been hectic (though he had been online). When he got back he messaged asking how things were with the ex, I said confusing as I wasn't sure what to do for the children...I asked libra if he liked me and asked for honesty...he said he really liked me and could genuinely see something happening between us in the right circumstances but says he wanted to take things very slow and that I needed time. We then met up that weekend and I was spotted by my ex's friend who told him and this caused some text drama which libra was party to. We messaged about my ex and I told him we were having dinner that week to chat, but that I really wasn't feeling it.....no reply. I messaged after the dinner to say I had made if clear it was over.....no reply. A few days later I was sick of the unsurety so decided to opt out of libra. I sent a long message saying I couldn't understand why he ignored me, he replied apologising and saying he'd change and asked to meet up this week. I gave him my free days and thus was Friday eve and now by Monday....nothing!! He's been online, he's read it but nothing!! Help!

Aw I'm sorry hun :/ he's being a jerk, reading messages and not replying. So rude. But he did say that he needs some time. Try to be patient. He sounds kind of immature though, didn't really evolve yet. Wait a few more days, maybe even a full week. If nothing progresses and he's just playing games with more and adding more stress in your life, then move on. Despite him saying that he has had feelings for your for year apparently, libras always change, they like you, then they don't, then they like you again... It's a headache. Only you can decide if he's worth it or not. Good luck hun.

Are you dumb, she's contemplating getting back with her ex because there are children involved... Hello, anybody in there?

Close one door before you open another.

That is all.

Shut up horse teeth. You just called her "baggage" beause she has children. Do you realize how incredibly disrespectful that is? You're clueless. And who are you to tell me what to do? Way to make her feel likes she's nothing by saying that you would run in the opposite direction if you were him. Idk what forgein country you're from but I'm from America and people with children from previous relationships date all the time and end up marriaged again. And she's clearly bothering with the libra because there are feelings between them. Did you read the op? Or nah ——?

Bottom line try giving advice to someone without insulting them. If you want to insult innocent people I will insult you back 🙂 whoops, must be an aggressive Taurus thing!

Hi, thanks mysterious Taurus for your support. I need to elaborate on the sit but could only post 2500 words before! This libra has not waited for me, he had a long term gf for the last 6 years who, I hear, he cheated on many times. He also has a rather bad rep as a player....which is why I was confused over the pretty things he'd say....and then no action.....and then when I have him a way out eg said I needed time to think about the eabd asked if he really liked me, instead of opting out if it was too much, he just reaffirmed that he'd said.....and then no action again....real confusing!! Having children does not mean you have drama and baggage....they're only children not stalkers....unfortunately people break up sometimes....anyway, still no word so I guess that answers my question....weird way for him to go about it though....thought he'd have just been honest a while ago...once his interest stated to wane.....

he did not like his gf? He liked someone else for years while he was with this gf? I'm not justifying the cheating part ... but doesn't this sound like he did like you for years but you were with your ex?

Hi champranger! I think the liking thing was more an unspoken thing, it certainly was unspoken on my part but I always liked him, although I didn't see him for a few years he was always in the back of my mind. I was with someone else at the time we first met, maybe that's why....plus he was in a very rocky place as his dad had passed.

What is the time span between when you first reconnected with him to when you told him that you could not have anything serious with him? He told you he wanted to meet up with you after his work trip and it sounds like he did. Prior to his work trip, it doesn't sound like he was inconsistent. Did I miss something?"

I never told him I couldn't have anything serious with him...it was more a concern that he wasn't genuine despite what he said, mainly because of his rep and that famous libra silver tongue!! He was very consistent before going away but it seemed that once I told him how much I liked him....he drifted off....I've told him many times I really like him and he me, but , it's that player rep that's worrying me. I wear my heart on my fleece (if you like!) and am upfront and honest about my feelings....I hear librans sugar coat things and try not to offend and I wonder if if was all balls and I'm just a conquest....another trophy.....? I know he's messaged at least one other girl....fairly innocuous but asking about her bf....seems suspect to me....actions not matching words you know....?

I should add - I'm not in USA, we don't really do casual dating here...you're either together or seeing someone with a view of being together....of not....this dipping in and out is confusing. My very hard headed Gemini friend is telling me he's a time waster who is giving me a faint glimmer of interest when he can be bothered. He has now gotten in touch about meeting up, said he was thinking of me and wants to see me but he's been busy......and hoping we can catch up soon and that I'm ok