How to win Aries girl hearth without losing my self esteem?

Aries guy here! I heard a lot of people are telling that Aries - Aries relationships don't work... Well, the biggest problem that I saw recently when I was going after this aries girl is that neither me or her want to give up the dominant position in this and somehow admit we like eachother. Sounds dumb, because I like her like a mad man ( she is my highschool crush) and from her body language when she interants with me I have the feeling that she likes me too.

Ok, now a little bit of inside story... (feel free to skip this part if you want to give me a fast response)

We are both Cancer risings, I am Aries moon, she is Aquarius moon and her birthday was yesterday, mine will be in 3 days from now. Yes, I have the strange feeling that we resemble eachother a lot, and that's why I feel so attracted to her... She was one of the most pursued girls in the highschool because she is hot and smart and she have an cold and dominant attitude, and well, I was the guy who won the prom's contest in my first year of highschool (is like an beauty contest for freshmens that makes you insta-popular) and then dissapeared from the popular scene because *well* I hate fake people and I prefered my unpopular friends.. Plus that I've been very antisocial this previous years.

Even that I liked her, I totaly ignored her for the last 2 years, except one time when we texted a little bit, things got awkward (possibly my fault, idk) and after that incident I never talked to her for a year or so... Just some strange eye contact when we caught ourselves staring at eachother.

This year I was more confident about approaching her because I became more social, I developed a lot of skills and hobbyes that filled my free time and my passion for gym made me achive an amazin phisique. I first became friend with her best friends and I make sure that I spend a lot of time around her to make sure she saw how amazing I was... Things worked out pretty well, I caught her staring at me more frequently and imediatley avoiding eye contact, she had the initiative of opening some small talks with me, and I have got the feeling that we should interact more and even ask her out.

In that wonderfull time insecurities and fear of rejection striked because I admitted to myself that I really liked her and I started to freak out when I was around her, so because I didn't wanted to look like an idiot in front of her I pretended that she wasn't there... And I will interact with her in those situations just if she ask me something or so, and the responses were short and somehow dry, trying not to display any emotions because my inside was just exploding in that times (ARIES friends, you can relate to this, I am sure).

They were also times when I was confident and she seemed to get shy and exactly the same way I described above...

In the last days I feel like my self esteem was a little bit damaged by the lack of comunication, and I feel like hers too.

What should I do?

Jesus Christ.... It wont work for God sake..... She won't even give me the chance to ask her out and have a coffe or so to get to know eachoter a little bit. Her friends told me that she NEVER want to hang out beside of school even in a neutral environment (with some friends, not just her and a boy she don't even know) and I saw that it takes a while before she starts trusting someone (her friend mention something about her past and stuff)

I get your point, and I am crazy enough to do that, bu she will react 100% like it was an sexual assault or so... Her Venus is in Aqiarius and mine too... So friends first beside something else...

My question is how I get to be friends? After we get confortable I know what to do, trust me 😉

I like that peppermint idea tough.. I should try that next time I have the ocassion xD

I talke to her about books, because she likes to buy a lot of them.. Is her hobby.
The thing is that I thougt that she will get more confortable wit me if we chat a little bit on Facebook, so I texted her when I was in a library picking sone books to ask her fo a suggestion, and the whole conversation went smoothly, I even flirted with her a little bit. But I maintain our interactions at a low frequenci, like one or 2 per week and in rest I pretty much ignore her because I'm so freaked out when she is aroun *I allways act like this, idk why*

And I know if someone ignore me in this way it get my intrest but in the same time me it damages my self esteem and make me feel low. And in this time we do this to eachother... Dumb situation

Whats your mars and her mars?

I say, as long as yall have things in common, ''winning'' her over should be easy. I personally luurrve when I have things in common with a guy. He can win me over pretty easily. She seems to like to share her interest and hobbies with you, keep that up but only if you're genuinely interested. Good luck.

Posted by DMV
Whats your mars and her mars?

my mars is arie her mar probably arie or aquarius, idl

Damn the grammar... I'm tired...

Posted by AriesFireKnight

Posted by DMV
Whats your mars and her mars?

my mars is arie her mar probably arie or aquarius, idl

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Mars in aries— You better go grab her and throw her over your shoulder and tell her to get ready to be treated like a queen.