In love with Arie sun/Venus Pisces..HELP?? thanks

I was currently seeing an Aries male. Make a long story short, his sitaution makes us hard to continue the relationship and/or friendship. I just need an advise, cant shake him off my head and I am frustrated. Have known him a year or so as a friend; and just a couple of months ago he pursued me HARD, the Aries way. Had a great time with him; he texted, called on the regular, day and night. I seen him almost every day. It was awesome. The down fall? He has a girlfriend and a kid with her. He tells me that it is over with them, and he did not feel for him, shes crazy and only reason why he stayed is because of the child. Mind you this guy was head over heels for Me, would tell me all the good stuff etc. blah blah..sometimes sounded too good to be true. Always made time for Me whenever work did not get in the way. Again awesome! possibly the best man i have ever met in my life.. we had everything in common. Some things happened, and he pulled the disapparing act. Guess he decided to stay with his Damsel in Distress, she put alot of pressure on him and she was not about to go down without a fight. He decided that we should just be friends, I dont feel it was the right thing for me, so i told hin i cannot be friends with him and have not been in contact with him ever since. I miss him terribly! but i am not the one to chase him, gave him his space and off I go.... here is our natal chart. I would like to know or get some advise on how this Man will go about all this, i know he liked me alot..not a day went by that he did not tell me he missed me, or thinking of me and if the situation was different; I would be his girlfriend in a heart beat.. Guess we met at the wrong time 😢

HIS CHART:
SUN- ARIES
MOON- SAG
MERCURY- TAURUS
VENUS- PISCES
MARS- CAP
JUP- SAG
SATURN- TAURUS
URANUS- LIBRA
NEPTUNE- SAG
PLUTO- VIRGO
LILITH- VIRGO
ASC. NODE- AQUA

MY CHART:
SUN- GEM
MOON- GEM
MERCURY- GEM
VENUS- CANCER
MARS- LEO
JUP-CANCER
SATURN- LEO
URANUS- SCORPIO
NEPTUNE- SAG
PLUTO- LIBRA
LILITH- CANCER
ASC. NODE- LIBRA

THE GIRLFRIENDS CHART:
SUN- LIBRA
MOON- AQUA
MERCURY- SCORP
VENUS- VIRGO
MARS- SAG
JUP- VIRGO
SATURN- LIBRA
URANUS- SCORP
NEPTUNE- SAG
PLUTO- LIBRA
LILITH- LIBRA
ASC. NODE- LEO

THANK YOU GUYS just looking for some great advice

Let me just add that we bonded in every way shape or form.. there is a look he gives me everyday when he sees me, never seen anything like it. Its weird its like my lost twin, we have everything in common its weird.. It's like when we are talking we can finish off each other's sentences..but then he went cold, not sure if its the pressure she was giving him, making him make a choice.. he's stuck and i feel bad for him. I know for a fact it is not where he wants to be...

Hi arietteheart2

It is more complicated than that..I just did not want to put it on here. He was trying to split with joint custody, she doesnt want him to have it and is figting him to the fullest. And demanded more money from him.. she is being spiteful because he wants to leave before i came along..issues were already there. She wants him to give up rights 100%

I went through something a good deal like this. I had had enough, and wanted out. I moved out of the house. It took 4 years, but we finally were divorced. In the process our daughter was used by the ex to inflict as much pain upon me as was possible. She is a scorp, btw....

Anyway, it wasn't until I was truly free that I started taking my "future" into serious consideration. Your guy will always carry his kid with him, in one way or another. On the other hand, he has to break free of kids mom, not only for you, but for himself. I do no know him, of course, but it only way it worked for me is if/when being free of the ex was the goal/result.

I would have to agree that you "met at the wrong time."
I doubt he would be able to manage "friends" at this point in time. If he has strong feelings for you, those will continue, or flat out die. There will be no middle ground.

It can take a long time, I hope you have the patience for it. If not, no contact is the only realistic approach to this problem.

I am Aries with Pisces Venus, btw

By looking at the charts, there is a large attraction with not only you, but with the girlfriend too. I think he likes you both. His Mercury is in Taurus and her, in Scorpio, so I'd say there is a lot more behind the seen, since both are opposites here, that connection is good, a possibly, deep one. The thing is though, if he said the situation is different and its all about the "kid", that maybe how he is expressing the matter with you. I always hear people say bad things about their girlfriend/boyfriend, but thats not always what they feel. For example, I am honestly sick of my Taurus man because he is a self-oriented asshole, but when I'm with him, I wouldn't trade him for any other. So, maybe he is in love with you, but chances are, he is still in love with her. BUT, he might be trying to break it off with her inwardly, thats why he tells you how he feels and such.

However, if he really does like you, he will chase you again. Space is the cure here. This is a decision he must come to on his own. Maybe he will get himself together and find a way with you later...But if he doesn't, is it worth the heart ache? Don't completely give up on him if you love him and he feels the same, but do expect him to stay with her because "only when a man misses a lady will he chase her over again."

thank you

so is mercury in taurus and mercury in scorp a great match? i dont quite undertsand the charts yet

what is the most important part of people natal chart I should be looking for? In terms of what matters? So to speak, sorry I am new to all this.