durrie
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Meditation...
Dear Durrie,
Life...it is all about how we "perceive" it to be. I don't know what your situation is that is causing you to be stressed out but when we look back to the past and situations that have stressed us out, was it worth it? Did our stress help the situation in any way or did it take away moments of joy in our days? Events, situations, experiences, love, tragedy, all of these and more are all a part of life. We were given the gift of life and we ALL will experience ALL of these as long as we are alive and on this planet. I choose to think that this is a good thing. What is the alternative? I know there is a place where we can go where there are no problems and that is......to exit planet earth. So, now we need to see that through all of our situations, we can grow and learn. Change our way of thinking about the situation. Let go. We cannot really control any situation, we can only control our "thoughts" of the situation. I'm not sure if any of this is making any sense to you or to anyone reading. We all are meant to be happy here on earth and we can be if we allow ourselves to be. Stress is created by each one of us and ONLY us. You don't need that, life is too short and in the end...it doesn't really matter. What may help is to find the good things that happen to you every day and write them down. Focus on the good things, the small things in life. You will soon find that nothing will really bother you at all.
I hope this helps...I know I didn't answer your question about meditating...I have used the flame from a candle before and that was awesome. Focus on the flame... Hmmmm...I'm wondering why I am so attracted to the "flame"...could it be because I am a
"fire" sign?
Good luck, Durrie. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
AFx2
Life...it is all about how we "perceive" it to be. I don't know what your situation is that is causing you to be stressed out but when we look back to the past and situations that have stressed us out, was it worth it? Did our stress help the situation in any way or did it take away moments of joy in our days? Events, situations, experiences, love, tragedy, all of these and more are all a part of life. We were given the gift of life and we ALL will experience ALL of these as long as we are alive and on this planet. I choose to think that this is a good thing. What is the alternative? I know there is a place where we can go where there are no problems and that is......to exit planet earth. So, now we need to see that through all of our situations, we can grow and learn. Change our way of thinking about the situation. Let go. We cannot really control any situation, we can only control our "thoughts" of the situation. I'm not sure if any of this is making any sense to you or to anyone reading. We all are meant to be happy here on earth and we can be if we allow ourselves to be. Stress is created by each one of us and ONLY us. You don't need that, life is too short and in the end...it doesn't really matter. What may help is to find the good things that happen to you every day and write them down. Focus on the good things, the small things in life. You will soon find that nothing will really bother you at all.
I hope this helps...I know I didn't answer your question about meditating...I have used the flame from a candle before and that was awesome. Focus on the flame... Hmmmm...I'm wondering why I am so attracted to the "flame"...could it be because I am a
"fire" sign?
Good luck, Durrie. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
AFx2
You are very wise AFx2...I thank you for reminding me not to think to much about the negative.
You are very right...it is a mind set...our lives and all that goes in within them are directly affected by the choices we make and how we see our lives.
You are very right in that we cannot control a situation and trying to conrol it further more hightens your stress but to do as you say and to learn I will never forget the depths of sadness my emotion took me to and how terrifying they were...never forget them and learn that those are places I will never visit again because they are places where nothing gets done and the splendours of life are absent.
What was I thinking...Aaaaaah...hehe.
That's a good one though...the flame...I like that and will definatley try it...
Thanks for sharing with me AFx2...you are very kind. Thankyou for your time.
Durrie.
You are very right...it is a mind set...our lives and all that goes in within them are directly affected by the choices we make and how we see our lives.
You are very right in that we cannot control a situation and trying to conrol it further more hightens your stress but to do as you say and to learn I will never forget the depths of sadness my emotion took me to and how terrifying they were...never forget them and learn that those are places I will never visit again because they are places where nothing gets done and the splendours of life are absent.
What was I thinking...Aaaaaah...hehe.
That's a good one though...the flame...I like that and will definatley try it...
Thanks for sharing with me AFx2...you are very kind. Thankyou for your time.
Durrie.
YOU are so welcome Durrie 🙂 Glad that I could help.
If you don't mind and you have time, let me know what good things you experienced today 🙂
Have a great day today,
AFx2
If you don't mind and you have time, let me know what good things you experienced today 🙂
Have a great day today,
AFx2
O.k so you know what...you made me realise that even though I felt like the world had ended the world went on...let me explain...
I go off to McDonalds for a quick bite to eat and sit in the square outside my office for a munchie and some time to reflect...
I was feeling much better thanks to yours and other's kind words on DXP. I love doing that...sitting quietly by myself where I can watch the world go by around me...just observe and think thoughts...remove yourself and think totally objectively.
Anyways...a tramp walks up to me and beggs for some food...he says...
"have pity on me...your life is better than mine..."
I burst out laughing...not because it is but because it struck me then and there like a ton of bricks that his mind set is just as mine was a few days ago and his situation and possition in life is a direct relation to his mind set. He wishes he was somebody els and it struck me how devistating a state of mind...perticularly like that can be.
After sharing some food with this dude I left to come back to work and wow...it was like somebody turned on the lights. People were smiling at me again...the world was alive with sounds and colours and basically I was seeing life for what it was again....
Thank you soooo much AFx2...your firery soul has re-kindled my life...your memory lights my way like the candle you speak of above...
Take care...
Durrie.
I go off to McDonalds for a quick bite to eat and sit in the square outside my office for a munchie and some time to reflect...
I was feeling much better thanks to yours and other's kind words on DXP. I love doing that...sitting quietly by myself where I can watch the world go by around me...just observe and think thoughts...remove yourself and think totally objectively.
Anyways...a tramp walks up to me and beggs for some food...he says...
"have pity on me...your life is better than mine..."
I burst out laughing...not because it is but because it struck me then and there like a ton of bricks that his mind set is just as mine was a few days ago and his situation and possition in life is a direct relation to his mind set. He wishes he was somebody els and it struck me how devistating a state of mind...perticularly like that can be.
After sharing some food with this dude I left to come back to work and wow...it was like somebody turned on the lights. People were smiling at me again...the world was alive with sounds and colours and basically I was seeing life for what it was again....
Thank you soooo much AFx2...your firery soul has re-kindled my life...your memory lights my way like the candle you speak of above...
Take care...
Durrie.
Durrie,
Glad you made it back!
I know the feeling of being out there lost, being dropped off in the middle of nowhere and it is scary not knowing where the hell you are or how you ended up there! Each time it happens you will know how to get through it and find your way out! You can either stay and wait for someone to help you or you can do what you did and find your own way out by searching. You made it back all on your own! Your smart and you can handle whatever crisis is put in front of you. Each time makes you more and more a survivor. That should give you plenty of confidence!
PS It should also make you appreciate how much you may take for granted everyday! I know I have and don't anymore.
Love
Glad you made it back!
I know the feeling of being out there lost, being dropped off in the middle of nowhere and it is scary not knowing where the hell you are or how you ended up there! Each time it happens you will know how to get through it and find your way out! You can either stay and wait for someone to help you or you can do what you did and find your own way out by searching. You made it back all on your own! Your smart and you can handle whatever crisis is put in front of you. Each time makes you more and more a survivor. That should give you plenty of confidence!
PS It should also make you appreciate how much you may take for granted everyday! I know I have and don't anymore.
Love
Dear Durrie,
Oh...thank you so much for sharing your day with me and the others. You made my heart sing...🙂 I know this may sound silly but life is oh so very simple and we have a tendency to make it difficult. I am so glad that you had your "ah-ha" moment and that others were smiling at you. You know, in the end, it is the smiles you will remember.
And, YOU created those smiles...I am so happy to share this board with you. I came home tonight from a night out and your post just lit my fire. I am very happy for you.
love,
AFx2 🙂
Oh...thank you so much for sharing your day with me and the others. You made my heart sing...🙂 I know this may sound silly but life is oh so very simple and we have a tendency to make it difficult. I am so glad that you had your "ah-ha" moment and that others were smiling at you. You know, in the end, it is the smiles you will remember.
And, YOU created those smiles...I am so happy to share this board with you. I came home tonight from a night out and your post just lit my fire. I am very happy for you.
love,
AFx2 🙂
Hey guys...
167.7 thank you for your comments...you're quite right now that I think of it...it's a journey that has come full circle and now that I am back from it although I will never forget it I can finally use my experiance positively again.
AFx2 you crack me up man...my "ah-ha" moment...that's brilliant, I nearly fell off my chair with laughter when I read that...nice one. Thanks once again for sharing with me, you make me smile.
Take care...
Durrie.
167.7 thank you for your comments...you're quite right now that I think of it...it's a journey that has come full circle and now that I am back from it although I will never forget it I can finally use my experiance positively again.
AFx2 you crack me up man...my "ah-ha" moment...that's brilliant, I nearly fell off my chair with laughter when I read that...nice one. Thanks once again for sharing with me, you make me smile.
Take care...
Durrie.
Meditation is very powerful.. I had similar attacks and episodes... meditation changed my life. But it comes down to discipline/will-power. Many of us know what we need to do to feel better, but actaully doing it is often the hard part. Try to meditate 20 minutes a day everyday.. try it for a week intially.. I promis you'll feel better.
How do you meditate? Anytime you kind of zone out in my opinion your meditating. Some find it in reading, painting, writting poetry.
Just sit back straight in goood posture. Not too comfortable were your going to fall asleep not too ridged where your uncomfortable.. And breathe, through your nose... count your breaths... ingnore all though.. think of thoughts as clouds in the sky they come and go.. don't grasp on the thoughts..if you do, no big deal..don't be hard on yourself.. just breathe and count.. once you find yourself grasping thoughts..start from 1...
How do you meditate? Anytime you kind of zone out in my opinion your meditating. Some find it in reading, painting, writting poetry.
Just sit back straight in goood posture. Not too comfortable were your going to fall asleep not too ridged where your uncomfortable.. And breathe, through your nose... count your breaths... ingnore all though.. think of thoughts as clouds in the sky they come and go.. don't grasp on the thoughts..if you do, no big deal..don't be hard on yourself.. just breathe and count.. once you find yourself grasping thoughts..start from 1...
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