The never ending Aries roller coaster

I need advice or a slap in the face!

In April of 2013 I met an Aries man who was on active duty in the navy. We met online and after a few days of talking we met up for lunch. After being on the date for a few hours my aries stated he needed to help a friend move into his new apartment ( by "help" I mean he basically hung out while his friends loaded their furniture into his truck and drive them to their new place) we decided we would meet up later that night and Continue hanging out. He ended up coming back to my cousins house and he and I along with a group of my friends went out bar hopping and had a great time. He drove me home later that night and we had an amazing kiss. The next day we meet for date #2, we have lunch, go to a matinee, and a hooka bar where we spent time getting to know each other. We basically spent every day together for 2 weeks( going to dinner, hanging out basically dating) I was getting nervous because we were spending a lot of time together and feelings were developing faster than they have for me. When I brought that to my aries attention he said it wasn't a problem that we spent so much time together, so excitedly I thought we were on the same page. I decided to just go with the flow. And allow myself to continue falling for this aries. Big mistake. My aries was caring, sweet, and genuine in the beginning then one day Out of the blue all of that changed. He tells me he "might" be going on deployment for 9 months and that he wouldn't know for sure until a month before he was supposed to leave ( august 2013) I knew i wasn't good with long distance relationships and that 9 months was such a long time deep down inside I felt we were over the moment he told me. I didn't see the point in developing feelings for someone I knew would be leavening soon. BUT rather than listen to my intuition I tried following my heart and going against it. ( in retrospect I probably changed a bit after that) Everything fell apart I started to get major attitude from my aries, he was impatient, short and brash. He never wanted to do anything or go anywhere. The only thing he wanted to do was go to work, the gym, and to bed. ( not that he made any arrangements for our previous dates, the most creative date he could think of was a going to see an action movie) Our relationship became very boring. He seemed like he was a homebody and I wanted to go out and try new things ( I am a virgo) I thought since I was dating an aries there would be all this exc

excitement and adventure, but I got nothing! My aries started to become controlling and what I thought was verbally abusive. since he didn't want to hang out with me, I continued on with my social activities with friends and he would just berate me with his "truths" about me. ( apparently I was an alcoholic b/c I was going to happy hour with friends. Ugh what an idiot) I tried to talk it out with my aries but he wasn't responsive so I stated backing away. He was just so dramatic. Wishy washy and bottom line just plain mean at times. So after he started to disappear I decided it was time to end things ( we were dating a very long month and a half lol) when I asked for space and not to be contacted he would just say he wanted to be friends blah, blah , blah but when he contacted me he has absolutely nothing to say! Not even small talk not even talking about hisself nothing just boring " what's new" " how are you" he would engage then not respond. finally I cut him off completely for about 4 months ( I had to threaten to block him from contacting me on my cell phone) I deleted him from all of my social networking sites ( he found me on every single one I was on!) I was missing him and hit him up ( big mistake) and that opened up the lines of communication. I was still feeling him and missed him but I didn't get any inclination that he wanted to repair anything. For the past year I have been secretly agonizing over this man. I really like him and would love to have something with him, but he is so difficult. I am very laid back and enjoy having fun and laughing. He seemed to dislike spending time with me, yet was upset when I spent time with others. He annoys the fuck out of me! All if this is unnecessary
I'm feel as if I am going crazy. I try to let him case me but I get so impatient at times. I can ignore him but after a while i start to miss him. A few months back I hinted that I wanted to try something And all he tells me is he is busy working. How do I end this misery? I know he is in the navy and goes off shore ( I can usually tell when he's been gone) how can I decipher between him stringing me along to respecting that he may just not have time? I've read through majority of these post and I see a pattern of aries men jumping in relationships and sweeping women off their feet. Did we really have a strong connection like I thought or is he being a typical aries and displaying fake emotions for their own gratification? Please end my suffering!

Sorry about that.... I was trying to quote the last part of your post and failed

I am an Aries female. Aries men and women are different, but it is not a typical Aries trait to "display fake emotions for their own gratification". I believe it is a more typical Aries trait to jump too quickly into a relationship and then realize it was a mistake. Remember Aries are the children of the zodiac, so we get ourselves into situations that we dont always know how to get out of. That being said, he sounds immature and is unsure of what he wants. Believe me, if an Aries wants you, you will have no doubts. It seems from your post that you only spent a month and a half enjoying time together and much more time after that making eachother unhappy. Honestly, I would just move on...... without trying to be friends so that you can cut all emotional ties to him.