Cappy men and breakups?

I'm a Cancer woman and my Cap and I recently broke up. For almost a year we had a great relationship, were best friends, and were very happy together. But I tend to be very guarded, and we began to fight about it. He felt that he was making all of the effort in our relationship, and that I was very distant and not reciprocating love. I insisted that we keep working through it and he explained that he just wasn't in it anymore, was burnt out, and couldn't keep trying to make it better when he felt it would only get worse.

I now agree that we need to be apart for a while, but he doesn't want us to stop talking or seeing each other. He was extremely upset by that idea and said that he still needs me and wants me in his life--and that we'll try be friends after taking some needed space and see where that leads.

I'm very skeptical about this and am not sure if it's something I should let go of entirely or remain hopeful. I love this man, but I'm not sure what to expect of him now that we're no longer together. He's a typical Cap, and can be very stubborn.

You couldnt have been that happy tho if you were so guarded and clearly he wasn't happy either since he wanted to break up. Why were you so guarded, if you say you were bestfriends and very happy together?

@bkbella I became guarded at a later stage in our relationship, when he actually started falling harder for me. He kept trying and trying to get through to me but I think I was just holding onto past pain and hadn't really forgiven myself for it yet. Nowwe just spent time fighting and trying to fix it but I think it went to far and we needed time apart. I'm hoping that since I'm ready to open up and be there the way he needs, we can restart once we've cooled down and had our time to grow and think.

Posted by sunkissed4018
@bkbella I became guarded at a later stage in our relationship, when he actually started falling harder for me. He kept trying and trying to get through to me but I think I was just holding onto past pain and hadn't really forgiven myself for it yet. Nowwe just spent time fighting and trying to fix it but I think it went to far and we needed time apart. I'm hoping that since I'm ready to open up and be there the way he needs, we can restart once we've cooled down and had our time to grow and think.

timing issue sounds like. he was ready to open up, you denied him. now your ready to open up and he could care less. caps are about control and you were trying to exert your control over the relationship speed/progression.

whats the rest of your chart and his chart look like?

I know my sun is Cancer and Moon is Aries.
His sun is in Cap as well as his Moon.

id take it as a lesson learned for your next relationship. leave the past in the past.

Maybe. I'm just not sure I want to give up on it yet.

I hear that Cap Moons really hate rejection