Is Your Venus in Aries?

A sexuality and love nature powered by fiery, impulsive, selfish, aggressive, fun-loving, impatient, passionate infant-energy.

Do you expend in one night all the passion other folks do in an entire relationship, then wonder where it all went the next day?

Do you get seduction confused with hunting and conquering, and lovemaking confused with warfare?

Do you demand that people worship you, then get bored to tears when they do?

Or check out everyone in the room, then have a tantrum when your beau so much as utters a compliment in someone else's direction?

Does the competition flee from your warrior-like approach?

Do you know you're Number One, and insist that everyone else know it too?

You *must* be Venus in Aries!

source: http://venusinaries.tribe.net/<BR>





With all due respect, Venus does not fit too well in the Aries since while the planet itself is all about tenderness, love, creativity and peace, the sign is all about hardcore fights, fury and passion. Perhaps, that is why, for Venus in Aries people it is difficult to enjoy the seriousness of a relationship. Apparently, this also does not allow them to understand as to what type of partner they actually want. However, one who can keep them entertained can have the best time of her life because both in bedroom and outside this will lead the Aries carrier to play with spontaneity and enthusiasm.


Read more: http://www.bukisa.com/articles/240786_understanding-venus-in-aries-for-love-and-relationships#ixzz0ofsRHCCq<BR>

i'm perplexed by this position in my chart. i think it's the reason why i'm single. i was reading online that there are general two types of ViA people...

those how fall and marry quickly...and divorce just as quickly - elizabeth taylor

those who fall and date quickly...and break up just as quickly - george clooney

i happen to be in the clooney category. relationships are stuffy and stifling. where i want marriage and kids and stuff, when i think about what this would be like, i literally feel a wave of *ugh* wash over me.

currently when dating, i have a 3 date max. by date 3, if i'm not enamored with dude, chances are i'll stop answering the phone and will hide out for a bit. this trend also continues in longer relationships...

i once was dating a guy (virgo) for about 8 months, executed a pre-planned move to a new location and didn't tell him about it. i also changed my cell number (not because of him but for the new area code) so he had no way of contacting me. i look back on it now and think, wow! but at the time i thought nothing of it. here one day, gone the next. it's not like we were going to get married or anything.

point is, i have story after story of abrupt endings and seemingly baseless justifications for my not liking someone. i wonder what my friends think of me? i can't tell you how many times i've had a conversation that goes....


friend: so how are you and --insert male-- doing? are things still going well?

me: who him? oh no, i stopped talking to him. but i did meet a hottie named --insert male--.


i feel handicapped by this placement. what does love hold for a woman who has a fear of commitment? i literally get EXHAUSTED thinking about marriage. and yet, i am looking for my one and only. i just can't seem to stay interested long enough with the right type of guys to make it happen. maybe this is why i found myself so attracted to leo and aqua suns?

this sucks!

@seavix, it sucks really. the past 2 years have literally left me disillusioned and i don't know what to do. no one interests me and the ones who do are all wrong 😢

i need ViA therapy. a 12-step program or somethin.

I have Venus in Aries. If I want a guy I go for it. I do however get bored very easily. I'm not a fan of commitment either. Although it's not so much that I'm not willing to commit, I just HATE the thought of feeling hemmed in or tied down.

friend: so how are you and --insert male-- doing? are things still going well?

me: who him? oh no, i stopped talking to him. but i did meet a hottie named --insert male--.

I totally relate to this. Lately I've just sort of given up.

I also have a Gemini moon - I'm pretty much screwed!

@Arrrrrr! (didnt want to call you MsP) - so you can relate!?!?! thank GOD! i'm starting to get embarrassed about sharing the deets of my romantic interests with my friends. and i'm not talking about sex. it's just that i gotta sound crazy when i'm all excited about a guy and am over him *just like that*

it's so bad that now, i literally can get bored mid-date. like the date could start out fine and then at some point, i look at the person and think, "WHY AM I WITH YOU?" and i want to leave...NOW!

i pray that i find the right guy soon because at some point i'm going to have to move so that i start over with fresh fish pool.

oh, my moon mars and venus are in aries. i guess i should just throw in the towel and resort to male escorts and sperm banks.

Lol it's not just you Tubby.

My friends all think I'm mad, they're like FFS you only just met the guy how can you be bored already? I just know that if a guy can't hold my interest past even the 1st date then there's no point. I have Mercury and Mars in Aquarius so all that air can't help. I'm just like stimulate me already or sod off!

I'll get excited about a guy I meet and I'll be all like "oh wow this guy" and my friends are now like "yeah yeah I give the dude a week before you're all WHATEVA!" and I hate to admit it but they have a point. Don't get me wrong I'm not a serial dater, I just haven't found anyone who can keep me on my toes long enough. I did have two serious relationships, one with a Sadge who did keep me on my toes but ended up doing my box in and the other was an Aqua guy who tried to control me and turn me into a stepford wife. I don't think so.

I just look at so many people and it feels like (to me) that they've just "settled" for the sake of security. I don't need f*ing security I can look after myself thank you.

I'll tell you what I've noticed about Venus in Aries, with me anyway, because I don't see this in any of my other placements. It just makes me brazen as hell. Like, I have never ever looked at a guy and thought "I can't have you" or "you're too good-looking for me" or whatever. The thing is though it's not a front. I don't just say that to myself to make me feel more confident. I'm not arrogant don't get me wrong. I just don't see why I can't have the hottest guy in the room, why the fuck shouldn't I? My mates will sit around and admire the guy and talk about how cute/sexy whatever he is. I'm the one who says "fuck it" and goes for it. Nothing to do with looks, a couple of my girlfriends are stunning, I just think "who says I can't pull you?" maybe it's the whole challenge thing I don't know.

*high fives*

you're writing my book chicky! if i zero in on a target, he shall be mine. not sure what or why but if i put my mind to it, will have *that one* in a matter of minutes. maybe it is the brazen approach that catches the guys off guard? it's sorta like a refined....

"oh my god you're so hot! let's date!" HA!

and i'm not a serial date either. i tried that for a good long while and it's probably why i'm burnt out now. like you, i just know when it's wrong and i can tell with some men fairly instantly that whether it's in my nature or not, he'd bore me to the point of cheating on him so better to call it quits 😛

oh hell, that reminded me. the aqua and i were in an LDR post college and i remember when he asked me to be exclusive i'd just gotten into a nice dating rhythm though.

so when he asked, i said "well, does that mean we have to stop going out with other people? can i still go out on dates as long as i don't do anything?"

HA! there's that naive part 😄

he actually said yes and the first time i went out, was in a car about to be dropped at home and the guy, sag, kissed me like he wanted my soul. i was able to peel myself from the leather before anything happened but felt like shit of course. called the aqua and told him. we almost broked up 😢

i've gotten better but i still try not to put myself in compromising situations with hotties because i think when ViA is on, very hard to turn it off.

"i've gotten better but i still try not to put myself in compromising situations with hotties because i think when ViA is on, very hard to turn it off"

Ditto. It's like a full moon for a werewolf with me. I'm like shit I can't go out tonight because I'm going to be in full huntress mode - and that is never good!

"if i zero in on a target, he shall be mine. not sure what or why but if i put my mind to it, will have *that one* in a matter of minutes"

Haha that is exactly what I say to my mates - he shall be mine! I'm sure others will read this and think I'm totally up myself but it's not like that. Hard to explain really. My friends just think I'm super confident but I don't think I'm the bees knees far from it. I just don't see why I shouldn't go for it. There is no telling me that's for sure, stubborn doesn't even cut it.

I never cheated on my Sag but I will admit to being tempted. What worries me is when I get like that ^^^ it's like I'm totally out of control. I really have to stop and reign myself in.

Sea I have a strong Aqua influence in my chart so I dig. I need lots of space and to be allowed to just be me. I cannot stand being told what to do and a guy doing that to me is the first sign I'll bolt. My Aqua ex actually said to me I needed to be "tamed" and that he reckoned he'd be the one to do it. Pffft, I went on holiday with my mates without telling him, came back he went mental made a big deal out of not "asking" him! I was like helloooo do you see a ring on my finger matey and told him if he didn't like it he knew where to go.

@sea - yea, having dated an aqua i can imagine ViAq wold be hard to pin down too. but do you at least take more than a few dates to figure it out?

@Arrrr - i totally get you. it's not conceit or arrogance. i'm not proclaiming to be drop dead gorgeous. i'm not every man's type. i just know that for the most part, if i set my sights, he shall be mine. i think we're modern cavewomen with invisible clubs.

and i agree regarding sexual energies. they're so strong! i seriously go into hungry baby mode. it's like in that moment, i NEED it and if the wrong wee is in close proximity, bad things might happen.

Cavewoman with invisible clubs haha I like.

Aries is all about action and that's it for me. I am never going to sit there and wonder or adore from afare fuck that shit. I'd rather just throw myself out there and know straight up.

And me too, hunger is the right word for it. I get seriously frustrated if my needs aren't met.

Anyhoo, nice to know I'm not the only deviant around here haha. I'm off to a BBQ as it's been a gorgeous day here so enjoy your day/night wherever in the world you are!

I'm away to howl at the moon. 🙂

@P-Angel - how did your husband calm/satisfy ViA need for excitement?

in a way, i already know the answer i think. my bff is a virgo sun, ViV and has a lot of aqua and leo placements. it makes for a stimulating relationship above the belt. i truly enjoy his company...but i am a taurus sun. sex though...i think one of the reasons i didn't fall for his wee is his ViV 😛

Posted by seavixen2
nope, mine is in Aquarius but...


"A sexuality and love nature powered by fiery, impulsive, selfish, aggressive, fun-loving, impatient, passionate infant-energy.

Do you expend in one night all the passion other folks do in an entire relationship, then wonder where it all went the next day?"

...sounds right up my alley!!

Same here, mine is in Aquarius. Somehow, I wouldn't want it any other way.

Posted by tubbyscubby
A sexuality and love nature powered by fiery, impulsive, selfish, aggressive, fun-loving, impatient, passionate infant-energy.

Do you expend in one night all the passion other folks do in an entire relationship, then wonder where it all went the next day?

Do you know you're Number One, and insist that everyone else know it too?

seems about right.
I got Venus in Aries.

I have Venus in Aries also, which probably modifies my emotional/passive Pisces Sun/Mercury/Rising and my practical, slow-moving Taurus Moon/Mars. (I also think my Pisces/Taurus/Aries mix there makes me a sex fiend LMAO! To me, sex is an art form and VERY important!) It's really the only thing that explains how I am ABLE to initiate at times (though it doesn't feel "normal" to me usually)... I'm like MissPirate. I'm impulsive and spontaneous. If I want it, I have NO qualms about going for it. Not that I chase after guys, or club them down and drag them back by their hair - I'm very feminine. But if I think a guy is attractive or interesting (NO such thing as "too hot" or "out of my league" or "can't have, don't bother" - my gf's call me "fearless") I have no problem letting him know I'm interested. A full 5 seconds of eye contact while smiling is an amazing ice-breaker... and amazingly hard for some people to do! I DO tend to get "swept up" and move too quickly, one foot on the brake cuz the other foot has the pedal to the metal! I FEEL more than I THINK, and I'm fine like that. I can get OUT as fast as I got IN - if I want to. I guess I DO get bored easily - have to have stimulation, mental, emotional, physical... I'm anything but boring, so I give it back in spades! (If you're looking for a calm, predictable, easy to figure out girl, an Aries Venus not the chick for you!!) The Taurus in me LOVES security, but the Aries Venus wants excitement (NOT to be confused with DRAMA - had to learn the diff!) ... so if the relationship gets TOO boring and stuffy and "settled"... I don't automatically bail.. I find ways to spice it up a bit, get things moving again. I won't cheat, but I will fantasize. If my efforts keep failing, *swish* *swish* I'm gone, no regrets. Everything is a learning experience and therefore valuable... At times I've been a poster-child for what NOT to do in relationships! LOL I'm playful and fun, too much seriousness will strangle me. But don't lie or play head games with me - that's a one way ticket OUT! Be REAL, cuz I'M real.. I might be switching gears and making your head spin... you may get out of breath trying to keep up... but I'm always 100% real, and 100% ME. Love me for me, or someone else will!

How does my Libra (Leo Venus, Virgo Moon! We both have Earth Moons and Fire Venus!) keep me stimulated? *ponder* He doesn't smother me, doesn't act like he owns me, gives me plenty of space when I want or need it, and I don't have to justify or explain. He flirts with others, but I'm always clearly #1, and I know he's always going home with ME, not them. If he goes overboard, I speak my feelings, and he rectifies it -- and vice versa. We're proud to be seen together. I like to watch, see the interactions, see the girls that want him.. can't have him. I flirt with others (my charming sparkle can be dazzling at times, and draws people in)... he's always watching, always knows. And eventually, will walk up to slide his arm around my waist, kiss the side of my neck or forehead, put his hand on my leg, like "Look, but don't touch. She's mine. Lucky me!" We don't say I love you too often, only when we're feeling it very strongly, so he doesn't trigger my restlessness that way. (Sometimes I think I want him to say it more.. then remind myself what happens when guys did/do that to me... I feel pressured, cramped, smothered. It's SUCH a fine line, I don't know that anyone can walk it successfully with me - he's bound to fall off the fence quite often! lol) If my guy calls too much, demands too much time, pushes me, expects too much... that's when I pull back. I won't be smothered, led, or controlled. My Libra is smart enough to not try. Our similarities cement us, our differences excite us. He's an Air/Earth/Fire, I'm a Water/Earth/Fire. We had to work through communication issues (we're so similar in a lot of ways, so diff in others!) and now we can talk about anything. Diff POV's are educational and intriguing and open you up to things you never thought of!

When it got to where we were like that "old married couple" - going out on weekends, but sitting and watching TV most nights, or playing online, kiss hello and kiss goodbye, but SO MUCH QUIET.. settled.. BORING... We changed it up. Now we do not see each other every single day (though we still talk) and we're planning dates in advance (like teenagers - woo!) and missing each other and spending more QUALITY time together. I'll see him tonight, first time all week because he's been re-roofing a house when he's not at work, and has been exhausted every day. And let me tell you, I am EXCITED, feels like when we first started dating, so long ago. Butterflies and everything. God, I LOVE butterflies in my tummy!

thanks Nefer. i guess what you're saying is, instead of bailing, i need to be an active participant in keeping things fresh and i need a partner who instinctively does this as well. i have this inner struggle between earth and fire and damnit if the fire doesn't win out in most situations. HOWEVER once i'm in it, taurus takes over and i stay put. i'd just like to stay put with someone who makes me feel secure and alive. why do those two things feel so contradictory at times?

i also wondered how mars in aries impacted my dysfunctional relationship status.

http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/venusmarscombinations.html<BR>



Venus and Mars in the same signs: You are vibrant, sexual, and charismatic. For the most part, your needs in love and sex are straightforward, making it easier for you than most to feel satisfied and to know what you want in a partnership.

More specifically: Venus in Aries, Mars in Aries: With regards to both love and sex, you are as direct as they come! Your passions are quick, fiery, and demanding. You always have a crush, as it keeps you feeling alive and vital. Romantic liaisons begin quickly and spiritedly. Spontaneous both romantically and sexually, you value directness in a lover. You need to keep the flames of romance going or you quickly burn out in a relationship. You are not a big sensualist--you value, for the most part, the experience more than the sensation itself. Your intentions are good in love, and your style is largely uncomplicated.




^that suits me just fine. it's like i know what i want but i don't. i'm just confident when it's wrong and it's difficult for me to vocalize what is right.

wondering how other ViA's view their V-M combination? is it true or not true?

I have interesting planet combos, Venus in Aries makes for quite a bit of passion. We definitely must learn how to harness our strengths and not fall into traps that we are susceptible to.

I believe we each can find a good thing with another person. No matter how hard your make-up is with yourself. I have seen the people I think are the worst, in the most loving awesome relationships.

I have seen me as an Aries with Venus in Aries, in the best long term relations that I can't seem to forget. Love is not about just liking someone and hopping a broom. Me with Venus in Aries means I go after my love target with great passion, and expend whatever energy I can, and how can we think that is a bad thing.

Yes we can expend it all and be wondering things the next day haha, but we do like a challenge some of us, and some of the challenge is trying to do good on our own, with whatever missteps or quirks we have within ourselves.

I have seen most every sign at their most tender and best of times, and I would hate to harden my heart or mind just because I have seen the worst in us all.

Keep fighting the good fight Venus in Aries. Maybe your partner will keep you reminded of why you are chasing them 😄

thanks HG. yeah, i guess i gave the impression that i never had a long-lasting bond and that's not true. i know that ViA is capable of holding fast, hard and long. i think maybe it's my personal combination that may result in the confusion with regard to love matters.

taurus sun, venus in aries is like "run, run, run...BREAK HARD! back, back, back...pause, wut!, ooooh look! strawberries!"

^i don't know what that end meant either and that's the point. in the beginning, i know what i'm doing. i'm dating. somewhere in the middle, i engage a full stop. and in the end, my mind has already moved on to processing something or someone else. on one hand, no regrets. it wasn't right and i knew it wasnt. on the other, the time it felt most "right," it was most wrong. in short, dRaMA!!! not all the time but random bursts of turmoil that exploded into the most AWESOME thug passion...in an Armani suit.

i think i need a youthful partner instead of the dRaMA!!! someone who views life as an adventure instead of a chore. it's not about constant excitement just more, if you wanna be out! let's be out!

i've been spending a lot of "me" time in 2010 as i figure out what the hell i wanna do with my life and ultimately what i'm missing is my life-long road dog. yes, life is filled with obligations and stuff but what's so horrible about living on the edge...albeit responsibly? i would love to find someone who i could turn to and say, "let's make mud pies" and not have them check me for fever.

Venus in Fire, Mars in Earth (Romantic Fire, Earthy Desires): On romantic and social levels, you are spontaneous and fiery. Sexually, you are more sensual and slow-moving. You willingly take the lead in matters of the heart, and you look for a partner who is exciting, original, and passionate. You are probably easier to please on a sexual level than on a romantic level. Romantically speaking, you love the chase and the conquest. Sexually speaking, you are rather content and even traditional. Although passionate and sexual, you are also quite independent and you're not one to want to cuddle the night away. You need your space! Subtlety may be lacking in your sexual expression at times. You can be surprisingly blunt in your approach to love. Your needs for both spontaneity and forethought in relationships may seem conflicting—and at times this will be a challenge. However, if you can maintain a relationship that is secure and adventurous at the same time, you will be at your happiest.

Venus and Mars in side-by-side signs: The things that please you romantically and the things that please you sexually are quite different. What makes you feel loved and desired does not necessarily satisfy you on the level of desire and instinct, and vice versa. One partner could have a hard time attempting to fill your needs. As a result, you could be quite a handful; or, you may find ways to separate your romantic and sexual needs and thus satisfy them individually.

More specifically: Venus in Aries, Mars in Taurus: You have a hearty appetite for sex. You can come on strong if you're in an especially assertive mood. You make no bones about the fact that you can be self-centered. Although many Mars in Taurus people are quite steadfast, your need for extra stimulation and excitement in love is strong. Your need for security may compel you to seek out a long-standing relationship, but your need for romantic attention and excitement is strong and can be hard to satisfy once a relationship has become routine. Having crushes feeds your spirit and you could have a hard time going without. Although you can be quite possessive of a current lover, you rarely look back once a relationship is over.

Eerily like me, wow. The only thing I wouldn't agree with is, "Sexually speaking, you are rather content and even traditional." I read that as a nice way to say boring and vanilla. I'm actually very adventurous sexually... though admittedly within the realm of a relationship. I don't go around trying new and possibly freaky stuff with relative strangers, or even with beginning relationships. But once I'm comfortable with my lover, I'm willing to go all out in bed, try just about anything our two twisted little minds can come up with. That spark, that spice, that definitely feeds my Aries Venus need for adventure and excitement.

"Traditional" does however come into play with me... I think romantically and socially, I'm more traditional. I'm more comfortable being the feminine, the pursued and cherished. There's a time and place (even in my life!) for being a Modern Woman and in control and independent... but in love relationships, it feels much better for me to NOT try to control things.

This surprised me to read: "The things that please you romantically and the things that please you sexually are quite different. What makes you feel loved and desired does not necessarily satisfy you on the level of desire and instinct, and vice versa." Because WOW, is that true! My Libra struggles with this with me, trying to meet both needs simultaneously is nearly impossible... for me, the two do not balance at the same time. I always thought of myself as a bit odd, the way love and sex are two distinctly separate things for me, and satisfied in different ways. (Unlike a lot of women who can't or won't separate the two, they are ALWAYS distinctly separate to me, even when deeply in love or frantically in lust!) Sex does NOT make me feel love/loved. Love does NOT satisfy me sexually. I thought I was broken, or at least weird. LOL

Posted by Rishi_L
THIS THREAD IS NOW ABOUT LLAMAS.

lol

actually it doesn't.

but thanks for being a prick...dick.

Gotta "love" my Venus in Aries - im very rush to get into something just as rush to get out of it. There is a joke between my friends that I drop guys like flies. I just don't see the point of seeing someone if I do not see the future with them and it's very easy for me to let go. Sometimes I do wonder though if I am a commitment phobe because it is the easiest thing for me to find a reason why I shouldn't be with that person. However, unlike you ladies I do not think that I could get anyone and I do not pursue anyone, but wait for them to pursue me.

what the?

*sratches head*

*exits*

Okay, FWB (Damn, it feels weird calling you that LOL) what is it you want to know?

Cuz I can run my mouth with the best of 'em, like I know what I'm talking about, even if I'm stone cold clueless. 😄

Posted by Gizmo
Gotta "love" my Venus in Aries - im very rush to get into something just as rush to get out of it. There is a joke between my friends that I drop guys like flies. I just don't see the point of seeing someone if I do not see the future with them and it's very easy for me to let go. Sometimes I do wonder though if I am a commitment phobe because it is the easiest thing for me to find a reason why I shouldn't be with that person. However, unlike you ladies I do not think that I could get anyone and I do not pursue anyone, but wait for them to pursue me.

Oops, just to clarify, Giz.. I do NOT chase guys. THEY pursue or they get nowhere. But I'm just brazen enough to make sure I find little ways to let them know I'd be up for the chase, should they want to play LOL And it's not that I think I can "get anyone".. Lord knows, I can't. Been many a wistful sigh I've sighed when I've not gotten the shot I wanted with so-and-so or what's-his-face. It's not "I can get anybody" (which reeks of cockiness).. it's more like.. I'm not afraid to try, to put myself out there. Unlike most of my friends (including another Pisces Sun girl I hang with often) I don't, say.. look at a cute guy sitting at the end of the bar, and think (or say to my friends), "Oh man, he's hot. Too hot. Probably taken. Or wouldn't be interested in me. No way, I can't go talk to him. I'll just sit here with you girls where I'm totally safe from rejection!" It's not exactly self-confidence, though maybe a little. Hard-won self-assurance, at that. It's more like.. not fearlessness (which is what my girls call it).. but it's courage in the face of fear. I do not fear his rejection; I've felt that keen pain plenty of times. If I am interested in a guy I've spotted from across the room, I make eye contact (5 secs is harder to do than most people realize).. if he seems interested, yet not ballsy enough to approach me in my gaggle of girls.. I have no problem walking over to him with a big smile, sitting next to him, and striking up a conversation. After that, pursuing is on him, because I won't chase him.

A very dear Virgo once told me I'm the only girl he knows who is SO "bold without being slutty." I'm just open and friendly, easy to talk to... laughing, smiling, talking... my willingness to at least approach the (maybe a bit shy) man breaks a lot of ice. Most men are SO scared of rejection too, you know

Posted by BellaBulleautiful


USCTG calls herself a commitmentphobe too.I love commitment,but honestly I do flit from one infatuation to another when things don't work. I don't pursue either....but once I am persued I persue back enough to keep it interesting for us both.but mostly I guess I like to be the persuee.....

That's ME within a relationship too, Sissa... I will chase back, reciprocate what is given me, keeping things fresh and fun and playful. Budding romance just starting out, uh uh.. I'll show you I'm interested, but you better do the pursuing, Mr. Man. But if we become "regulars" or date for awhile, or end up in a relationship, I'll do some playful chasing sometimes, letting you know my fire still burns hothotHOT... plus, I gots more fun to come in my bag o' tricks LOL

Speaking of.. watch out for that Bag O' Tricks, FWB. No, I ain't talking mindgames or lies or fucking around. I'm talking sexual depravity.. lustiness.. eagerness. A dirty girl wrapped up in pretty wrapping and bows! Chances are, this Miss-Pisces-Sun-Aries-Venus-Virgo-Moon, she's a lady on the streets (you said she talks like she's all sweet), but a freak in the sheets. And as she opens more and more to you (this can take Pisces awhile!) you will see more and more of this in her. And she will knock yer freakin' socks off. Mark my words. *nodnod*

Maybe I'm just bolder BEFORE I'm emotionally invested in someone - I do not care what a stranger thinks of me, but I do care what my nearest and dearest love thinks of me! I fear rejection more from my Libra (even after all this time!) than I do from a total stranger who sits there looking like a millionaire playboy GQ model! I can initiate a conversation with a stranger MUCH easier than I can initiate a text conversation while my Libra is at work!

SO... she MAY pounce you eventually... We Pisces women (several of us, actually! Some of the guys too!) went over this "thing" we all seem to share in a thread awhile back... our borderline total inability to *initiate* anything most of the time (calling you, texting you, POUNCING you)... we found we all seem to feel like we're "bothering" you when we call or text or initiate sex out of the blue.. most of us need some kind of sign or feedback from YOU, to know you're feeling open to it right then, otherwise we kinda freeze up, and wait until we KNOW you'd welcome the attention. We GIVE BACK, and we RECIPROCATE, but it's SO HARD for us to INITIATE. (It's been driving my Libra NUTS forever and ever!) He learned to NOT say, "I wouldn't MIND if you would text me first while I'm at work tonight."... I haaaaate "MIND".. MIND is not WANT! It's a million miles from WANT! ... He had to say, "I would LOVE you to text me first while I'm at work tonight. I LOVE getting texts from you out of the blue!".... so that allowed my (bold, brazen) Aries Venus to be able to initiate (WOO - HOT!) on occasion with him, though generally speaking, my Pisces "BOTHERING ISSUE" usually wins, and I don't initiate.. I merely remain warm and open and inviting to his initiations.

What worked best for me: He said, "You know how much YOU like it when I just grab you up and TAKE you, no words, just passion flaring out of control? Now flip it around.. imagine how much *I* would like you to do that to ME! Imagine how wanted and desired I would feel if you just jumped me because you couldn't control it anymore!" Mmmm yesss.. and the dirty girl always always always wants to blow his mind. When you reach this point, the one where she's not initiating with you.. you'll know she's starting to feel more for you... and you will have to let her know the things that would absolutely drive you wild... cuz then she'll wanna do them! 😉

What You're Like:
If your Venus is in Aries, you thrive on initiating new relationships, and don't shy from making bold propositions. There's an innocence to your invitations that softens the reserve of more guarded types. Your lust for life is contagious, but not everyone can live at your pace. You guard your independence, and would never do or say anything for the sake of the relationship. Others respect you because you stay true to yourself no matter what.

In Love and Romance:
As a Venus in Aries person, you have fiery passions that easily inflame around attractive potential lovers. You'll pursue a love interest ardently, and in extreme cases, this zeal leads you into fly-by-night marriages. Your impulsiveness gets you in trouble, because you lose interest just as quickly. You don't like anything too settled, preferring some tension in the relationship. For you, combat gets the blood pumping, including mental sparring. You'll flee from a passive partner, or a bond that has lost its luster. Bottom line is that you need challenge, and constant stimulation.

Friendship style :
You like to be the alpha of any clique, and pulls it off by being generous, exciting and just so darn self-assured. You're the one that pushes the experimental envelope, and comes back to share tales of your exploits. You're blunt, which means you won't lie and tell friends they look good all the time. You admire strong, independent types, and seem to get nauseous around self-pity, insecurity, etc. If a friend is nursing an emotional wound, you'll instinctively serve up some tough love. Your honesty makes you trustworthy, since people always know where you stand.

Creative Expression:
Venus in Aries make great actors since they naturally engage in a spontaneous, direct way. You emerge as leaders in pursuits that require collaboration, like theatre, filmmaking or music. One conduit of your creativity is through fashion and your social life in general. The presentation of Self becomes an art form in your hands.

The Big Attraction:
You earn admiration because of your independence, self-confidence and vitality. You are a lusty person, and that itself is sexually attractive. You have an alive physicality and activity level that gets attention. What makes you irresistible is that you're not talking about doing whatever it is, you're doing it.

Winning your Heart:
This is a tricky one because any pre-planning will have to be tossed out the window during the wild ride with a Venus in Aries. You want people to be real, and not play games. You want people to be direct and don't say things they don't mean. You like to lead, but crave dynamism in a partner. Your ideal partner is igniting their own passions and staying interested in their own life. You don't want to analyze the relationship, or be expected to read minds.

source: http://astrology.about.com/od/astrologyandrelationships/p/VenusAries.htm<BR>

^^i posted that because someone has recently peaked my interest. part of me is just going with the flow. the other part of me is saying, i want to do things differently. i don't want to fall into the trap that i've always fallen into in the past and that's losing interest when the newness and excitement goes away.

this is definitely a difficult placement. aries doesn't belong in this planet at all. and then it's complicated because i read, "look to mars for more insight." meaning, if my mars were in a more feminine sign i guess this would "fix" me?

well my mars is in aries. my f'ing mercury is in aries. my saving grace is my sun and ascendant and both these positions are a little emotarded too. i am baffled by the type of partner i truly need.

hopefully this time i'm taking to be introspective works 😛

pfft...moon is in aries not mercury 😛

😛 he's like 12. doesnt know where to put his venus.

Posted by fourthwallbreaker
Yo, Venus in Aries Hoezzz (I only say this because it rhymes).
Tips please.


😛

You don't need any tips 🙂

So i have Venus in Aries in the 10th house...and i get soo bored in Relationships it's ridiculous..i want to have a relationship and im really over the serial dating..but it's almost like im addicted to that new feeling that you get when you meet someone new and start dating. I'm always thinking the grass is greener on the otherside and dont realize that i can't go back and change things once i make these rash, impulsive decisions involving my relationships with the opposite sex.

I meet these amazing guys that i really begin to like but when they are not around i tend to get so caught up in the moment and can find myself flirting with someone new even though i know it's wrong!!! i don't realize or think about it at the time..it's not till later after ive given so and so my number that i think wtf was i thinking why did i do that..i like ---------(guy of the month)------ LoL it's horrible and i dont want to be like this forever!!! HELP! is there anyone else like me?? can anyone offer suggestions—

the only "real" relationship ive had and been truely in love,was a 4 year relationship with my son's father he was 10 years older than me ADD, Bipolar..his saturn/mars was conjunct my sun and i never got bored with him because his behavior was so erratic..but the same thing that attracted me to him, pushed me away from him i couldnt count on him and there was no security and im a 10th house taurus sun security is important to me..

Am i doomed to only be in turbulant relationships because of the excitment? i really do want a "normal" relationship!..but it seems whenever ive had one i get bored and ruin things.i dated a great virgo guy and a libra both for about 8 months and got bored! so ruined things...but now i realize what a great thing i had with the both of them and wish i could go back but know that i cant!

source: http://www.sasstrology.net/forum/topics/does-anyone-else-with-venus-in?xg_source=activity<BR>



^tau sun/ViA

ack! and she's aries moon too!

the funny thing is, i don't trust myself around the opposite sex when i'm involved with someone. if i'm not in a relationship, no big deal. i am very selective. when in a relationship though, i'm almost more flirtatious. far more confident in a sense. i've on semi-sorta-not-cheated once so it's not to step outside of the relationship. in a way, i feel freer to flirt because i know it's not going to lead anywhere. kinda pisses my SO off i'm sure but eh...

^slut

Kinda true! Im venus in aries..who happened to be a gemini ..make that extra cold hhahaha

if you have trouble with the preview...

http://books.google.com/books?id=6KMLP7buffMC&pg=PA99&lpg=PA99&dq=&#37; 22venus+in+aries+with+venus+in+aries% 22&source=bl&ots=W7rqQmDBpN&sig=D3R_OEX878A1-W2sjigfyHNsFuY&hl=en&ei=Y9ABTMusCcX7lweI64mhCA&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=2&ved=0CBcQ6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=% 22venus% 20in% 20aries% 20with% 20venus% 20in% 20aries% 22&f=false">google book result

you should see most of the venus/mars in aries combos. if that doesn't work...

google -- "both" venus in aries

^exactly as it is in bold

if the above doesn't work (sometimes if you don't search for it directly, won't work)....

google book search

the above is from "The Complete Book of Astrology page 115" -- it should show in the results.

yeah, uber AWESOME!

love when my section is available 🙂

Heehehehee Fourthwall, gotta lurve the Ne-Yo.