Loving an Aquarius......

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rochelle2008
@rochelle2008
17 Years

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My boyfriend of 5 years on and off broke off our relationship again?he's an Aquarius, which is a very difficult sign to deal with when it comes to being in a relationship. We are very much compatible and we love each other very much, so I thought. We break up to make up it seems every single year because he gets scared and wants to run away and then realizes what we share is great and then comes back? this time it was very hard for me, it caught me off guard totally and he did what he always does, leave. We went from him telling me to stop working and go back to school and that he would take care of everything to it's over and I need time! All the while telling me he loves so much and every time we see each other now, he expresses how much he loves me and thinks of me on the daily?.. he said he had to leave me because he didn't feel he was the man he needed to be in the relationship?.. he says he loves everything about me and we both have never loved another the way we love each other?.. It's only been 3 months, it hurts every time I talk to him, every time I see him?. he acts as if all is good and I can't handle that? not to mention every time we break up he ends up sleeping with someone?. he's not emotional at all and anyone that knows an Aquarius probaly share that same thought?. I can't understand how he claims to be working on himself to better himself but can still sleep around? I'm being told that it's very much possible and that I shouldn't worry about that?. How can he love me so much but always just so willing to give up on us? If he really loves me can he just up and walk away with no regrets? It was a 5year relationship that we were very much into each other, whenever he got stressed or overwhelmed, he self distruct and ran away! Every time. I always want to reach out, text him, call him, tell him to come get the rest of his stuff, knowing I don't want that! He ignores my text when I say that or if i'm getting emotional, he'll ignore me totally. How do I deal with this? Do I let go? If so, how?

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Ask yourself these questions

1- are your needs being met in this relationship?
2- are you having fun?
3- is he there for you when you need him?
4- do you feel safe with him - meaning being able to share your thoughts, feelings and emotions with him and he listening to you with acceptance?
5- When he says he "loves" you do you honestly believe he means it?
6- Do his actions match his words?
7- Does he respect you?
8- Do you trust him?

If you answer YES to all of the above - you are in a wonderful relationship, continue and enjoy many more years together.

If you answered NO - cut off contact, have time to yourself to figure out what it is within you that keeps you in an "unhealthy" relationship and then seek to make healthy changes for you.